I'd say there is a difference between strap-on play and tantric sex, considering tantra is a set of practices that definitely take more than just one session to learn. Using strap-ons is, shall I say, a bit more intuitive. So yeah, in case of skills that take a while to get genuinely good at, like various niche types of massages, I'd personally not tick it until I actually learned at least the basics.

I would imagine no guy is going to come along to teach you tantric, but this other guy sounds a bit of a twat for going on like that

I have strap on ticked, I don't own one but if a client wants to bring it I'm happy to use it, so from my perspective thats absolutely fine you've ticked it as the list is stating what you will do, not what you can

Many would disagree though but really it's YOUR decision, there is no right or wrong, just different opinions

Quote from: chance on 07 March 2015, 11:52:39 pm

Oh lol a strap on, it was so hard for me to do it! One guy brought it with him and he was a bum virgin lol, we kept trying and trying and it just won't go in and then my knee slipped and I literally fell on him and accidentally pushed it in really hard! And he let out this blood curling scream, thanked me profusely and left.
I un ticked the strap on thingie after that incident  , as Im obviously not very good at it.

My ass curled up on itself after reading this, lol.

I'm a very un-spiritual, atheist, science graduate eg I enjoy yoga for the physical workout and completely zone out almost everything my yoga instructor says while respecting that she and a lot of the rest of the class experience yoga as something spiritual, I enjoy it just as much as them without that. Tantra is like that for me. I did a course in it and studied youtube videos, read about it and found the whole lot to be a bunch of pseudo-mystical mumbo jumbo.

But I still offer it. When clients ask for it, I play some yoga class type music like thievery corporation or whatever, light some candles, throw a sari over the massage table and make a little speech at the beginning that I make up on the spot. something very similar to what Velor said. Then I give them a very slow, sexy massage and a hand job. I've had clients say it was the best tantric massage ever and wasn't it amazing how "in touch with each others spiritual auras we were and blah blah blah."

So it's possible to offer it and do it very well while experiencing it as nothing more than marketing claptrap. If the client is expecting tantra and wants to experience tantra and you give them something that looks like you are too, that's what they'll experience.