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amy

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Re: Not seeing married/cheating clients
« Reply #45 on: 04 December 2024, 01:04:34 pm »
60% of our client based are married or in long-term relationships.

That's interesting - what's the source of this figure? I'd be keen to know how how the researchers chose who to ask and how they knew they were telling the truth?

Lol I know no-one should care what I think🤣 I thought I picked up a slightly defensive tone from a few of the comments, could be wrong! So just felt the need to clarify I wasn't attacking anyone!

I don't think anyone's been defensive, just a bit frustrated by the sheer futility and hypocrisy of it? Because if you really, truly cared that much about not having sex with someone else's partner without their knowledge and agreement, you wouldn't take the risk at all, paid or unpaid.

What you're saying is that you just want them to do a convincing enough job of kidding you on to make you feel better before you go ahead anyway, regardless of the facts. Which is great because that's exactly what we're paid for, but why not just own it like the rest of us?

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Re: Not seeing married/cheating clients
« Reply #46 on: 05 December 2024, 09:29:29 am »
If you want to reduce the number of married clients, choose outcalls.
Most married people will want incalls.

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Re: Not seeing married/cheating clients
« Reply #47 on: 05 December 2024, 09:40:08 am »
When I was escorting, my outcall work considered largely of married business men, mainly at airport hotels.



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Re: Not seeing married/cheating clients
« Reply #48 on: 05 December 2024, 09:11:51 pm »

I don't think anyone's been defensive, just a bit frustrated by the sheer futility and hypocrisy of it? Because if you really, truly cared that much about not having sex with someone else's partner without their knowledge and agreement, you wouldn't take the risk at all, paid or unpaid.

I disagree, it's fine to want to mitigate the risk of something happening, while still accepting that it may still happen. Isn't that what we do when we screen clients? We know there's a chance we could get an unpleasant client, but we try to mitigate the risk as much as possible. This whole thread was just supposed to be about how I can best mitigate the risk of providing service to married clients.

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Re: Not seeing married/cheating clients
« Reply #49 on: 06 December 2024, 10:29:40 am »
I think this thread ought to be locked.

It just isn't possible to filter men out with partners, for reasons that have already been mentioned.

If men with partners can't be accepted then it doesn't make for a very successful income stream in my opinion.

Something like camming or content creation might be a better option.
There is such a thing as a stupid question

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Re: Not seeing married/cheating clients
« Reply #50 on: 06 December 2024, 11:18:06 am »
I think this thread ought to be locked.

It just isn't possible to filter men out with partners, for reasons that have already been mentioned.

If men with partners can't be accepted then it doesn't make for a very successful income stream in my opinion.

Something like camming or content creation might be a better option.

Some could say they've just finished their relationship, or haven't yet had sex with their new partner, or claim their partner knows is supportive.

If written in adverts I suspect many will just lie. Might however stop the 'I'm married so I'm clean' or 'I'm married I can't pay a deposit' - regards the latter I've found ability to pay deposits and even pay entire booking fee electronically is not necessary related to relationship status.

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Re: Not seeing married/cheating clients
« Reply #51 on: 06 December 2024, 11:36:24 pm »
I think this thread ought to be locked.

I agree, I've had some really helpful feedback, and I don't want the thread to turn into a moral discussion, so maybe locking it before it heads that way might be a good idea😂
I hear all the comments telling me that my ideas basically wouldn't work, and I've had some really good suggestions for more realistic alternatives/compromises to my original ideas. It seems the best I can hope for is to craft my marketing, availability etc. in a way that attracts single clients, and to not continue seeing any clients if I find out they aren't single.
So lots of food for thought in this thread, thank you to all who contributed  :)