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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Natalia-x on 10 January 2013, 11:28:53 am
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Morning Ladies!
After about a year of careful consideration I have bit the bullet and finally decided to start work as an escort!
I have set up my profile on adultwork and a few other sites this morning (about an hour ago) and have already have two booking requests!
My problem is I am nervous for my first booking!
How did you get over the nerves?
Another question do I tell the client it is my first ever booking or just stroll in with the confidence like it is second nature?
Thanks ladies!! :D
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Morning Ladies!
After about a year of careful consideration I have bit the bullet and finally decided to start work as an escort!
I have set up my profile on adultwork and a few other sites this morning (about an hour ago) and have already have two booking requests!
My problem is I am nervous for my first booking!
How did you get over the nerves?
Another question do I tell the client it is my first ever booking or just stroll in with the confidence like it is second nature?
Thanks ladies!! :D
This reminds me of my first time sat outside the parlor in my good male friend van. I was nervous a lot kind of scared more than any thing about stepping in to the unknown not knowing what to expect. The way I did it was by not thinking about it, just taking things as they come. But an escort booking it's good to show confidence because some cleaver idiots take advantage of the nervous ones picking up on it. Some client told me once there are men who just despise woman. Be on your guard.
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Thanks for this :)
I have my first booking at 1.30 so scary stuff!
The client want picture of pussy sent to him ..is this a normal request?
I have done online dating for months though and have found myself meeting people the same nigth as starting to chat and having sex ! so i just have to think of it as the same thing except getting paid for it! xx
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Hi Natalia and welcome to the forum.
If you have been reading the forum avidly you will know that the guys on AW get notified of newbies on the site so please be aware that when you join you will be inundated with emails and bookings from complete timewasting twats as I call them.
Apart from that they seem to sense the newness and seem to get some perverse fun from humiliating girls and thinking about them waiting "all dressed up" and ready to see them .... just for them not to show.
That is the first thing to look out for. When I joined AW I got over 400 emails in the first couple of days and I think I could count on my one hand which of them wasnt a timewaster. They are also out in force at this time of the year for some reason.
On to your first booking, it is not unusual to have nerves and personally I wouldnt say that it was my first booking unless something happened and they would guess. I find it better to act professional and say nothing. Others may be along shortly to give their views however and as you will know if you have been reading the posts, we do not always agree and there is nothing wrong with that.
Ive just gone and had a squint at your profile and see that you are just doing outcalls. What I would like to remind you of is please ensure you do ALL the security checks before you leave your premises and especially ensure they are on the premises of where they want you to go before you leave home also.
It is a well known thing that guys like to make a booking for an adjacent address and then sit and watch you doing the walk of shame going to the address and getting turned away with a very red face. I know it is childish but many guys have very strange ways of having fun. There is a section on the main site, i think, that tells you all about the security checks to do. You can also do a "search" for yourself and that should throw up ideas for you too.
It isnt unusual either to ask for a deposit for outcalls. The costs of your travels for instance. Others will be able to help you more re deposits for I despise outcalls with a passion and very rarely deal with them. Asking for a deposit will also sort out the wheat from the chaf and may save you going to bogus bookings. It may also however put off genuine guys too who do not want to trust you cos of your newness so this is something you have to weigh up for yourself.
Good Luck.
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Guys who start asking for pix like he has usually turn out to be timewasters. If he has a booking with you in a few hours why would he need a private pic if he was going to be seeing you.
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Thanks for this :)
I have my first booking at 1.30 so scary stuff!
The client want picture of pussy sent to him ..is this a normal request?
I have done online dating for months though and have found myself meeting people the same nigth as starting to chat and having sex ! so i just have to think of it as the same thing except getting paid for it! xx
I never send nude photo's out they only want to wank over. His more than likely wasting time be careful.
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Thanks for this :)
The client want picture of pussy sent to him ..is this a normal request?
No its not normal and not acceptable. I wouldn't bother getting ready.
xx
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Natalia, once you have made a few more posts you will be able to send PMs and receive PMs which will make it easier for you. So get posting girl.
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yeah you ladies were right!1 sent the pics!! Sooo niave ! and then he called to say he was really excited then texted 30 minutes before to cancel!!
Any advice on hw to avoid people who will just cancel?
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Natalia, once you have made a few more posts you will be able to send PMs and receive PMs which will make it easier for you. So get posting girl.
There isn't any reason why Natalia shouldn't be able to use the PM system? Unless somebody else knows something I don't ???.
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First lessons to learn when new to AW: never send photos and never talk about sex on the phone.
It should eliminate a good number of time wasters.
Hope that helps.
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There isn't any reason why Natalia shouldn't be able to use the PM system? Unless somebody else knows something I don't ???.
I was talking about the following message that Emily left online just last week. Has it changed now?
