Author Topic: The Boyfriend That Never Leaves (Read 3937 times)

ladyjennaj · « **on:** 29 October 2012, 08:24:13 am »

Just seeking some advice.

I've been in a relationship for 2 months now (not long at all.) and the guy knows I escort. However, he's kinda moved himself in, does that make sense? He works five minutes down the road from me, and wants to stay over EVERY night, which makes it impossible for me to work or have my own space

Now don't get me wrong, I like him alot and he's great fun, but he sulks when I can't see him. I've also been quite ill recently, with very bad headaches, and had to go into hospital because they suspected a growth on my brain $:-\$ Luckily for me, all the tests came back clear, but the guy has a habit of sulking if I don't want sex. We have sex three times a day usually, but I've been feeling poorly and less energetic - and I havent been working as much either. But the boyfriend sulks when I won't have sex, and makes stupid jokes about us being in 'a dry patch', or me always being too tired. It's bloody hurtful $:-\$

We also had an issue the other week. He got drunk and accused me of being a cheat in the middle of a wine bar. It was ridiculous, and bloody awful. I just don't know how I feel about it all. I wonder if we need to spend less time together, or maybe I should just ditch him?

Sorry for the rant

Taylor · « **Reply #1 on:** 29 October 2012, 08:28:46 am »

ditch him! you deserve so much better! he should be alot more supportive when you are ill! He sounds very immature!

Lady_Lust_XXX · « **Reply #2 on:** 29 October 2012, 08:39:29 am »

LadyJ, if this is the guy after just two months, just how bad would it be after six months/one year ....................

Ive put that in the past tense as he would be in my past if I was going what you were going through and he was causing you more grief than support.

Unfortunately, with his outburst in wine bar, I wouldnt be surprised if he 'causes problems' for you. I hope you are not in the position of no one knowing what you do, for I am sure he would get great pleasure in telling everyone.

He is like a two year old with a dummy and a big petted lip trailing along the ground. Like Taylor I would get rid asap, he is an immature nightmare .................. and moved in after just two months

- you have hardly had time to get to know each other never mind anything else.

Please take care of yourself, I'm so sorry you have been going through this traumatic situation, but its up to you to end it for yourself. He has latched on like a clingon and is probably enjoying spending your money too.

There is also the point that in our job we need ME time, are you getting any of that. He is not even giving you time to work and relax WHEN you choose, is he.

Sorry Ive gone on so much but he sounds such a nightmare, you need to get rid and enjoy your life, he is draining you of any quality of life you have just now due to your health problems.

TC xx

casey_kisses · « **Reply #3 on:** 29 October 2012, 08:50:42 am »

It's pretty normal for people to get head over heels for someone and want to be with them in the early stages of a relationship, thats hormones for you. BUT the sex stuff and the immaturity makes me suspect that he is just using you unfortunately. Personally I would get rid, because the longer you stay the harder it will be to leave, and do you really want to be with someone that doesn't care about your wellbeing? Like lady lust said it will get worse and not better as time goes on.

I know it's not easy to end it with someone you like but the question you have to ask yourself is; is soaring his feelings more important than your happiness?

Xx

xw5 · « **Reply #4 on:** 29 October 2012, 10:30:23 am »

I didn't think many people would wonder what to do

Green Carnation · « **Reply #5 on:** 29 October 2012, 10:35:59 am »

Ladyjennaj- of course I don't know the guy, but from what you have written here, it sounds like he might cause a lot of trouble for you in the future. The type that would stalk you and send abusive emails and treathen you if you break up with him. I might be wrong, but that is my impression. He has moved into your place, because it's convenient for him (5mins from his work), he gets lots of sex, so sounds like a perfect arrangement - for HIM. Not so much for you, if you feel like you don't have your own space and can't work because of him.
I was in a similar situation years ago, and all I can say- it ended badly for me. You have to find a way out of this situation, either talk to him and say that things are moving too fast for you, and you need your space - and see what he does. If he understands and back up, that's good, and maybe the relationship will work out for you. If he gets angry, and starts accusing you of 'fucking other guys for money' (this one is the ultimate argument of guys who are not ready to be with an escort) you know what to do.xxx

MsDee · « **Reply #6 on:** 29 October 2012, 11:17:36 am »

Ouch! Sorry but am with the other ladies. The biggest reason why men like to date us "escorts" is because they assume we are up for it 24/7. By the sounds of it he is one of them. He obviously lacks the ability to respect you as a woman and I am sorry but you are better off without someone like that in your life.

