Hi all,

Long time lurker, first time poster.

I'm due to start Sixth Form college later this week (Before anyone asks, I am over 18 and therefor am legally in this line of work, I'm just returning to college a bit later in life to get better grades) and was wondering how to go about telling them about my job as an escort?

On the initial application form, I did put that I worked and am self employed but it didn't ask for any more detail than that, so (for now) they're none the wiser as to what it is I actually do.

I'm pretty much out to nearly everyone in my life (Parents, Friends, Boyfriend) and I really don't want to make a habit of hiding it,  but I'm wondering, would they have any grounds to kick me off the course if they were to find out? What should I say if anyone asks what I do? - both in a casual chatty setting or seriously as the college may want to know for their records or when applying for bursaries and things.

I'm also conscious that quite a few of my fellow pupils will be under 18, so that could effect things? - The college may feel I'm not safe to be around minors? 

I've never done anything illegal, I pay my taxes, work completely independent therefor I don't see how they could really do anything about someone working a completely legal job that just so happens to have a bit of a social taboo.

I wouldn't do it.

Telling friends and family is one thing.  Telling college is another.  There may be implications like them looking into your home life (if you are just 18 they may assume something happened at home to make you do this - there is a line of thought that most prossies were sexually abused!) also that is putting escorting on an official record that may come back to haunt you down the line.

I'd never admit to being an escort on anything official, but that's just me.

This. Also there is no reason for them to know. It's none of their business. If friends you make there ask, just come up with something like massage therapist or something and make sure you tell everyone the same thing and give them no reason to think you are lying.

I'm very open to my friends but I keep it out of my professional and academic life as it is not relevant.

I'm going to join the chorus and say 'don't'.

As well as what they've said, ultimately the college doesn't want to know - if they do, they will have to do something, even if it is just having a meeting about it.

Why would you ever want to do this? I respect that you're not ashamed, neither am I, but this just seems like making trouble for no reason at all. They will naturally be worried about the influence it might have on younger girls at the college, and you will face a lot of stigma and potential barriers to your own progress.

I appreciate how you might be thinking, but is it really worth risking your oppotunities just to make a point?

When I put down self employed for 'anything' and I then get asked what I do - I just say I am an ebay seller. That usually kills the questions, unless the 'what do you sell' question gets asked, I then just say 'all sorts'. Topic truly dead & the authenticity of my livelihood is unquestioned!

MissLeigh and others are right Ashley. You can say you freelance or sell things on amazon/ebay, anything except escort. Its a hypocrite society we live in, people do bad things behind closed doors much worse that selling sex for money but they will attack you for being an escort. When I had a brief civvie job, I heard girls in the office say the most disgusting bitchy things about another girl colleague who was an escort. They called her a 'scandalous whore' not something you expected well educated and enlightened women in the 21st century to call another female. I thought we lived in an enlightened and open minded times 

Similar situation for me, I'm at college this year before uni the next.
I did tell my college since they asked BUT my class is for those aged 24 and above. I doubt there would be issues about the work you do from an educational pov.  It certainly wouldn't be appropriate to mention it in class with minors though imo and I would imagine the sixth form would feel the same.

You shouldn't need to give the sixth form details of your (irrelevant to the course) work history unless you require help woth ucas, placements or employment in which case obviously you would need to tell them.

(I paid my course fees up front and I WAS required to submit a copy of my tax at the time, may want to check it matches what you say in school to avoid looking shady though, if it says escort just tell them upfront don't bs schools they tend to look badly on lies.)

Quote from: thehappyhooker on 14 September 2015, 03:17:12 pm

Similar situation for me, I'm at college this year before uni the next.
I did tell my college since they asked BUT my class is for those aged 24 and above. I doubt there would be issues about the work you do from an educational pov.  It certainly wouldn't be appropriate to mention it in class with minors though imo and I would imagine the sixth form would feel the same.

You shouldn't need to give the sixth form details of your (irrelevant to the course) work history unless you require help woth ucas, placements or employment in which case obviously you would need to tell them.

(I paid my course fees up front and I WAS required to submit a copy of my tax at the time, may want to check it matches what you say in school to avoid looking shady though, if it says escort just tell them upfront don't bs schools they tend to look badly on lies.)

I can't help feeling your situation would be looked upon differently.  You were older and this was a further education college, the OP is only 18 and it's her sixth form college.  I don't think she should tell them at all.

I'm fairly sure the views of a college or sixth form would be similar as to the ops work life, both have mostly students 15 - 18 years old (my class is only grouped together for 90% of classes we are with the younger students for some parts). But my point was as she's an adult herself the school should have no issue and by infoming them she would receive better assistance with any extra assistance the sixth form offer (to my knowledge most sixth forms will help with cvs and the like no clue as to if she would require this help but if she did lying would not be to her benefit)  I do agree she should not tell any fellow students though.

Edit to add - I've just realised I assumed op was talking gcse or a level, I'm going to admit if she is in a vocational course with a placement the rules could be different.