The PM system is unavailable to members with less than 5 proper posts on the forum, unfortunately, due to the risk of advertisers (and worse) registering to spam members.
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yeah you ladies were right!1 sent the pics!! Sooo niave ! and then he called to say he was really excited then texted 30 minutes before to cancel!!
Any advice on hw to avoid people who will just cancel?
Natalia, you will get bookings like that made every week at least and no one is immune from them. Through experience you just learn to know who is a twat and even sometimes the more experienced ladies get it wrong.
I was so sure he would end up a timewaster, that is why I gave you the warning so quickly. I didnt want you to waste your time going out to him.
You were lucky that he actually cancelled. Many dont. They sit in the house next door or across the road and laugh their heads off when the see the WG arriving to a false booking. That is why the safety procedures and checks on the client have to be made before you set off.
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There isn't any reason why Natalia shouldn't be able to use the PM system? Unless somebody else knows something I don't ???.
I was talking about the following message that Emily left online just last week. Has it changed now?
The PM system is unavailable to members with less than 5 proper posts on the forum, unfortunately, due to the risk of advertisers (and worse) registering to spam members.
Well I can see that now (and I must have missed it before) but I had no idea - that should have gone when we brought in the Advertiser usergroup (who cannot send PMs at all) and I've both sent and received PMs from members with no posts at all.
Will investigate - for the record, if anybody is having difficulties with the PM system please let us know (via the SAAFE email address on the main site if necessary) :).
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First lessons to learn when new to AW: never send photos and never talk about sex on the phone.
It should eliminate a good number of time wasters.
Hope that helps.
Good advice and for me personally if I get texts from guys I have never met (which you will) I always text back ' I do not discuss via text please phone' and leave it at that, the serious men will phone you and be reasonably business like about meeting if you don't know them.
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Natalia, you will get so many emails and calls, texts .
With bookings, do speak with the clients before confirming the booking, as you can cancel if you are not happy by the sound of him.
all the ladies on saafe will write very useful information and help you out.
They have a wealth of experience. If in doubt ask, no question is stupid if it helps you out with a situation youre not sure of.
The genuine client speaks properly to you on the phone has read youre profile and calls from a identifyed number.
they will arrive and treat you well, yes its nerve racking for them too. take the buisness side of things first after offering them a soft drink and put youre money somewhere safe,
they need to pay you first not after.
enjoy the time especially if you fancy the client its always a plus.
but saying that not every guy is hot,(shame) some are nice and will treat you right during the booking.
good luck keep safe
Orchid x
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Orchid has brought up a good point. NEVER "confirm" a booking made through AW until it has taken place. That way the guy cannot leave you negative feedback if something according to him goes wrong or if he is simply out to cause trouble. Yes this happens too.
You are best to email the client making the booking. What I do is ask THEM to call ME for they may give you a time to contact them and we have no way if someone could have "come into their company unexpectedly" and they could be embarrassed having to take the call (if they did take it). Simply say something like "I have received your booking for ..............pm on ...... date .............. Please call me ...... (sometime that is suitable for you to take a call) and we can discuss your booking.
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Thanks ladies I really appreciate the replies on this!
Still not had my first booking yet, had a few interested that I have had to turn down for example:
Would you travel to London and stay at mines for two days? Guy had no feedback on AW!
CAn I try and get you pregnant it has always been a fantasy? WHAT?
Sorry for asking so many questions but how can I expect a visit to go from start to finish?
I only do outcalls so how does it go from start to finish?
xx
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There's at least one thread here on first booking experiences. You've done casual sex - it's like that, except that you get paid, before anything sexual happens, and the focus is on their pleasure rather than yours.
AW lets people set up alerts for new people. The predators love that, and you're seeing the results.
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Guy had no feedback on AW!
A good way to help you is to have a look at their profile and see how long they have been on AW. If they have been on AW for a while and no feedback this is a good way to realise they may be wasting your time.
This is just one way, there are a hundred other ways. You just got to decide for yourself.
Have you checked out all the security checks you should do before you even start to get ready to go to a booking?
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maybe we could have a sticky or something for how to spot tw for newbies
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maybe we could have a sticky or something for how to spot tw for newbies
Yep I think that would be good.
I have literally wasted a good couple of hours of my life and gotten ready for appts. when I first started out as I didn't even realise the really obvious guys were fantasists.
There is a thread here somewhere with a lot of this in, but more importantly there's an article on the main site, which not a single person posting on this thread has suggested the OP reads or directed her to with a link (me included, but I'm on my phone and it's not easy to post them). Ditto the stuff about outcalls, and other start up information - it's worth remembering that the forum is just the forum and SAAFE is the actual website.
EDIT: And here it is (http://www.saafe.info/), now I'm back at the computer.