Lol..I hope you aren't worried about it!! It's just the same as the differences between some boyfriends..i've had some that would shower me with pretty baubles, told me I look lovely in my pyjamas and generally been sweeties..Ive had some that wouldn't buy me a bag of chips and ask me to split the petrol on a date. Some people are just generous and thoughtful...and others think they are giving you more than enough when they give you your fee. (or willie, in the boyfriend case)

 I think sometimes we are in danger of concentrating too much on the dark side...as Emily said, some are lovely. Quite a lot of them really!

I guess I shouldn't complain but I don't really understand it. Do you guys have any idea what motivates very nice clients. Not just men that show up, pay you, and respect your time, but ones that give gifts and compliment you all the time. Not needy, just nice. Why do they do this?

It's called sanity. Some men just know what they want, and how to get it, and they're emotionally secure in their decision to do so.

Aww. I see a couple of disabled clients, the only people they see is their carer and me on a day to day basis. And they always get the extra time free time as they are so sweet and respectful. I have a  lot more time for the lonely than the horny!

Well, I haven't gotten any gifts from any clients so far but I've only just begun, but even when/if I do I won't take it to heart - it would be nice and all since I never got any gifts at all from ingrate guys I hooked up for FREE in the past, but I won't fool myself at all into thinking that they care for me, I think it would have more to do with them than me - that they're lonely, looking for some kind of validation, whatnot.

You see, what I've learned from my experience with men is that while they may be/act nice to you, that doesn't (necessarily) mean they give a whit about you. What really drove that home for me is during a visit to my bf I fell and got injured, money is tight for him but yet he paid for the treatment I had there (200 euros), he was so concerned about me. He proved he loved me through his actions in an unfortunate situation and I never forgot that and that's why I'm with him even though he probably would be viewed as being a 'loser'.

NOW, when I got home  and needed further medical care, I contacted a few guys who I was seeing, these were guys who I was with a few to several times no strings attached booty call for FREE and who I was very good to, I told them of my situation and that I could do with some help with my medical bills. GUESS WHAT? I never got a penny from those bastards - proving to me once and for all NEVER again to give my company and sex to any man for free who doesn't give a damn about me because if and when I do need help they won't be there for me. These men were just fair weather lovers, only there for the fun good times but when there's an unfortunate situation they were gone like the wind, busy all of a sudden, conveniently silent and I will never forget that lesson.

Well, I dunno, I'm not sure I'd assume that someone you've had sex with really owes you anything. If I'd had ever any random free shags I wouldn't be calling those guys asking for money for medical bills. If you need a support network around you to help you with life's crises then isn't that the whole point of cultivating a group of awesome friends? Which I'll admit is a helluva lot harder than just asking a guy if he'd like a BJ but it's also a lot more rewarding.

The great thing about sex work (when done safely and carefully - can I emphasise that enough? ) is that the rules are laid out in front of both parties by the existence of the cash transaction. Nobody expects anything from anybody except what's been agreed. I dunno, but it's vaguely worrying that someone might be going into sex work because they feel like men owe her for past events (which they weren't even involved in). Sex is just sex, and can be a useful thing to do when you'd like to make some money, but if it's happening outside a real, intimate relationship then it doesn't have to come hand-in-hand with anything else whatsoever. Clients don't owe us presents, visits, commitment/fidelity, anything. Sex work will only bring you money, not a group of supporters to look after you (unless you cultivate some pretty impressive relationships but even then, it would be based on services rendered rather than because anyone owes anyone a favour). On the plus side, when both parties get what they agreed on, nobody ends up being a sucker or fool.

This job requires a balanced mindset and a clear head at all times. Midori, do you have anyone who you can trust and talk to about your decision to start doing sex work? And did you have a look at the buddy section of this forum? It would be great if you could find someone for mutual support and whatnot!