I just had a call from a withheld number. I do answer these if I'm not busy, but only to say that they need to call back from one I can see.

He said he wanted to ask me some questions. I said no, because he was calling withheld and most people wouldn't even answer the phone. He said he wanted to know if I'd do a threesome, I said he had to call back properly. Then he asked if he could wank down the phone to me.

It made me laugh because withhelds and threesome requests are two classic signs of a wanker.

(After I hung up he called back. I picked up and tried to spoil it for him, but he seemed to be a masochist. Drat.)

Hi Girls.

I also sometimes answer withhelds - it depends what mood I am in and also if not busy !!!! 

It is a difficult one because I have actually had some serious clients from withhelds - first timers who are so desperately frightened to show their number for fear of whatever!!! 

I do, like Anika Mae, say - call back from a showing number and recently some have done. 

But then sometimes I get the saddo who starts talking dirty the minute he hears my voice so I just hang up. 

I also have to confess that when I am in a "Pissed off with timewasters" mood, then I answer the call but dont say anything and therefore dont give them the satisfaction of hearing my voice !  Very childish I know but gratifying too!!!!    But saying that if I hear them saying hello then I might talk to them.
 
A lot of calls from withhelds just hear me say hello and then hang up and that worries me as I think - is it someone I know trying to find out if it's me really working as an escort!!!!

Some guys can be calling from work or home or offices and clearly dont want the number traced and some of these have rung back later. 

It is a difficult one and I am giving some thought now as to what percentage of withhelds I have answered have actually amounted to some serious business - will come back on that one!!!! 

Have a great day girls and thanks for a brilliant website and the best support ever.

Nell xxx

In my opinion, there's no excuse to call from a withheld number unless you're at a hotel you're unfamiliar with and you're unaware. I'm a bit skeptical when people tell me that they didn't realise that their number was withheld. People at work must realise how their exchange works. Surely they've used their work number enough times to know this.

I've had nervous gents call me showing their number. They either chicken out and don't confirm, or they do call back and say that they're too nervous to go through with the booking, which is fair enough. I appreciate that they took the time to tell me. And if a customer's really that nervous, that's what email's for. You don't have to "confront" a voice, and you're less nervous writing an email. That just makes more sense. I do appreciate gents can be nervous. But another way around it is to call from a withheld number if they have to, leave a brief message explaining their situation and why they would prefer their number withheld, then give me a time they're going to call back so I can answer the phone, or call within the next five minutes. Or they need to finally realise that their phone call's not going to be answered by me unless they show their number. Simple really.

I worked from the back of the local papers in the early days. I have never experienced so many timewasters and withheld numbers in such a short space of time, to the point where I have a deep aversion for both.

I know some ladies don't mind answering withheld numbers, and even get the odd booking from it. I did have the one booking a couple of months ago when a guy called from a withheld number and left a message saying he was going to call me back. He was over from France sight-seeing with his wife and was nervous about me having his number. I did end up seeing him, but that's because he left a message explaining his situation and his reason why he'd rather not show his number. I understood and appreciated his discretion. He called back and we set up a booking. I even got a ticket to an exhibition at the Tate Gallery for my troubles. That and the hotel scenario I've described above are the only two times in over six years I've taken a booking from an withheld number.
 
So I know it does happen. But not often enough for me to answer them.

It seems as if the timewasters are a bit more brazen than we can expect with the antics, but its probably just the same routine. I still get private numbers, but some are determined to stick it to you. Like today, I had 3 time-wasting emails in a row. The 3rd one was the worst asking me twice if I took outcalls to his area of town, and asked me (twice) if I would be willing to take it in the ass.

Sometimes I feel like writing off suckers real quick, but in the past I have come close to writing prospects off that eventually turned into a client. Sometimes its hard to tell who is serious and who's just out there pulling your leg.

Sometimes its hard to tell who is serious and who's just out there pulling your leg.

yea, I guess thats just how it is. I mean, its tough. For example, tonight me and a friend had come back from the nightclub (drunk) and had wandered off into a porn shop. Supposedly there's supposed to be hot guys waiting around in the video section. We walked in, laughed about something besides the material, glanced at a couple videos and then walked out (without purchasing). For some reason I felt bad for not buying anything, I felt like a typical time-waster who calls me. I wouldnt want someone to do that to me!

I think we should come to the point where we see time-wasters are like window shoppers. Unfortunently a more annoying one who wants to try on all the clothes, seems like they're gonna buy and then attempts to sneak out with something small behind your back. Its not something to tolerate, rather understand and deal with (accordingly).

Im with cassie on this one.  As a woman who loves shopping, wandering around a shop and taking a peek at the goods on offer is normal.  Thats what shops expect whether its a late night sex shop or Debenhams, its why they go to the effort of laying things out for us to look at, its marketing. 

However, as a woman, wandering around the video section of a sex shop looking to pick up men isnt something ive ever done so i shant comment.... i dont think its classed as window shopping in the true sense though.

Timewasters have no intention of booking you at all, and get a perverse kick out of wasting your time to satisfy their own lustful ends. Or simply just because they feel they can.

Oh ok...well, yea then thats a whole different story then. Its not so much window shopping at all, more like just...wasting our time 
Thats why also many of us have stopped taking email and text replies as well because of the risk it runs of meeting someone who is basically just wanking off and asking questions. I still take emails, but for some reason lately, text bookings have become less and less popular.

But yea I totally agree its completely different. Its one thing to inquire about a service, but to talk nonsense about dick size, anal sex, having a 3som and such is just RIDICULOUS!