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Re: Therapists and sex work
« Reply #75 on: 03 December 2018, 08:20:32 am »
In case anyone else asks I am aware of understanding therapists in a different area, which I'm happy to mention by pm.

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« Reply #76 on: 04 December 2018, 06:49:58 pm »
I met a qualified and practising psychotherapist and counsellor a year ago on tinder who lived near me, we dated for a month and in that time he was constantly pointing out people locally (we live in the same area) who used to see him and what for.  Thankfully I never told him I was a SW or no doubt he would have outted me on one of his next conquests. The thing is they are under a code of conduct for privacy, but how many people discuss work with their partners (well other than me  :P )
 what I am saying is from my experience see a therapist out of your local area if it's about discussing your SW, I could have just met a wrong un, but the fact he is 25 years into his own practice, PHD and MSC qualified and certified by British board of psychotherapists he still used to tell me about the guy in the local costa coffee that told him in therapy he used to wank into the sandwiches!   

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« Reply #77 on: 04 December 2018, 07:40:56 pm »
I met a qualified and practising psychotherapist and counsellor a year ago on tinder who lived near me, we dated for a month and in that time he was constantly pointing out people locally (we live in the same area) who used to see him and what for.  Thankfully I never told him I was a SW or no doubt he would have outted me on one of his next conquests. The thing is they are under a code of conduct for privacy, but how many people discuss work with their partners (well other than me  :P )
 what I am saying is from my experience see a therapist out of your local area if it's about discussing your SW, I could have just met a wrong un, but the fact he is 25 years into his own practice, PHD and MSC qualified and certified by British board of psychotherapists he still used to tell me about the guy in the local costa coffee that told him in therapy he used to wank into the sandwiches!

Flipping heck he shouldn't be in the position he is, unfortunately there are prats in all lines of work.

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« Reply #78 on: 08 January 2020, 11:45:39 am »
Hi does anyone know of any sw friendly therapists / counsellors / psychiatrists / places I can go to talk to someone that can help please
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« Reply #79 on: 08 January 2020, 12:18:49 pm »
Hi does anyone know of any sw friendly therapists / counsellors / psychiatrists / places I can go to talk to someone that can help please
My pms are open to share it privately x

Look up Pink Therapy.

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« Reply #80 on: 04 July 2020, 03:22:09 pm »
Hiya,

Bumping this thread again as my therapist just retired after the pandemic (he's an older guy and has decided to call it quits, oh well  ???).

If anyone knows or could give me a reference of a great shrink in the London area (who is SW friendly and open minded) would you be so kind as to PM me? I would really appreciate it.

Thanks all.

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« Reply #81 on: 04 July 2020, 04:06:53 pm »
I met a qualified and practising psychotherapist and counsellor a year ago on tinder who lived near me, we dated for a month and in that time he was constantly pointing out people locally (we live in the same area) who used to see him and what for.  Thankfully I never told him I was a SW or no doubt he would have outted me on one of his next conquests. The thing is they are under a code of conduct for privacy, but how many people discuss work with their partners (well other than me  :P )
 what I am saying is from my experience see a therapist out of your local area if it's about discussing your SW, I could have just met a wrong un, but the fact he is 25 years into his own practice, PHD and MSC qualified and certified by British board of psychotherapists he still used to tell me about the guy in the local costa coffee that told him in therapy he used to wank into the sandwiches!

....And this is why I've never trusted therapists or psychiatrists...  :-\

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« Reply #82 on: 04 July 2020, 04:40:02 pm »
....And this is why I've never trusted therapists or psychiatrists...  :-\

Yep, I used to have a client (married), he was an older guy who would  search for very young students in need on craigslist because "they were cheaper than ho-kers and much more naive" (his own words), then get entangled into these really drama fueled relationships with them. The guy was so messed up. I couldn;t believe people were putting their mental health in the hands of this man. I'm very wary-picky-choosy when it comes to giving my power,money and time to someone.
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« Reply #83 on: 28 September 2021, 08:41:32 am »
I’m looking for a therapist or counselling online not sure what the difference is. But want someone who’s not judgmental about work. Has anyone else had any? Pm if you don’t want to talk publicly. I have tried the nhs but I’m worried they would judge and they keep making apps I can’t keep with touring.

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« Reply #84 on: 28 September 2021, 10:33:29 am »
The trouble with nhs you often end up on a long waiting list and it does of course go on your medical records.
You are then expected to comit to complete sessions with a therapist which as you say could be an inconvenience to you when touring.
I've messaged you also
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« Reply #85 on: 28 September 2021, 10:40:05 am »
A counsellor is someone who will sit and listen to you, someone who will nudge you when needed and possibly guide you in reaching your own conclusions about what you need to do. A therapist can work this way too, however, that all depends on what kind of therapist they are ie. a psychotherapist or, analysts (as they are known in the US). Psychotherapy is hard work. Often, it involves multiple weekly sessions for a number of years as the idea is to find the root cause(s) of your problems. There's also Psychodynamic therapy, something I tired and it wasn't for me.

I suspect you just need a straight forward counsellor. I saw one privately (I paid) for quite a few years and it was hugely beneficial. However, it is incredibly rare to find a straightforward counsellor on the NHS as the therapy they push is Cognitive Behaviour Therapy which I am certain is not the kind you are looking for. (This is therapy's aim is for you to change your own behaviour). Also, be advised that on the NHS, the waiting lists can be long and you only get a set amount of sessions.

If you do decide to pay for therapy, then you will be able to find a sex worker friendly one. Your dynamic with your therapist is essential and if you do decide to enter into therapy, make sure you keep looking until you find a therapist you click with. I would advise you contact the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy as they will be best able to advise you further.

One thing you must understand is that the majority of therapists works to a schedule. They will expect to see/speak to you at the same time and on the same day every week. This is for your benefit too. They want you to commit to your therapy and why they insist on working in a certain way. Very few, if any, will make an exception and see you ad hoc.

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« Reply #86 on: 05 February 2022, 02:33:06 pm »
he still used to tell me about the guy in the local costa coffee that told him in therapy he used to wank into the sandwiches!

I thought after doing this for such a long time there wasn't much I haven't heard of. Wrong!!!

That's kind of interesting to hear about, as well as being totally gross, on all sorts of levels. I wonder what steps the likes of Costa take to avoid that sort of thing happening.

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« Reply #87 on: 05 February 2022, 02:34:07 pm »
....And this is why I've never trusted therapists or psychiatrists...  :-\

Me too.

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« Reply #88 on: 05 February 2022, 03:57:04 pm »
Has anyone mentioned Pink Therapy?

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« Reply #89 on: 05 February 2022, 05:12:12 pm »
Has anyone mentioned Pink Therapy?

Yes, you have :).

Look up Pink Therapy.