Author Topic: Dealing with client turning up after you blocked them (Read 1717 times)

FayeInLondon · « **on:** 12 August 2023, 04:13:51 pm »

I stopped seeing a regular client because he was getting too attached to me, he wants a relationship with me. He recently got a new number and actually made a booking, which he turned up to. I ignored his messages on his original number. I was shocked he would do that, I turned him away and I cancelled so many potential bookings. Why do they think it’s okay to lie and get a new number pretending to be someone else? As if I would want to see him again after doing that… I am more pissed off.

He asked why won’t I speak to him anymore… and if he should send me some money for wasting my time. I just ignore him and told him to get out because I was too shocked. I’m worried he is going to do it again… he kept saying “you’re not going to see me anymore after this?” Should I text him a message to not message me anymore rather than nothing at all? As I didn’t actually give him a reason. Isn’t no response a response ? I didn’t want to have to explain myself

cherryfcuk · « **Reply #1 on:** 12 August 2023, 05:05:22 pm »

This is harassment, if he gets in contact again just threaten him with the police that usually gets them to back off.

If a regular man off the street was attempting to do he same I’m sure any woman would get the police involved client or not. It’s breaking boundaries.

ana30 · « **Reply #2 on:** 12 August 2023, 05:22:50 pm »

"Dear John,

I'm an escort, I get paid for companionship and as much as I like to keep friendly relations with my clients I make sure they stay professional, ours has crossed a boundary and I no longer feel comfortable seeing you, I don't want to engage in further explanations as I don't have them, I also don't want you to contact me anymore by phone or email. Any harassment will be dealt with accordingly. Wish you well, Fay.

You don't owe him anymore than this (and you're already being generous). I believe a message to let him know you wish no contact is very important because if you ever need to press harassment charges this is the first thing the cops will ask you "did you explicitly told him not to contact you anymore?". If after this he continues then save all the messages, record calls and go to the police.

Mirror · « **Reply #3 on:** 12 August 2023, 05:24:06 pm »

Quote from: ana30 on 12 August 2023, 05:22:50 pm

"Dear John,

I'm an escort, I get paid for companionship and as much as I like to keep friendly relations with my clients I make sure they stay professional, ours has crossed a boundary and I no longer feel comfortable seeing you, I don't want to engage in further explanations as I don't have them, I also don't want you to contact me anymore by phone or email. Any harassment will be dealt with accordingly. Wish you well, Fay.

You don't owe him anymore than this (and you're already being generous). I believe a message to let him know you wish no contact is very important because if you ever need to press harassment charges this is the first thing the cops will ask you "did you explicitly told him not to contact you anymore?". If after this he continues then save all the messages, record calls and go to the police.

Yes I agree this is all that's needed, I actually think the definition of harassment is a 'course of action that would normally be expected to cause the recipient distress' or something like that. I don't think a warning has to be given but is in my experience usually helpful when reporting to the police.

One More Rodeo · « **Reply #4 on:** 14 August 2023, 01:08:24 am »

Quote from: cherryfcuk on 12 August 2023, 05:05:22 pm

This is harassment, if he gets in contact again just threaten him with the police that usually gets them to back off.

I second this.
Message him explicitly saying that you don't want to see him ever again and don't want to be contacted in any way. (You will need this message as evidence - to show that you told him to leave you alone.)
Keep any evidence if he continues to make contact. Keep any information (phone numbers etc) that could identify him.

No means no. You don't need to give him any explanations.
Police takes stalking and harassment seriously. Ugly Mugs are very helpful.

Sue69 · « **Reply #5 on:** 14 August 2023, 08:17:47 am »

No means No is hugely important in any relationship, most of us will have finished with a partner and need to break the connection, with a client the threat of Police action should make it a lot easier and services like clienteye offer another way to deter clients.

FayeInLondon · « **Reply #6 on:** 31 August 2023, 10:03:33 am »

I have just had this again with a client I’ve seen before, but he didn’t get as far as turning up. He used a different number but used his same name, nationality and age. It’s clear it’s him because he was texting me the other day from another number. I feel like saying ‘please do not message me from multiple numbers, if I haven’t replied to you on your other number it is for a reason’. Is it too harsh? It’s getting on my nerves - maybe I’ll even need to put it on my profile!

Sue69 · « **Reply #7 on:** 05 September 2023, 08:14:17 am »

Quote from: ana30 on 12 August 2023, 05:22:50 pm

"Dear John,

I'm an escort, I get paid for companionship and as much as I like to keep friendly relations with my clients I make sure they stay professional, ours has crossed a boundary and I no longer feel comfortable seeing you, I don't want to engage in further explanations as I don't have them, I also don't want you to contact me anymore by phone or email. Any harassment will be dealt with accordingly. Wish you well, Fay.

You don't owe him anymore than this (and you're already being generous). I believe a message to let him know you wish no contact is very important because if you ever need to press harassment charges this is the first thing the cops will ask you "did you explicitly told him not to contact you anymore?". If after this he continues then save all the messages, record calls and go to the police.

Ignoring him can be taken as ambiguous, this response lays down a clear marker and thereafter you don't respond to any contact/ If the harrasment continues, you have evidence that you said NO.

Mirror · « **Reply #8 on:** 05 September 2023, 09:20:18 am »

Quote from: Fayeinlondon on 31 August 2023, 10:03:33 am

I have just had this again with a client I’ve seen before, but he didn’t get as far as turning up. He used a different number but used his same name, nationality and age. It’s clear it’s him because he was texting me the other day from another number. I feel like saying ‘please do not message me from multiple numbers, if I haven’t replied to you on your other number it is for a reason’. Is it too harsh? It’s getting on my nerves - maybe I’ll even need to put it on my profile!

Did you tell him you don't want to accept another booking from him?

See also the main SAAFE.info site for more Support And Advice For Escorts

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