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TantricTease

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Unsure about this client, what to do?
« on: 21 August 2019, 05:22:45 pm »
So about 4 weeks ago I had a booking for a half hour, Guy was absolutely fine and he was done within 15 mins and left happy.  A few hours after the booking he then texts me saying that the booking was amazing, but next time could I wear stockings, and I just texted back that that was fine and that I’d see him later.

The trouble is is that he has texted me everyday since then and I’m worried that he is going to be a stalker, I get that he liked the booking but ffs can’t he take a hint, I don’t want to see him again as he was getting personal in the texts when I had to cancel our next meet (I let him book after that one time but had to cancel) due to the person whose flat I use, letting me down, and I told the guy this and then he started messaging about how the person with the flat was taking the piss out of me and had no respect blah blah blah, I get that I shouldn’t have told him the ins and outs of the incall place but just because I couldn’t see him then he was suggesting that I got a hotel etc, etc, and I’m thinking to myself that there is lots of girls on Adultwork and why does he really need to see me again, there was one day I kept ignoring his calls and texts and so he opened up an AW account just to email me, as it has the date and time of when the AW account is opened then this is how I knew he had purposely opened it to email me as he emailed 1 minute after opening it.

Does this guy seem like stalker material to you girls? I have a bad feeling about him but I’m worried about telling him that I don’t want to see him, I’ve blocked him on AW but don’t have a phone that allows this, I always think he’d just use another number anyway and I wouldn’t recognise his voice I don’t think.  I just think that he should’ve given up on me by now but and seen other girls and it’s worrying that he hasn’t! Help xxx
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Re: Unsure about this client, what to do?
« Reply #1 on: 21 August 2019, 06:37:51 pm »
Quote from: TantricTease on 21 August 2019, 05:22:45 pm
So about 4 weeks ago I had a booking for a half hour, Guy was absolutely fine and he was done within 15 mins and left happy.  A few hours after the booking he then texts me saying that the booking was amazing, but next time could I wear stockings, and I just texted back that that was fine and that I’d see him later.

The trouble is is that he has texted me everyday since then and I’m worried that he is going to be a stalker, I get that he liked the booking but ffs can’t he take a hint, I don’t want to see him again as he was getting personal in the texts when I had to cancel our next meet (I let him book after that one time but had to cancel) due to the person whose flat I use, letting me down, and I told the guy this and then he started messaging about how the person with the flat was taking the piss out of me and had no respect blah blah blah, I get that I shouldn’t have told him the ins and outs of the incall place but just because I couldn’t see him then he was suggesting that I got a hotel etc, etc, and I’m thinking to myself that there is lots of girls on Adultwork and why does he really need to see me again, there was one day I kept ignoring his calls and texts and so he opened up an AW account just to email me, as it has the date and time of when the AW account is opened then this is how I knew he had purposely opened it to email me as he emailed 1 minute after opening it.

Does this guy seem like stalker material to you girls? I have a bad feeling about him but I’m worried about telling him that I don’t want to see him, I’ve blocked him on AW but don’t have a phone that allows this, I always think he’d just use another number anyway and I wouldn’t recognise his voice I don’t think.  I just think that he should’ve given up on me by now but and seen other girls and it’s worrying that he hasn’t! Help xxx

Yes I've had this and it's distressing, firstly what I do is advise I can't sustain that level of contact, second if he continues I advise cannot accept any future bookings if he continues. Third I then ask him to cease contact, don't book, don't text if he does you'll consider it harassment and go to the police. I might block at this point. If he does continue then I contact the police and seek advice.

Might be useful to contact the other women he's booked, see what he's been like with them - they may think they are the only one too.
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Re: Unsure about this client, what to do?
« Reply #2 on: 21 August 2019, 06:41:03 pm »
I would stop all sort of communication and just ignore him or even block him. if he continues tell him youll give his number to the police and report him for harrasement
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TantricTease

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« Reply #3 on: 21 August 2019, 07:43:58 pm »
Mirror I don’t know who else he has booked because he literally opened up an AW account to email me and obviously had zero feedback, I may do a warning but then there’s part of me that is thinking that because I’m not telling him not to contact me then it’s not quite harassment yet, I just think that if I were him then I totally would have given up on me by now!