He seems to be more trouble than he is worth, ask yourself this what benefit does he bring to your life?

I always say a man should be the sprinkles on your cupcake not the icing.

casey_kisses · « **Reply #7 on:** 29 October 2012, 11:27:14 am »

Quote from: DMD on 29 October 2012, 11:17:36 am

I always say a man should be the sprinkles on your cupcake not the icing.

aww thats a lovely way of looking at it

xx

TeenKylie · « **Reply #8 on:** 29 October 2012, 11:33:43 am »

More reasons why I don't understand people bother with relationships. Do you REALLY want sex 3times a day? I definitely wouldn't! Lol once a day would be more than enough but hey everyone's different! I suspect he is young? As always wanting to go at it? Another reason why I much prefer older men, so much more chilled out lol!

Jan10 · « **Reply #9 on:** 29 October 2012, 11:34:17 am »

Quote from: ladyjennaj on 29 October 2012, 08:24:13 am

Just seeking some advice.

I've been in a relationship for 2 months now (not long at all.) and the guy knows I escort. However, he's kinda moved himself in, does that make sense? He works five minutes down the road from me, and wants to stay over EVERY night, which makes it impossible for me to work or have my own space Now don't get me wrong, I like him alot and he's great fun, but he sulks when I can't see him. I've also been quite ill recently, with very bad headaches, and had to go into hospital because they suspected a growth on my brain $:-\$ Luckily for me, all the tests came back clear, but the guy has a habit of sulking if I don't want sex. We have sex three times a day usually, but I've been feeling poorly and less energetic - and I havent been working as much either. But the boyfriend sulks when I won't have sex, and makes stupid jokes about us being in 'a dry patch', or me always being too tired. It's bloody hurtful :-\We also had an issue the other week. He got drunk and accused me of being a cheat in the middle of a wine bar. It was ridiculous, and bloody awful. I just don't know how I feel about it all. I wonder if we need to spend less time together, or maybe I should just ditch him?

Sorry for the rant

DITCH HIM. It's all about him and a sign of worse to come, you have known him two months and already the accusation card has been dealt and the sulking get rid of this big baby boy now, this job is hard enough without having a big child to look after.

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VioletteUK · « **Reply #10 on:** 29 October 2012, 12:38:58 pm »

2 months! Get rid of his ass ASAP! He is a nightmare waiting to happen. He sulks when you won't have sex with him. Wtf? And he is crowding your space, preventing you from working and demanding free services?

No, he needs to go NOW!

VioletteUK · « **Reply #11 on:** 29 October 2012, 12:46:26 pm »

Quote from: DMD on 29 October 2012, 11:17:36 am

I always say a man should be the sprinkles on your cupcake not the icing.

I am a bit more mercenary about things. I am constantly doing a reassessment of the relationship, and basically I am to the point now, of what purpose does it serve me having him around? Is he bringing joy and happiness, and the occasional expensive trinket. Fine, he can stay until i grow bored. Evil, I know, but I don't need some emotional wreck cluttering up my very well organised life. Been there, done that, and burned the t shirt.

LadyLove · « **Reply #12 on:** 29 October 2012, 12:52:32 pm »

LadyJ I think you know already what you need to do

He is not making you happy, he is preventing you from working, he thinks only of himself and doesn't care that you are unwell. Doesn't sound like there are any pluses at all.

In short like a lot of the others say, he is using you, and only you can prevent that.

sadie x · « **Reply #13 on:** 29 October 2012, 02:11:16 pm »

You went for tests because they suspected a growth on you brain,you very poorly..
and this moron is complaining that hes not getting sex!!!
WHAT AN INCONSIDERATE WANKER.
Sometimes when you read about things in black and white,its an eye opener.
Do you know how bad that sounds..
no one knows you, him, the situation,your life,but read what you wrote and it should really be a reality check,that he is selfish..
Hes already affecting your work ALREADY its been 2 months..
I would sit down and tell him that you think hes very selfish and its not going to ever work,tell him your not a toy to be used 3 times a day

ana30 · « **Reply #14 on:** 29 October 2012, 02:36:09 pm »

I totally agree 100% with what sadie just said. have nothing to add.

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