Boy, you just seem to go from one drama to another. Jesus, the wife's lawyer is going to be giving you a call! You are not responsible for this, that man was gay long before now. You didn't turn him gay, also hon -he contacted YOU! You didn't go to his house and drag him kicking and screaming to your love shack and bugger him. Relax, the person the wife will be most angry with will be herself for wasting her life, and probably involving kids in the mix, when I am sure the signs were plain he wasn't 'that into her'.