I forgot to mention that one night he called me when I was unavailable and I hadn’t put my phone off and I replied to his text saying that I was unavailable, to which he replied ‘aww come on, let me be a special customer and see me now’, this is after one booking...he definitely warrants a booking, I have been in this job long enough to trust my instinct so it makes sense, I also remember his AW user name.  I’ll post one in a bit after my tea.
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« Reply #4 on: 21 August 2019, 10:17:40 pm »
Yes he's a stalker. I'd also block out my diary so he doesn't book via AW. I'd agree if he keeps bugging you he deserves a single, final warning saying you'll report to the police. Keep all the mails and texts as evidence. I threatened a client with this and he behaved for a year. I'd agree not wise to discuss even lightly, business, co-workers, landords with clients, even regulars. Even if they aren't unbalanced it allows them to see that window into your life. In his twisted mind he's now your Robert De Niro. If an excuse is needed for someone's unprofessional behaviour try to be vague...diplomatic.

If someone texts when I'm unavailable I turn the phone off. No need to read or reply.
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Re: Unsure about this client, what to do?
« Reply #5 on: 21 August 2019, 10:18:23 pm »
Quote from: TantricTease on 21 August 2019, 07:43:58 pm
I forgot to mention that one night he called me when I was unavailable and I hadn’t put my phone off and I replied to his text saying that I was unavailable, to which he replied ‘aww come on, let me be a special customer and see me now’.

I HATE when people text things like that, I’ve been at home with my children and politely replied to a text to let them know I’m unavailable & they’ve replied with similar. It’s like they think we don’t have lives outside of our jobs.

One guy had text on a day I dont work and when I’d told him I’m not available on that day, his reply was to question why I wouldn’t be available. I said “Do people ask you why you don’t work every day?”, he replied “lol suppose not”
DOH!
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« Reply #6 on: 22 August 2019, 01:40:58 am »
Quote from: MWM on 21 August 2019, 10:18:23 pm
I HATE when people text things like that, I’ve been at home with my children and politely replied to a text to let them know I’m unavailable & they’ve replied with similar. It’s like they think we don’t have lives outside of our jobs.

One guy had text on a day I dont work and when I’d told him I’m not available on that day, his reply was to question why I wouldn’t be available. I said “Do people ask you why you don’t work every day?”, he replied “lol suppose not”
DOH!

Oooooh😡😡😡!!

"Because. I. Said. So." Done in my most glacier like voice.

The temerity!!
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Re: Unsure about this client, what to do?
« Reply #7 on: 22 August 2019, 04:35:35 am »
I wouldn't have any discussion with him because if he's not right in the head it might just tick him off. You don't owe him anything or any sort of explanation. I've had a few like this but all you do is don't reply to any texts or calls.. I've dropped a text late at night and said 'sorry I've been busy' that way they know their babbling is'nt priority in my life, but I don't think he even deserves that.

I would just ignore, he will eventually just get bored and piss off but be vigilant incase he just turns up at your Incall (this has happend to me and I went berserk at the client).

I'm not sure why they think after one booking or any booking they are 'special'. I'm like 'pay me, get your services and then piss off'.
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Re: Unsure about this client, what to do?
« Reply #8 on: 22 August 2019, 12:13:22 pm »
Ignore him.
You don't owe him a response.
I would also look at getting another phone that can block, it's really needed. I changed my number around 2 months ago. I have over 100 blocked numbers, haven't even started transfering old blocked numbers lol
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TantricTease

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« Reply #9 on: 22 August 2019, 12:39:25 pm »
Quote from: someonesomewhere on 22 August 2019, 12:13:22 pm
Ignore him.
You don't owe him a response.
I would also look at getting another phone that can block, it's really needed. I changed my number around 2 months ago. I have over 100 blocked numbers, haven't even started transfering old blocked numbers lol

