Author Topic: Do I get extra abuse??? (Read 1971 times)

cleojones · « **on:** 22 July 2019, 05:47:34 pm »

I wanted to discuss the topic of getting extra amount of sexual abuse from guys. I used to think its because of the job so I am just trying to get feedback. I get treated a lot like "Pussy", I dont know how I should handle this.

EvelynWho · « **Reply #1 on:** 22 July 2019, 06:02:20 pm »

Do you mean from clients or from people outside of work? Verbal or physical abuse?

Sad either way sorry you’re feeling like this. Has it maybe just been a bad patch making you feel like it’s always this way? :/ xx

regieeee · « **Reply #2 on:** 23 July 2019, 10:21:37 am »

Would you care to explain a little more as regards to "sexual abuse", OP?

Are you fairly "new" in the game?

Or, this "trend" has started, lately?
Have you told them how you felt?

Some of them think you are enjoying it.
But there are "boundary ignorers" that are essentially numpties.

BangerRacing · « **Reply #3 on:** 24 July 2019, 02:54:56 pm »

I give off a subliminal air that I'm not someone to be messed with on my profile. I keep it professional but to the point of what I will not tolerate boundary wise, either in the main blurb or FAQs.

Maybe your adverts make you look like you're extremely accommodating...

NUM have a link to a sex worker friendly specialist counselors list, if you need to work on your interpersonal boundaries.

katrina · « **Reply #4 on:** 24 July 2019, 10:33:51 pm »

I think I know what the OP means...Being treated like a sexual object instead of a person. A prime example of this I just had someone message me about a booking for next week, he went to great lengths to tell me that he only 'chose' me purely because of my, his words 'fortunate bust size' I first gave him benefit of doubt and ignored his silly comment and asked him what day/time/length of booking he was looking for. He then replied that he wasn't sure of the day but maybe 2 bookings (one each day) and am I happy with "entire meet focusing on my boobs ie, titwanks etc" I politely declined and wished him luck in finding somebody to suit his needs.

He carried on messaging trying to convince me to accept him, saying that he specifically searches adultwork for that type of service. At that point I just blocked. Nowhere on any of my ads does it say I like/offer breast play!!

So yes, sadly there are creeps that look upon escorts as walking vaginas/tits on legs, rather than real people with thoughts and feelings. The only thing to do is to block at the first sign of this idiotic behaviour.

Hazzard · « **Reply #5 on:** 25 July 2019, 01:57:03 am »

Quote from: katrina on 24 July 2019, 10:33:51 pm

I think I know what the OP means...Being treated like a sexual object instead of a person. A prime example of this I just had someone message me about a booking for next week, he went to great lengths to tell me that he only 'chose' me purely because of my, his words 'fortunate bust size' I first gave him benefit of doubt and ignored his silly comment and asked him what day/time/length of booking he was looking for. He then replied that he wasn't sure of the day but maybe 2 bookings (one each day) and am I happy with "entire meet focusing on my boobs ie, titwanks etc" I politely declined and wished him luck in finding somebody to suit his needs. He carried on messaging trying to convince me to accept him, saying that he specifically searches adultwork for that type of service. At that point I just blocked. Nowhere on any of my ads does it say I like/offer breast play!!

So yes, sadly there are creeps that look upon escorts as walking vaginas/tits on legs, rather than real people with thoughts and feelings. The only thing to do is to block at the first sign of this idiotic behaviour.

You know when they come with exaggerated garbage they are fantasists... I had one ring me the other day saying he wanted to book a weekend and how rich he was and he only ever wore designer ect ect. He then started sending me pics of cars he supposedly owned which he found in Google with the link showing .. then dropped in the convo he had a Aston Martin ( I knew he was bullshiter at this stage). So I asked him to confirm which weekend he wanted to book. He gave me a date and when I asked for a deposit lo behold it never turned up. I knew from beginning hence why I nipped it the bud pretty early on about the deposit.

Back to the ops questions. Yes there always wa*kers who think we are fuck machines and have no feeling or emotion. Just take it on the chin OP and block the morons.

Kay · « **Reply #6 on:** 25 July 2019, 02:28:03 am »

Do you mean extra abuse for being an escort over a civvy, or that you get more abuse than other escorts? It's difficult to know, because I guess we all have different boundaries and experiences.

What I will say is perhaps you need to improve your screening? Anyone who sends a stupid or rude email or text is ignored. Anyone who sounds like a moron or a creep on the phone, I say I'm busy and then mark them as 'NO!' in my phone directory - and I always insist on a phone call before confirming any booking.

Once they actually arrive, I think you can control the situation to some extent by your manner - be warm and friendly, but confident.

regieeee · « **Reply #7 on:** 25 July 2019, 01:58:50 pm »

The OP must be busy. . . .

jellib33 · « **Reply #8 on:** 26 July 2019, 03:11:17 am »

Yeah I so kind of see that for example when people try to get to know you and etc. it seems that they will always objectify you. For me, it's almost like I get shut down simply for being myself. Quite sick of it, but the other way would be to be one of those escorts who go on those long dates and etc. And those take a lot of emotional effort so sigh. Yes, I think a lot of men have this complex, almost like they want to control you? It's really annoying and makes me worried for any relationship I will ever have, starting to think it's best to be alone

regieeee · « **Reply #9 on:** 26 July 2019, 11:11:18 am »

I saw an article on the "trend" of the extreme sexual violence (erotic sexual strangulation) on the paper.
I thought of this thread title. Maybe, it wasn't what the OP meant, though. . .

Apparently, it is only in the UK, where strangling is considered a relatively minor offence.

cleojones · « **Reply #10 on:** 28 July 2019, 11:54:53 am »

Yes I GET TREATED NOT AS A PERSON BUT A SEXUAL OBJECT, huh, that would to euphemise, I said: PUSSY.
Now I said if you think that it has something to do with the job.

Now, I dont lie, I manipulate guys off sex a lot, and I like being sexy and I flaunt it, but my private life and prostitution are 2 DIFFERENT THINGS.

I guess it starts I try to get something from a guy knowing he's hungry for sex and then maybe I let him cross too many boundaries.
Like, i know guys are sex obsessed, but I own it and use it to my advantage.

cleojones · « **Reply #11 on:** 28 July 2019, 12:00:49 pm »

Quote from: regieeee on 25 July 2019, 01:58:50 pm

The OP must be busy. . . .

Why

Kay · « **Reply #12 on:** 28 July 2019, 12:55:39 pm »

Quote from: cleojones on 28 July 2019, 11:54:53 am

Yes I GET TREATED NOT AS A PERSON BUT A SEXUAL OBJECT, huh, that would to euphemise, I said: PUSSY.
Now I said if you think that it has something to do with the job.

Now, I dont lie, I manipulate guys off sex a lot, and I like being sexy and I flaunt it, but my private life and prostitution are 2 DIFFERENT THINGS.

I guess it starts I try to get something from a guy knowing he's hungry for sex and then maybe I let him cross too many boundaries.
Like, i know guys are sex obsessed, but I own it and use it to my advantage.

Do you mean by civvy dates or clients?

regieeee · « **Reply #13 on:** 30 July 2019, 09:25:44 am »

Your feelings are valid.
It's just the nature of people.

Best to tell them if that happened.
Don't put up with it.
All the best. . .

See also the main SAAFE.info site for more Support And Advice For Escorts

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