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Title: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Moonlight on 14 October 2021, 03:54:25 pm
Hello everyone, just a detail that a client who visited me a couple of days ago told me.

I got a call to dress up in garters, heels, a short low-cut dress.

With the instructions to get to my flat that I give to everyone, they arrive perfectly, but this man could not find my apartment, in the end I managed to get him to my place.

I open the door and stand behind the door, holding the door and with my head slightly poking out and with a smile, to let him pass and obviously so that the neighbor who lives across the street does not see me.

He comes in and tells me why I am hiding behind the door, I explain that I was not hiding, I just stand behind the door with half of my body slightly bent in case a neighbor passes or so in case the neighbor look through the peephole of his door do not see me with a huge cleavage and heels.

All this said with a nice tone, but the boy more than serious begins to tell me that it is something that is not right and that many girls do and that they have done it a lot and that he has also read it in forums, and that when we act like that It gives the feeling that we are ugly or we are not like the photos and so once inside the apartment we close the door and they have no choice but to stay.

I ask him if he is not comfortable, if he wants,  he can just go away? and he tells that he wants to stay, but that it is something that many escorts do and that it is something that he does not like.

To which I answer that opening the door wide, greeting a client as if a lifelong friend were coming is obviously not common, and that if he wants I can open the door wide next time but with a normal dress or pjs !.

Then he get quiet and we continued with the service, the bad vibes were already noticeable in the atmosphere and I spent an uncomfortable time with him to be honest, thank goodness it was only half an hour.

This is what he told me, many punters think ??
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: amy on 14 October 2021, 03:58:06 pm
Nobody here can tell you what punters think, because there aren't any punters here (and I'm sure everyone knows by now that any discussion of other forums is off topic and will be removed).

This bloke not only sounds as thick as a plank, but as if he would have found fault no matter what you did. If it means he doesn't come back I'd be counting myself lucky :).
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: saltysweet on 14 October 2021, 04:10:19 pm
I agree.. plus when a client is  too stupid to follow instructions they often blame you . They're incapable of listening and will find any reason to be accusing. 

Like amy says he was probably the kind of client whos never satisfied and would have found any reason to 'educate' you.

This is why when they really can't find my place after 5 minutes I tell them it's cancelled.  Cause They're a bad mood bear when they arrive.It's literally a 2 minute walk and some have not found it in 10_15 minutes so I cancelled or turn the phone off.

Negative clients dont need a reply or explanation. I'd tell him to leave immediately. Like you said it's gonna make you uncomfortable through the session.
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Miffy on 14 October 2021, 04:20:09 pm
Absolutely what Amy said.

I have no interest in seeing any man who reads/uses those kinds of forums, so I would have asked him to leave. Life's too short to spend time with anyone who has no thoughts of their own, and urge you not to give any thought to what punters think.
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: amy on 14 October 2021, 04:24:38 pm
Can we move back to the topic please, since my subtle hint above wasn't enough? :)
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Moonlight on 14 October 2021, 04:49:03 pm
Yes, you are right Amy.
Actually that question was only a way to end my post.
I don't really care what they think.
Of course I am not going to see him anymore.
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Moonlight on 14 October 2021, 05:11:28 pm
I agree.. plus when a client is  too stupid to follow instructions they often blame you . They're incapable of listening and will find any reason to be accusing. 

Like amy says he was probably the kind of client whos never satisfied and would have found any reason to 'educate' you.

This is why when they really can't find my place after 5 minutes I tell them it's cancelled.  Cause They're a bad mood bear when they arrive.It's literally a 2 minute walk and some have not found it in 10_15 minutes so I cancelled or turn the phone off.

Negative clients dont need a reply or explanation. I'd tell him to leave immediately. Like you said it's gonna make you uncomfortable through the session.

Totally agree, if they cannot find the apartment it is better not to receive them, they come with bad manners.

I could have told him to leave but as he calmed down later, I continued with the service but it is true that the bad energy they give off is not worth it.

I will take into account what you said, the moment they make difficult for me what should be easy, I will send a cancellation message and turn off the phone. ;D
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Moonlight on 14 October 2021, 05:37:52 pm
Absolutely what Amy said.

I have no interest in seeing any man who reads/uses those kinds of forums, so I would have asked him to leave. Life's too short to spend time with anyone who has no thoughts of their own, and urge you not to give any thought to what punters think.

Yes, you are right, life is too short to try to find any explanation for how some individuals behave.

When he said that about what they were saying out there, we were already naked and that was when I sarcastically told him that the next time I would receive him with my pjs and with the door open, he shut up and I continued with the service, one more word and I would have asked him to leave.

But it's true that just by coming in with those bad manners I should have asked him to leave.
And yes, for mental health it is better not to give importance to what they think.

But the way I open the door has affected me, and I have been more nervous yesterday and today, which is why I wrote the post. I will continue with my usual discretion.
Thank you  :-*
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Maz on 14 October 2021, 05:40:34 pm
I've previously read comments about girls supposedly hiding behind the door. I used to do it at the agency's flat in case anyone was passing by.

Clients are thick as pig shit if they think it's to hide. If they had any sense then of course they'd realise it's for discretion.  ::)
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: saltysweet on 14 October 2021, 06:44:30 pm
;D Yay you're welcome Moonlight.
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: English Green on 14 October 2021, 06:47:58 pm
Unfortunately this guy is just a odd ball weirdo and what he said about where he read it i would have asked him to leave immediately as i certainly would not want to entertain someone with outspoken negative views like him. It's like he was looking for a argument or to make you uncomfortable.

It's true anyone who had even half a brain that is actively working would know it's a discretion thing to not stand in full view in any revealing outfit inviting a man into the premises.

