Hello all, thanks for accepting me into the forum,

My problem is this and I need some advice.

I began escorting as I was struggling with my rent, but I decided to keep my client base small to remain as discrete as possible.

I built up a small collection of regular clients then took my advert down, and up until now they have been great and I've ticked along just fine.

My most frequent guy who provides my most regular income is showing signs of becoming obsessed. He's now taken to texting me far more than he sees me and this week it has been virtually every day. He's also hinting at me doing an overnight with him for far less than I would be willing to.

He's a sweet natured man and I'm sure he would never do anything spiteful, but how do I make it clear he's over stepping the line without losing his business?

It might sound unprofessional but because of the way I've chosen to operate I kind of rely on his bookings as they are multi hour ones and he visits me more frequently than my other few guys. I don't feel comfortable looking for any new clients right now.

Thanks x

I would simply not respond to every text message, but let 4 or 5 accumulate before sending a (single) response. If he moans about it tell him again that you're only part-time, and that you have your phone in a drawer unanswered a lot of the time. If you keep responding you're rewarding his deluded behaviour, and next thing he'll text twice or three times a day. You'll find a way of slowing it down, without losing his custom.

As for the discount, a polite "no" will do the trick. You may even suggest that if he is getting into financial trouble by seeing you, he may want to give it a break for a while (a subtle way of letting him know that he's just a punter to you, while disguising it as 'concern for his financial well-being')

The fact that he is haggling shows he is not the sweet natured guy you think he is.He is trying to manipulate you and there is rarely a happy ending for either party in these situations.He has probably done all this before these guys quite often go for newer or part time girls.Once he realises that you are not willing to jump he will most likely move on anyway.

Relationships can't stay static... they either move forward or they fizzle out. It's nice to be able to coast along on just the regulars you accrued when you were advertising but they will eventually either drop away or they will start to push for more.

It's unlikely that you can salvage this guy. At best, you can put him off for a bit and drag things out a little longer but sooner or later he's going to realise that things won't progress as he'd like them to and then he'll either go away or have a little hissy fit about it.

I have just binned one like this, also don't assume he will be so sweet natured if you reject him. I would tell him you're busy, fully booked, having a week off anything for a few weeks then accept a booking from him and keep it professional, don't reply to all his texts unless they are to arrange a definite booking. I have a guy got too friendly 5 years ago and he still calls most weeks to this day and I never answer.

Maybe put your ads back up for a bit get some new regs? X

I really would consider calling it a day with this guy if he doesn't get the message, as important as his custom seems now if he becomes a problem it won't be worth it in the long run!
I've had a couple of now ex clients that went like this, and it's very hard to take a step back without them becoming bitter and resentful.

I agree you need to cut him loose. I have learnt the hard way it can end badly. Tread carefully. I even sometimes feel to avoid them becoming all angry and vengeful that it's better to say I have become/am becoming too attached to them so need to stop seeing them as need to be strictly professional right now. Then their ego can handle it! Lol

I was planning to cut mine off gently after taking a day to let my irritation subside. Didn't work out that way though unfortunately as instead of getting a chance to calm down he started persistently call me. In the end I had to email him telling him he had crossed too many lines and it was making me incredibly uncomfortable.

I agree you need to cut him loose. I have learnt the hard way it can end badly. Tread carefully. I even sometimes feel to avoid them becoming all angry and vengeful that it's better to say I have become/am becoming too attached to them so need to stop seeing them as need to be strictly professional right now. Then their ego can handle it! Lol

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Glad it worked with this guy but be careful that ego stroking could be encouragement to some