If people choose to martyr themselves on the pyre of monogamy that's their business, not mine.

I would write something like this to her:

"Dear wife:

Your personal life is none of my business, but because I'm a kind person I'll take the time to send you a brief note. I understand it's much easy to blame the problems on others rather than sit with your husband and address the problems in your marriage, but let me tell you: there are many. In fact: they have been piling up for years. I'm afraid you guys are going to have to sit and have a honest conversation, (did i say "honest"?) . basically Your hubby is looking outside the marriage for something he's not getting at home: good sex and an emotional connection. I'm not sure about you but it hasn't been happening for him lately. However... if you decide to get all vindictive with him and serve him with divorce papers because of a couple lousy shags you'll be breaking your family, not me. I'm the syntom, not "the cause". Take responsability for your own problems, sit with him and ask him why he's hiring sex workers. You may not like the answer, but it will lead to a honest relationship.

best luck with all,

Then BLOCK.

Are you serious?  I sincerely hope not.

I would write something like this to her:

"Dear wife:

Your personal life is none of my business, but because I'm a kind person I'll take the time to send you a brief note. I understand it's much easy to blame the problems on others rather than sit with your husband and address the problems in your marriage, but let me tell you: there are many. In fact: they have been piling up for years. I'm afraid you guys are going to have to sit and have a honest conversation, (did i say "honest"?) . basically Your hubby is looking outside the marriage for something he's not getting at home: good sex and an emotional connection. I'm not sure about you but it hasn't been happening for him lately. However... if you decide to get all vindictive with him and serve him with divorce papers because of a couple lousy shags you'll be breaking your family, not me. I'm the syntom, not "the cause". Take responsability for your own problems, sit with him and ask him why he's hiring sex workers. You may not like the answer, but it will lead to a honest relationship.

best luck with all,

Then BLOCK.

My God, I wouldn't have the balls to write something like that even though it is hinting at the truth.
Men are mostly grown up human beings so it is their choice and their money. If shit happens; that is life!

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There is plenty of men out there that cheat on wives with hookers not just because they do not get sex or good sex or do not fancy them some are just greedy and want as much variety as possible. I do not think it always means because something is missing. Some clients are just not nice people and enjoy cheating and always will as long as they can fund the habbit. I have come across many like this and i always feel very sorry for the poor other half. This industry opens you're eyes up to how much this really goes on.

There is plenty of men out there that cheat on wives with hookers not just because they do not get sex or good sex or do not fancy them some are just greedy and want as much variety as possible. I do not think it always means because something is missing. Some clients are just not nice people and enjoy cheating and always will as long as they can fund the habbit. I have come across many like this and i always feel very sorry for the poor other half. This industry opens you're eyes up to how much this really goes on.

Totally agree. Its no more fair to blame wives for punter dishonesty than it is to blame us for it. And it is about dishonesty; whether or not you believe in monogamy is irrelevant, men who pay for sex are frequently lying to their wives about their ability to be monogamous, if they can't be they shouldn't pretend otherwise. But seeing as women still do most of the domestic labour and childcare and take a hit on their earning potentially after they get married and have children in order to deal with that labour, then I guess its fruitful to lie and have missy at  the home game and whorey at the away game, then be honest and most likely have to choose.

That being said, I'm choosing a job from a list of shitty jobs that happens to be more flexible and better paid than others accessible to me and I though genuinely feel for women whose husbands deceive them, its not my responsibility to give up my ability to survive in order to protect someone else's facade from breaking down.