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ana30

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Therapists and sex work
« on: 02 October 2015, 12:58:54 pm »
Hiya,

Was looking to get some therapy (I've had it in the past and it worked wonders) but wanted to avoid the unprofessional or judgamental, closed minded shrinks out there (plenty of them unfortunately). Would like to work with someone who is BDSM/kink and LBGT friendly.

Any reccomendations? (if not comfortable posting it here please sent by PM).

Thanks all,  :D

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Re: Therapists and sex work
« Reply #1 on: 02 October 2015, 02:22:39 pm »
Hey babe. I'm seeing a therapist atm and she knows what I do and is fine with it. We talk about issues I have with work and my general life and wellbeing. She is based in Derbyshire but I know she does do Skype and phone sessions too. I can't recommend her enough she has really helped me with my issues. If you like her details just dm me. Xxx
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Re: Therapists and sex work
« Reply #2 on: 02 October 2015, 02:27:21 pm »
Hey babe. I'm seeing a therapist atm and she knows what I do and is fine with it. We talk about issues I have with work and my general life and wellbeing. She is based in Derbyshire but I know she does do Skype and phone sessions too. I can't recommend her enough she has really helped me with my issues. If you like her details just dm me. Xxx

Hi Peachy,

Thanks so much for the reference. I'm based in central London so was looking for someone in London who I can see once a week, Derbyshire is a little bit far out, and I'd rather have a face to face therapy. Thanks again. ;)
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Re: Therapists and sex work
« Reply #3 on: 02 October 2015, 02:45:13 pm »
I know great psychotherapist based in London. Ill pm you later on when back home

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Re: Therapists and sex work
« Reply #4 on: 14 October 2015, 11:34:20 pm »
I know great psychotherapist based in London. Ill pm you later on when back home

hi, if you could PM me too that'd be much appreciated! I'm looking for the same thing x

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Re: Therapists and sex work
« Reply #5 on: 16 October 2015, 12:31:19 am »
I know great psychotherapist based in London. Ill pm you later on when back home

Please send me the name of that therapist hun. It would really help me out and I'd so appreciate it.


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Re: Therapists and sex work
« Reply #6 on: 16 October 2015, 11:58:37 am »
I don't think any shrinks are judgemental, if they were then they are poor at their job.

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Re: Therapists and sex work
« Reply #7 on: 16 October 2015, 02:08:05 pm »
I think most would be understanding, they hear very shocking information about people's lives day in day out. I saw an NHS shrink that was not shocked at my lifestyle one bit x
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Re: Therapists and sex work
« Reply #8 on: 16 October 2015, 06:06:10 pm »
I think most would be understanding, they hear very shocking information about people's lives day in day out. I saw an NHS shrink that was not shocked at my lifestyle one bit x

I go with Nia on this one. A shrink who's judgemental is unprofessional and should change their career path. Shrinks see worse than escorts and if they don't judge that then they shouldn't be judging sex workers.

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« Reply #9 on: 17 October 2015, 10:58:54 am »
I don't think any shrinks are judgemental, if they were then they are poor at their job.

There are a lot who are both of these things.

Which might be why the OP is looking for the contrary.


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« Reply #10 on: 17 October 2015, 11:01:36 am »
I don't think any shrinks are judgemental, if they were then they are poor at their job.

There are a lot who are both of these things.

Which might be why the OP is looking for the contrary.

Well if your a shrink who is judgemental at whatever may walk through your door then they should not be in their line of work. I would be horrified if I went to see someone about my feelings work related and instead of helping me, they judged me and made me feel worse.

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Re: Therapists and sex work
« Reply #11 on: 17 October 2015, 11:19:29 am »
I don't think any shrinks are judgemental, if they were then they are poor at their job.

There are a lot who are both of these things.

Which might be why the OP is looking for the contrary.

Well if your a shrink who is judgemental at whatever may walk through your door then they should not be in their line of work. I would be horrified if I went to see someone about my feelings work related and instead of helping me, they judged me and made me feel worse.

Well....It happened to me twice hence the reason I'm asking for a shrink with "references". Shrinks are human, and like all humans they have issues. And that's why you have to be very careful in "whose hands you leave your brain", because you'll be giving that person a lot of power in your life, decision making etc.. so you want to make sure he/she is going to help you and not going to mess you up.

I've known a few people who got really messed up by their unprofessional therapist and ended up worse after therapy. There's a lot of bad apples in the profession, you gotta be really careful.
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Re: Therapists and sex work
« Reply #12 on: 17 October 2015, 11:44:45 am »
I have found it difficult to tell whether a therapist will have personal issues with working with someone in the sex industry. Ideally they should work it out at supervision, with those few who can't do that it's obvious you won't get along. One of the main factors in therapy outcome is the relationship between therapist and client.

If it's not working put moving on would be my recommendation. I do hold resentments from such encounters and I have seen that profession from different sides.

Luckily many therapists are in touch with their personal prejudices and wouldn't put you through that. I have also had the opposite - too much non judgement, which meant a huge shock when I did encounter judgement elsewhere.

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« Reply #13 on: 17 October 2015, 03:35:32 pm »
I don't think any shrinks are judgemental, if they were then they are poor at their job.

There are a lot who are both of these things.

Which might be why the OP is looking for the contrary.

Well if your a shrink who is judgemental at whatever may walk through your door then they should not be in their line of work. I would be horrified if I went to see someone about my feelings work related and instead of helping me, they judged me and made me feel worse.

There are a lot of people who should not be in their line of work in many other peoples' opinions, but they are.

A friend of mine has had horrific experiences with the judgemental types & worse and it's a bit hit and miss finding a decent therapist at the best of times.

I hope that clears up any confusion.

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Re: Therapists and sex work
« Reply #14 on: 17 October 2015, 07:47:44 pm »
I don't think any shrinks are judgemental, if they were then they are poor at their job.

There are a lot who are both of these things.

Which might be why the OP is looking for the contrary.

Well if your a shrink who is judgemental at whatever may walk through your door then they should not be in their line of work. I would be horrified if I went to see someone about my feelings work related and instead of helping me, they judged me and made me feel worse.

There are a lot of people who should not be in their line of work in many other peoples' opinions, but they are.

A friend of mine has had horrific experiences with the judgemental types & worse and it's a bit hit and miss finding a decent therapist at the best of times.

I hope that clears up any confusion.

I agree. When I was like 21 and married (big mistake) I ended up having a lover (at 21 I was calling him a boyfriend) and that shrink suddenly told me I was being cynical and shit.
Ok that was the first shrink I ever had but I have a friend who's a shrink in NY. Called her. Went for it one more session with my shrink. Through her speech about what a bitch I was. Listened to it nicely. Then called and told her you girl must have some serious issues and seriously are you working for UNESCO? Well you fucking shouldn't.
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