I've been an escort for around 6 months, part time, I live on my own in my flat, my best friend knows and she is fine with it, as long as I'm safe. I had to tell her because I love spending my money on my friends and family and the only way to justify taking my best friend on holiday was telling her the truth!

Now.. my mum doesn't know, my white lie has been that I have loads of savings and that's how I have money without currently working but now it's been a while and I feel bad lying to her, not only that, she has had to borrow quite a bit of money off me due to our dog being unwell so I said oh I can put it on my credit card, in my head I'm like well, I'll just pay for that but mum is stressing about paying me back as soon as she can, there's only so many times I can say, mum don't worry about it.. I got this. The same goes for when we go out for dinner or whatever, I always pay and she says oh I'll transfer you some money but I don't want her money, I do it because I want to spend my money on memories and without me or her having to worry about money.

I feel like I've got to that point where I just want to tell her the truth or something close to the truth.. me and my mum are best friends so I'm really worried about this ruining our relationship.. I know there is nothing wrong with this job but as you all know, it's not like that in other peoples heads and what will my mum think?!

Any advice would be great!

Thank you so much in advance <3 x

Have a casual conversation with your mum about sex work, say something like you just found out someone you know X from Y started working in a massage parlour to pay her rent and admitted to you doing extras for cash or bring up an article about prostitution in the pandemic from the press if you can wangle a convo in that direction (about how broke people are etc)

If she says '' Oh god that is disgusting there is always another way ....... '' probably best not to tell her. If she says '' Good for them, if I was younger I might have done that, beats giving it away for free  '' OK to tell her. She will love you no matter what but it's a dangerous profession and might make her worry for you which in itself could be a reason not to. Escorts getting robbed and assaulted or suffering mental issues is a fact of life and she might push you to quit cos of that.

If you decide to keep it secret and she asks about the money situation tell her you sold some antiques / valuables or something on ebay and someone paid you a good amount. Used to do that myself pre-covid lockdown and it is a very good and plausible excuse for having some extra cash, people will pay for the strangest things

Hi I understand completely. I told my mum after around 2 years it was killing me trying to hide it from her even though like you I don’t live with her. I was shaking so much when I finally told her it’s like the words wouldn’t come out for a few mins and when they did I felt like my world was ending for a few seconds. To be honest I thought she was about to kick the fuck off but instead she just said your old enough to do what you want and as long as your happy and not in danger I don’t care and there’s nothing I can do about it anyway. I was fucking shell shocked but it’s one of the best things I’ve ever done she’s was supprised but is very supportive. Remember your mum loves you so much and always will, best of luck with whatever you decide to do xx