The signs are all there that he is a control freak, selfish and uncaring to your needs. He has already thrown the accusation at you, already living with you like he don,t have his own place.. Either be really firm with him and set some boundaries or ditch him for your own sake.  Take care and hope ur a little better. Keep us informed..

recently i met someone and had several dates with him we said we would go with the flow as we liked each other suddenly he would start questioning me asking why i did not answer his text asap. Telling me what to do over the phone and making decisions for me. He was also a live for today man and told me he would never have money as what he earnt he spent. anyway he told me he was coming to mine for 3 days and i should pick him up with no regard for my routine (i have a toddler he did not meet) and i told him no, he kicked off and i told him to do one. he pestered me for a few weeks and got the hint. immature was not the word.  They are not worth it when they are like this.