My first instinct upon reading this is to think, "Ouch, burnout" - but please don't think I mean anything personal by this, as of course I do not know you personally or anything about the full details of your situation, and of course I am not trying to tell you what to think!

So I'll admit straight-away that I might be well off-track (just ignore this post if so!) but your post sounds to me exactly how I feel during even quite mild burnout. Sometimes burnout is described in quite a jolly fashion as, "Oh, you just need a little holiday!" but I find that the emotions involved can be quite painful and difficult to deal with. Is there a chance you could be working hard despite perhaps feeling that you could do with a whole day (or month!) to yourself? And maybe you could be ignoring this feeling because you don't want to feel lazy/selfish? I know that I hate that random week I get occasionally where I just can't answer my phone or accept bookings and I don't know why; I feel very negative ("How can he expect me to do that for him? Ugh! They all need to keep their penises away from me. Argh! So many needy men. Can't they see their wives for once?!" and so on) but when I realise it is burnout, it's almost always a huge relief. It's not that I've suddenly turned into an evil manhater who can't bear to be touched by anymore pokey, grabby fingers - it's just that I need a little time off to refresh my brain and body. Sure, I bet some women are amazing and never get these feelings, but I do know that it's not at all uncommon!

And basically, in answer to your question, yes - of course I let my clients latch onto my nipples if they want, and finger me if they want; as long as they don't cause any pain, of course, I just throw myself into it and try to be as positively responsive as possible. But... that's when I don't have burnout, and the job seems very fun and rewarding.

It's hard because I could never even manage to be a full-timer at this; more than a few appointments a week and I'm knackered, and more than one a day and I can barely muster a polite smile when I buy the bloody Big Issue. I know this whole post probably sounds really awful and negative but I've always tried to be up-front; I don't take bookings unless I feel really positive (cos otherwise the consequences would be dreadful!) and I never really planned to be a long-term full-time prossie, only to make the most of my experiences and be thankful for the brilliant chance to study and pay my rent at the same time. And I definitely don't think any sort of burnout or low-work-tolerance means that you hate men or clients or any of that sort of thing - it's only a natural tiredness from "giving of yourself" a lot.

And that might all be entirely the wrong sort of answer, so forgive me if it is. You just reminded me of myself at certain times and if this is the case, you must be kind to yourself; it's very important to not try to "push through" and definitely not to blame yourself for anything!

If you're going to let him put his cock inside you, why does it matter if he uses fingers too.

Well, get me in the right mood and I am very happy to have a cock in my arse. But I really, really, really hate fingers there. They're all bony and pointy and some come with sharp fingernails and sometimes in larger numbers than is comfortable. Urgh.

I find fingering (without asking first) and tit sucking especially, really annoying and I don't let customers do this.  Some guys are really peeved at this though, like they have a right to do it.

This is an advantage to doing your own marketing, because you can make it clear in advance that some things are not on offer and others are only possible with gentleness and respect. Like asking first.

You asked about trouble with clients respecting your boundaries some months ago. I remember one reply saying something like "They get told once and the second time, I'm getting dressed, telling them to leave." Re-read the answers to that post?

Plus, yes, if you can take a break at times like this, do so.

  Id you['re going to let him put his cock inside you, why does it matter if he uses fingers too. I don't see much reason to pick these out over others, unless you just don't like them for some reason

No This i do get, guys regularly have this idea of how you make a girl cum is stick your fingers in and go at her like a blender! yes this does hurt and you know what if they hurt me i'll just say and move it on too other things lol The adult industry has alot too answer for in terms of puttig ideas in to men heads and in a way we're no better but does them no harm to teach them some positive truths now and again! lol 

I can say its been such a problem for me though, i have my nipples pierced so its easy to go "careful there naughty" lol
 
I think you just have too learn to be more in control, they're not allowed to hurt you end of the day and if you say nothing most wont realise they are. 

No This i do get, guys regularly have this idea of how you make a girl cum is stick your fingers in and go at her like a blender! yes this does hurt and you know what if they hurt me i'll just say and move it on too other things lol [...]

It's true, isn't it?! And unfortunately, it's almost always the big guys - big hands, big willy, big joyous prodding and thrusting on his part, ouch! Although obviously it's probably only noticeable when the big guys do it so that may be affecting my data slightly. But nonetheless - ouch!

I had to "jokingly" tell an enthusiastic client just yesterday that it felt like I was being fisted because he put two of his fingers right up and was jamming them inside me; of course, I've had enough practice at moving things on quickly to something more mutually enjoyable that it didn't bother me for long, but oooch, I had to stop him also from going too deep in legs-back mish because having my cervix poked hurts quite a lot (although I've heard that for other women the sensation is pleasurable?). But if you're keen to move his attention to something more exciting (and less painful) then he'll almost always quickly follow your lead. Confidence (and practice) is key!

And a few weeks ago I had to keep quite a tight reign on a younger client, close to my age, who kept insisting that he'd "never had any complaints" from girlfriends/hookups. I found it impossible to explain that obviously girlfriends and hookups are horny women who've chosen to have rough sex with you because they're horny and probably already very aroused, while a prossie usually has to work within, um, some practical limits and has a natural fear of being hurt while working (unless pre-arranged and within her services and boundaries). Half the time even if a client were a perfect specimen of manhood, I wouldn't be able to go at him 100% because of natural concerns related to the fact that I am working, he is a client/stranger, etc etc. So anyway, yes, I didn't end up trying to explain much at all - think I just giggled and said something vague about how all laydeez are different inside hee hee moving quickly on to other stuff! - so I apologise if anyone else gets their cervix bruised by him. I should find a nice, polite way to explain these things when necessary, for the benefit of all womankind!

I let them suck my breasts, but just tell them if they are getting too enthusiastic haha! It really gets them horny so you find they cum quicker - which is what you want!

I allow fingering too, but not inside as most of them got too rough when I first did it and I get very sore inside, so just touching and clit rubbing, but again tell them when you're getting too sensitive as clits can get pretty sore after lots of touching! Again if you pretend they're pleasuring you more than they actually are then that gets them off!

No This i do get, guys regularly have this idea of how you make a girl cum is stick your fingers in and go at her like a blender!

This is EXACTLY what I thought when I read the OP.  It never fails to amaze me the amount of guys who seriously think that is how to turn a woman on. Some of them complain that they do not get sex at home (no flipping wonder!), and some say things like "oh baby are you enjoying that?" whilst I wince in pain (inwardly, gritted teeth smile lol).

I used to think it was my 'job' to just deal with the "scrapers" as I call them , but one day after a regular who was seriously thee worst ever for extreme fingering actually made me sore for days despite gallons of lube I decided to be tougher - so now any discomfort I will say (nicely) I like it more slowly or gently, and I never picked up the phone to that guy again   

thanks Ian, I kept trying to play around with it, couldn't get it right.. LOL will remember for future quotes on posts