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Ever feel so paranoid, that you're afraid to carry on working?
« on: 27 February 2014, 09:25:11 am »
I'm not talking about with just 1 particular client...but in general. As in, carry on escorting period. I did some googling on the site 'backpage escorts' and oh my gosh....all sorts of stuff came up. I've read about 2 different murders (albeit, in cities that I would never consider escorting in the 1st place because they are dangerous places), all from this backpage site. Which has me thinking that I want to maybe not advertise there much anymore, especially if it's going to get such a bad rep. Of course again, these tended to be male-female interactions as well.

But all in all, just makes me feel all tingly and creeped out. It's almost like you read all these articles, and then you get to a point where you're afraid even to see the next client or something. Like you just want to quit immediately, and mop floors instead lol.

And then, it doesn't help that one time a friend of mine asked, "what if someone tries to kill you?" But then he watered it down saying, "physically hurt you." I'm like dude...don't think like that. And besides, I have not been in that kind of situation before because I try to advertise myself on sites and in a way, along with going with gut feeling that avoids getting into those kind of situations. But, compounded with all the stuff I read online, it's scary to think about, especially when touring.

I'm a very paranoid person by nature, partly due to having non-escorting bad experiences...and also found out recently over the months, that some of my older relatives have similar traits!
« Last Edit: 27 February 2014, 09:39:33 am by The Man Misunderstood »

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Re: Ever feel so paranoid, that you're afraid to carry on working?
« Reply #1 on: 27 February 2014, 02:18:25 pm »
Male escorts typically have far less of a security setup than female ones because of the 'I can handle myself' stuff. The casual sex culture of going off with someone you've just met in a bar doesn't help either.

Unless they want to target you specifically not caring about the consequences - and there's unlikely to be anyone like that - the nasties are going to be put off by a visible decent security setup, because a) doing you harm will very probably lead to them being caught and b) there are plenty of alternative targets who they could get away with harming.
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Re: Ever feel so paranoid, that you're afraid to carry on working?
« Reply #2 on: 27 February 2014, 03:45:46 pm »
Oh my god, yes! I've cancelled so many bookings as a result of some small thing... And if I ever went against my instincts, I'd still be SO paralyzed with fear I'd have to turn them away at the door... And once I'm wound up like that, it's really hard to get back into the "mood"... Sucks!  :-\

Any solutions out there? Xx

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Re: Ever feel so paranoid, that you're afraid to carry on working?
« Reply #3 on: 28 February 2014, 07:56:04 am »
Unless they want to target you specifically not caring about the consequences - and there's unlikely to be anyone like that - the nasties are going to be put off by a visible decent security setup, because a) doing you harm will very probably lead to them being caught and b) there are plenty of alternative targets who they could get away with harming.

What gets me are some of these stories of clients going to hotels to see female escorts, and getting snagged by men hiding in closets, etc. Quite a popular 'act' in places in the larger, more crime-ridden cities with large areas of poverty-striken neighborhoods with relatively extremely wealthy people as well, such as NYC, Chicago and Miami But in 1 article, the guy went to visit a girl at a low-end chain of hotels. Which sucks because, once in awhile I'll end up in such hotels and hate the stigma attached to the chain so much, that I won't even take incalls.

Of course, even if someone did try anything...I'm so broke that they'd probably look around and figure it's not worth it lol. I've got 2 piece of shit phones that aren't worth fucking shit. That's how poor I am. I'm supposed to be running a business, and I can't even afford to get an upgrade for my phone, yet I'm paying for 2 phone lines.  :FF
« Last Edit: 28 February 2014, 07:57:43 am by The Man Misunderstood »

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Re: Ever feel so paranoid, that you're afraid to carry on working?
« Reply #4 on: 02 March 2014, 03:41:08 pm »
There was a report on UM not so long ago about an escort murder. It does happen but if we all make the necessary steps to help safe guard is the best outcome. The day fear takes over will just give up period as would rather live enjoying life feeling safe. The risk of escorting is far greater compared to a 9-5 job in the office in my opinion.

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Re: Ever feel so paranoid, that you're afraid to carry on working?
« Reply #5 on: 02 March 2014, 07:34:23 pm »
I think I read a report that 2 women a week are killed by domestic violence in the U.K. Husbands & boyfriends killing them.

I remember a news story a few years ago about a welsh escort (that i knew - professionally worked with her in a parlour.). She got murdered. I literally read the paper, pulled over in my car and threw up. She'd gone missing and it was suspected that a client killed her.

In the end it wasn't a client that killed her but her own boyfriend! He'd put her body in a suitcase and tried making out she'd gone missing after meeting a client, but he'd the one that done it. Eventually he was convicted of her murder and sent to jail.

I don't think that many escort girls in the U.K (i am not sure of the number of street girls) are killed compared to domestic violence. It just makes big news when an escort is murdered.

I do think there is quite a number of sexual assaults that aren't reported, though how many girls get drunk on a one night stand and get raped by a guy she picked up from a club?

How many women are raped by their husbands/ boyfriends and don't report it?

My main concern about escorting is getting attacked, robbed or raped. Yet none have these have happened in 8 years.  (I did nearly get robbed once).However  I have had a battering from a boyfriend and had my money robbed by an ex.

I think in the U.K it's more likely that i'll crash my car and die than a punter murder me in a hotel room. But you should always follow security procedures and if you get too paranoid maybe it's time to take some time out.

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Re: Ever feel so paranoid, that you're afraid to carry on working?
« Reply #6 on: 02 March 2014, 08:05:31 pm »
Creepy I was watching a documentary last night, where some guy called Gary Ridgeway murdered up to 80 women ( most  street "prostitutes") And I thought to myself " OMG, that could easily happen to me!".  Yes, it's harder to do security checks as a male escort cause the industry is a bit different.


Just got to be very careful and go with go with gut instinct. And inform police even if by a anonymous tip so they can prevent future crimes x

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Re: Ever feel so paranoid, that you're afraid to carry on working?
« Reply #7 on: 02 March 2014, 08:34:29 pm »
I think I read a report that 2 women a week are killed by domestic violence in the U.K. Husbands & boyfriends killing them.

I remember a news story a few years ago about a welsh escort (that i knew - professionally worked with her in a parlour.). She got murdered. I literally read the paper, pulled over in my car and threw up. She'd gone missing and it was suspected that a client killed her.

In the end it wasn't a client that killed her but her own boyfriend! He'd put her body in a suitcase and tried making out she'd gone missing after meeting a client, but he'd the one that done it. Eventually he was convicted of her murder and sent to jail.




I remember this one, the girl was from Swansea or close, she was a blonde lady, young too, think she was working in a parlour and her boyfriend got jealous or something.
I remember this well because I went to crown court with my friend, and the final day of the court case this was going on, BBC news and crews everywhere.
Horrible.

To the OP,
I would try not and think about it to much otherwise it could really stress you out.
Just make sure you do your security checks etc and all should be fine :)

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Re: Ever feel so paranoid, that you're afraid toing,. carry on working?
« Reply #8 on: 02 March 2014, 09:03:31 pm »
In the UK you are more likely to get murdered if you are male then if you are female.

552 people were murdered in England and Wales last year. The news only covers the ones that they find interesting. the murder of escorts is interesting so when ever this happens the news swoops in on it.

Be safe, be vigilant but try perspective on the whole thing.