Please forgive the dumb question, but what is the best way to use a strap on on a bloke for the first time? I use the electrastim products and have quite a range of them and have got the strap on and harness.. its not a light item i must admit!! so please ladies, what is the best way to use a strap on , on abloke who hasnt had it done to them before but has had anal toys used on them?

Do you do it like a bloke would do to a woman? start of slow then pick up the pace a bit? do you ram it in like a bloke might sometimes do? i am assuming you take it slow and easy and be guided by them? Any help would be appreciated.

Thanks in advance

Steph.

OH no do not ram it in  or he may scream and turn around and thump you!
no, it is best in my experience to use a covered finger first to gently relax his bum
and use your judgement as to whether he is physically ready for something slightly
larger. If so then a slim anal plug or the slim end of anal beads, gently going in further
as the beads get thicker and thicker.

After this is pleasing him then move on to the strap on. If the strap on is not too huge
(my own is the size of an average cock, around 6inches and medium thickness) but the
most vital thing is to very gradually insert the end and then slowly move in and out until
he can take more and more.
The man is the only person who can really tell you what is the best way for him.  I find the
tricky part is getting the right angle for penetration. Trial and error is the way to get it right.

An alternative way is to lie on your back and let him lower himself onto the strap on. He is then
in control of the speed and how much he takes.

Having said all of the above, I have met guys who just want to be invaded! They come to me
already opened up and waiting to be vigorously done! 

How big's the one you've got?

Haha I don't know why, but my mind is lurking in the gutter today and that just looks so dirty...

Strap on...as advised above; just communicate so he's comfy, and don't get carried away...

I prefer using a strap-on doggy style, less messy and easy and I use it gently and slowly (with some dirty talk) as that area is a very tender area and I'm sure one gets more pleasure when it's not hurting lol. Gentle impact on the prostate gives more please unless if one prefers it rough.

Having different sizes of strap-ons also helps, small (slim jim) medium, large. Careful with your heavy strap-on hon might be straining your back a bit.

Thanks. A good size, but the weight's because it's metal (and not something like aluminium)? You need to be a bit more careful with ones that don't bend, or you can end up doing damage.

Using condoms on them makes them easier to clean, as well as stopping any cross-contamination from one person to another.

I've only used a strap on twice and did the gently paced thing which worked well but was unsure after insertion of how intense to use it? I thought that I'd go with what he wanted but the man wanted it hard and fast and I felt unsure as I was worried about doing him damage.

Also whilst on this topic can anyone give advice for the best way to prepare to recieve anal? One becoming/ regular client does all the right things and so I'm okay with him but I'm nervous about agreeing with other people - also squeemish about the poo aspect - any tips? I think I'd rather be able to offer anal than french kissing as that really upset me the other week and for me offering anal is just a practicalities/technical based resistance.

am i thinking correctly, that when anal is being done to you, you should push slightly as if you were going to have a poo when they first enter?

good tip, il have to try that!