Count yourself lucky you never have to see him again.
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Jadine on 14 October 2021, 07:35:32 pm
I agree they thick , why would they expect you come out full view in front of your neighbours half dressed ?  No brain cells at all .
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Snow Whitest on 14 October 2021, 07:46:58 pm
Sorry but how do you open an inward opening door without being behind it :)
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: CelesteManchester on 14 October 2021, 07:54:35 pm
FFS, I’ve had them want me to answer the damn door naked in high heels👠 at a hotel🙄. When I’ve told them no, because you know, someone might be passing by when I open the door etc, their answer is, “That’s ok, I’ll let you know it’s safe.”

Not getting what I’m saying, ok. What if the ppl directly across from me are looking out their peephole?
“It’s ok, there’s not a DND sign🪧, there’s no 1 staying there.”

(The fact that I saw them means nothing, clearly🙄.)

So then I just have to tell them it ain’t happening in their lifetime & to get over themselves. Jesus wept!!!!
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: KBP on 14 October 2021, 08:59:51 pm
I stand behind the door as I don't want to flash my lingerie to every passer by.
The guy's a dick.
If he'd complained to me I'd have shown him the door. There's no pleasing these arseholes.
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Kiss on 15 October 2021, 02:23:55 am
The brain of this punter is very small and has functioning  parts missing !
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Kay on 15 October 2021, 04:01:43 am
He just sounds like a twat, to be honest. My front door opens onto the street, and I have neighbours opposite. For new clients, I normally wear a fairly normal dress, so it's OK to open my door normally, but if it's a regular I may only be wearing a babydoll or something, so obviously I stay behind the door!

TBH, I think it's a good idea to dress fairly normally for the first booking with a client, in case anything goes badly wrong and you need to move.
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: lillybliss on 15 October 2021, 06:43:42 am
So now they think it's ok to be telling us how we open the door to them! I would have just told him to fuck off!.
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Luvmylips on 15 October 2021, 08:26:44 am


He asked you to dress up in seductive clothing and wanted you to stand inthe doorway?   ::)

Do men not know the word "discretion" nowadays? 

Some front doors are on the street level, some are parallel to the neighbours, some are in the direct line of sight of passerbys or pedetrians or even other neighbours higher up one floor level.

Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Clarabella on 15 October 2021, 11:02:07 am
I don’t entertain requests to wear specific skimpy outfits or to be semi or fully naked for them when they arrive as it makes me feel really vulnerable. I don’t want to give newbies that kind of power, I like to present as though I’m in control, not them. Im very happy to accept outfit requests for nice regs but ever fully or semi-naked. It used to annoy me when I worked from a flat and used to greet clients from behind the door until they stepped in and I’d get a sarcastic laugh or comment about it from them. It was usually just nerves though. Most knew the score!
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Sophine88 on 15 October 2021, 01:55:25 pm
I know Amy said not to mention other forums. But [removed]

I feel to combat this to deter idiots like this I have written in
 the first line of my ad “I DO NOT SEE RUDE,NARCISSISTIC OR BITTER CLIENTS GO TO SOMEONE ELSE” I’ve had someone send me a message about this one saying I sound like a stuck up cow. And you know what he is right I am too good for people like him. People who only think about the negative. If he took offense too what I wrote in my bio it’s because he’s insecure that it’s a direct reflection of him and how others see him.

But yeah I feel like having something like that in my bio has deterred the type of losers who use these forums as most of my clients are nice and I hardly ever get a bad egg.

Don’t worry about being a people pleaser for clients like that [removed]
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: amy on 15 October 2021, 01:58:20 pm
I know Amy said not to mention other forums. But [removed]

If you liked being on Premod that much before, you only had to ask.
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Sophine88 on 15 October 2021, 02:08:20 pm
Oops sorry Amy. I was going to say this reminded me of an incident recently on my online platform where someone posted a comment saying. I want to see if you can cum before I come to see you. Obviously I deleted and blocked this person immediately. Imagine someone like that coming to see you. Not a hope in hell.

I never ever do requests. I think that’s degrading especially if it’s something that’s quite subjective like being able to orgasm. That’s a bodily function and I can’t control it always. If someone cannot see that then to me they only see me as a robot that does what they want on command and thats not how I see myself so jog on.
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Milf-glos on 16 October 2021, 08:22:20 pm
I stand behind door, seeing as I'm dressed slutty and don't want dog walkers to see me dressed like that.
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Milf-glos on 17 November 2021, 02:05:35 pm
I answer the door in a dress and stand behind the door also so they don't see me until I have closed the door. It's my choice but never had an issue with it with clients.
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: Milf-glos on 17 November 2021, 07:20:49 pm
I don’t entertain requests to wear specific skimpy outfits or to be semi or fully naked for them when they arrive as it makes me feel really vulnerable. I don’t want to give newbies that kind of power, I like to present as though I’m in control, not them. Im very happy to accept outfit requests for nice regs but ever fully or semi-naked. It used to annoy me when I worked from a flat and used to greet clients from behind the door until they stepped in and I’d get a sarcastic laugh or comment about it from them. It was usually just nerves though. Most knew the score!

Requests actually make me mad lol. I hate being told what to wear. I once had a guy who texted 5 minutes before to ask me to wear black tights. I don't bloody own any tights. I've had requests for things I do not own, requests to be naked or just in lingerie on opening the door, I always refuse. My body, my house, my rules.
Title: Re: They think we hide behind the door?
Post by: EnglishAmy40 on 17 November 2021, 09:43:50 pm
I actually get what the guy meant. There are so many fake photos out there and when the bloke arrives, he's met by someone who looks totally different. I think he was just explaining what he's heard from other guys. I open the door in skinny jeans and t shirt though with my kit on underneath so it takes me two mins to go in the spare room to change. But yep I do kind of hide behind the door, even dressed civvie, incase someone walks by.