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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: jellib33 on 11 August 2019, 06:13:05 am
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Hello,
I was just wondering, how do you go about telling clients there's something you don't like that they do? For example. I had a client recently bring me cigarettes and I don't smoke. He also offered to bring scotch next time, but I don't drink scotch and because I recently had a bad experience with a client when we were drinking, I no longer drink with any clients.
Another example would be so I had this outcall twice with this guy, he is a big guy and with his unshaven facial hair and his aggression I guess it hurts when he eats me out. The last outcall I had with him (when I was still drinking with clients) I ended up getting pretty drunk which was okay since I took an uber back, but because i didn't shower when I left I'm pretty sure that's how I got BV and also a bladder infection. His face was so dirty rubbing on me, normally when they come here to my place it's just way better because I have a bit more control. This client wants to see me again for 2 or 3 hours, even when I blocked him he got a hold of me through my booking form. I dont want to drink with him, and I definitely dont want to get bv and another bladder infection, mind you, it was probably also kind of my fault since he was eating me out and earlier (I wont lie) I was grumpy I had to see him and he was being so annoying changing the time so I didn't clean my ass that good and farted a couple times lol which sounds disgusting but hey live and learn lol.
Anyway, I guess back to my question. Would these still be clients you would see? Mind you, the client who brought cigarettes was really late and someone just let him into my building, he didn't even buzz which is really creepy someone just let him into my building when I specifically tell them to discreetly use the buzzer that's hard to miss when you walk into the building. He now knows where I live (good thing he sent me a deposit with his real name, which why i think he did it but that's an entirely different story but for that reason and having an intense neediness of wanting to see you again right away always freaks me out plus offering random things, getting in without the buzzer lol all bad!)...
How do you handle these situations?
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Hi Jelib
Do you have to see that bearded client again?
If not tell him uour busy .sounds like a nightmare
Reg gifts if you want to give something on to a friend who drinks take the booze if not just say thanks but I don't drink anymore .
Same with cigarettes.
I've turned down bottles of rose wine from a regular as I still have a dozen mini bottles in the fridge I havnt drink I just tell him before he comes I don't need anything thanks and still have the bottles you gave me last time .
If someone turns up unexpected without any prior agreement tell them not to do it in future.
These people have to take your preferences into consideration once told .
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Write down a few ground rules on your profile. When people call to book you can ask them nicely if they've read them. If they say they have you can reply 'so you understand such and such and such, yep?'
All this can be done in a friendly but firm tone of voice so both parties know what's what.
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I clearly explain both on my profile and when fielding an enquiry that I have a zero drugs and alcohol policy. Regard stubble yes if it's irritating me I will say so, advising to shave closer next time and/or asking him not to press in so hard with his face.
If someone is causing me health problems once again I will tell them, they then have a choice whether to book again and have a chance to change their behaviour. Some will, many just aren't aware what they are doing is having an impact, quite a few think they are doing something nice by bringing a present others would enjoy.
I've had to decline a few fancy foods (which I cannot eat), offers to bring champagne to drink in the booking. If someone accidentally brings something which I cannot have, I will ask if it's ok for me to pass it on to someone who can enjoy it. Most of the time that's fine, they are just disappointed they've not given me something I can use myself.
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I wouldn't see a client a second time if I didn't enjoy the first booking.
I wouldn't get drunk during a booking.
If I'm not enjoying any activity during a booking, I move on to something else.
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Tell him to pass the cigarettes on to me ;D
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Tell him to pass the cigarettes on to me ;D
and I'll have the Scotch :D
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I wouldn't see a client a second time if I didn't enjoy the first booking.
I wouldn't get drunk during a booking.
If I'm not enjoying any activity during a booking, I move on to something else.
Remember that you are in charge of who you see and what happens during a booking.
I would never see anyone again who made me feel anxious, let alone put me physically out of action.
Don't be afraid to tell someone mid booking that you don't like something they are doing - saying it in a nice friendly way of course.
I don't drink as I like to be totally in control whilst with a punter. You never know if they will try something dodgy whilst you are overly relaxed.
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I can't stand to have my hair touched, drives me absolutely nuts. Plus quite frankly, I keep so much hairspray in it, why the hell would you want to touch it anyway lol. It's not like you're going to be able to run your fingers thru my extremely short (think Annie Lennox with a bang) style.
I've mastered the art of gracefully dodging their hands & I'd say most of them twig to it & then stop. They're also not allowed to grab my head & force it down on their damn cock😡(infuriating!).
When that happens I draw back, smile sweetly & say, "if you do that again, I'll bite it off."
Invariably their reply is, "oh. You don't like that?"
"I. Will. Bite. It. Off."
Just call me Lorena Bobbit, altho she used scissors or a knife, I disremember now.
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I would put on my profile and also say that I don't see guys with beards or facial hair that may irritate my sensitive areas. Or that I no longer see them due to irritation and soreness of delicate areas ie.pussy from oral and kissing leaving my face all red. Something like that. Spell it out if you need to.
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I always send a quick text after accepting their booking to confirm everything and clarify one or two extra things.
For example, I state that my service is gentle and sensual and not rough, that I don't visit anyone under the influence, they MUST be alone throughout (yes, really >:() and that OW is standard and preferred..(I'm phasing out OWO, but in the mean time I am earning the equivalent of an hours' booking fee per week on the extra charge now ;))
Tell them clearly upfront, but on the occasion someone does something unexpectedly twattish or simply on the assumption you would be OK with it, remember that they perhaps should have asked you firstly? 🤔
Unfortunately, some of my regulars will still push for stuff they know I don't like. They also know they will get short bloody shrift in response :FF
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I recently posted something similar, about whether to grumble about "my legs over their shoulders" or put up with it? ..
Ironically, every booking since then, they have been kind enough to ask if it was OK with me? I have been able to answer, "Well, just a tad lower would be smashing, thanks!" :D
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I think this is easy answer.do not see clients that made you uneasy or cause problems to you.always listen to you're instincts.i don't rebook clients if they made me uncomfortable previously.