Actually, you don't know this for a fact, Amy. Just that the more precarious a person's day job is, the less likely they are going to admit to doing it on here, especially in the forums that can be read by the public, or be used against them by a bunny boiler member of the forum. There are more credible and accountable people here on this forum (for this issue) than you'd realise. The anonymity ensures their training and qualifications don't go down the swanny because they disclosed too much openly.
This is a fascinating thread. There's a lot I could say on this topic but can't, having been burnt by a bunny boiler escort many years ago.
But the importance of finding a kink aware therapist is so important. Civilians just simply cannot handle anything other than missionary sex in a monogamous set-up. The moment you identify as anything other than straight monogamy, they've stopped listening objectively to what you have to say as a person. Always trying to tie it back to the escorting. Whereas the truth is that your today is moulded on your experiences as a child.
I would not dream of disclosing my experiences as an escort with an outsider. I hear the crap they laugh about when discussing anyone with a fetish, or involved in sex work, polyamory or whatever.
In truth, you need someone that can help you without having to have you relive all the knots and bolts of your past. Someone that can work with your issues in a content free (meaning you don't have to disclose any details you don't want to. Anyone that insists you have to spend years in "therapy" where you do most of the talking, and feel like shit because you've had to relive the dark stuff by talking about it, just sees you as a gravy train.
the people here are not medical professionals and most important of all, the person asking would be far better spending their time asking someone credible and accountable who is properly equipped to to help them, not anonymous people on an internet message board.
Back to sex work and therapists, please. If the above is still unclear, by all means send a PM to someone other than me .