In a way then I don’t want to block the guys that I wouldn’t see again because what if they cottoned on to being blocked and then just got another number? It’s not hard to do and whilst I would recognise some voices then I wouldn’t recognise them all.
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Re: Unsure about this client, what to do?
« Reply #10 on: 22 August 2019, 12:55:36 pm »
Oh yes definitely. Nip it in the Bud now and and do not meet! If you got a hotel just to meet him, he would think himself special and get more obsessed.
I used to be very warm to clients until I  realised its risky. Best be professional and not take any time wasting outside the booking. You wont loose clients by not texting them or keeping contact. In fact, it has the opposite desired effect.. they start getting cheeky asking for more for less. One stalked me for a while..
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Re: Unsure about this client, what to do?
« Reply #11 on: 22 August 2019, 02:35:30 pm »
Get yourself a call /sms blocker app & save your sanity.

The problem is that these types are harder to get rid of if you encourage the unsavory behaviour. You said this went on for 4 weeks & just had 1 day where you ignored him.  ??? You cancelled his appointment because of your venue issues & told him personal details about it. Yet you complain of him asking you personal info..as far as he's concerned you're fair game still.
 
Next time he contacts you, might be a good idea to tell him that receiving & responding to texts are not part of your service. That you are not here to provide free sms chat. If he want an sms service he can go through AW & pay 50p a time...especially since he signed up there...right! That would be something to do from the outset though. Not 4 weeks down the line because he's most probably a delusional, entitled fruit loop, still feeding off his delusion.

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TantricTease

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« Reply #12 on: 22 August 2019, 02:48:57 pm »
Quote from: BangerRacing on 22 August 2019, 02:35:30 pm
Get yourself a call /sms blocker app & save your sanity.

The problem is that these types are harder to get rid of if you encourage the unsavory behaviour. You said this went on for 4 weeks & just had 1 day where you ignored him.  ??? You cancelled his appointment because of your venue issues & told him personal details about it. Yet you complain of him asking you personal info..as far as he's concerned you're fair game still.
 
Next time he contacts you, might be a good idea to tell him that receiving & responding to texts are not part of your service. That you are not here to provide free sms chat. If he want an sms service he can go through AW & pay 50p a time...especially since he signed up there...right! That would be something to do from the outset though. Not 4 weeks down the line because he's most probably a delusional, entitled fruit loop, still feeding off his delusion.


When he has been in touch recently then it’s to book me and he does this via texts and calls and I ignore him and still he persists in contacting me, yes I shouldn’t have told him personal info but he was messaging me quite a fair bit before that and he asked to be ‘a special client’ before this, plus he wanted to be my first booking of the day and I told him straight that if he wants to be the first then he’ll have to book for about 11am as I’m not missing out on money (though I said business) just to accommodate him at 3pm, honestly the cheek of that!

I don’t know where he has gotten this delusion that I’m into him, probably simply by allowing him to book perhaps, or because I was ‘amazing’, it’s my bloody job though but we all know how some of them get.

I may just send him a message if he contacts me again, I’ll say that I’m not comfortable seeing him and if he keeps contacting me then I shall make a report, he may stop once I say to him, you never know.
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Re: Unsure about this client, what to do?
« Reply #13 on: 22 August 2019, 04:04:01 pm »
TantricT
This guy is a pest for whatever reason he's relentlessly bothering you he's beginning to overstep boundaries which is un comfortable
Do block him on aw before he puts any bookings through.
Block his number and you certainly do not need to carry on communication with him at all.
Keep safe
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BangerRacing

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« Reply #14 on: 25 September 2019, 07:32:56 am »
Well there's your first red flag, asking to be "a special client". He's saying to you that he expect special treatment. The first one of the day at 3 pm  ::) another red flag of delusional behaviour. If you pay attention they tell you what they are like from the outset.


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