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lilyoctober

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Going indie... few questions please
« on: 04 July 2012, 03:38:59 pm »
Hi all,
I have read this site with absolute awe, respect and appreciation for a number of months now and I think it's utterly phenomenal - it has provided the answers to pretty much everything that I wanted to know and I am doing my profile etc over the weekend. Never done this before, but I have done my research and also the supermarket scan of questioning if I would have sex with every guy...hell yes if paying!! I have woke up in bed next to quite a few uglies after a night out, so I want to be paid for it, plus I like mens company. I am completely convinced this is for me. This is not purely a financial decision and not based on necessity.
However... a few practical questions if you please...
1. When you get a booking, does the client tell you on the phone what they want (I know this is to be kept to 2-3 minute conversation or borders on them possibly getting off on the discussion) or are you to just turn up and see what happens?
2. Also, excuse naivety - whats the etiquette for a working girl to come?? Is it acceptable or not? I appreciate this may be few and far between though...
Thanks guys... stay safe  :-*

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Re: Going indie... few questions please
« Reply #1 on: 04 July 2012, 03:47:04 pm »
Number 1. Some will tell you want they want and others will tell you when they turn up some however just like to go with the flow and will then maybe ask if so and so could happen

number 2.  Most clients try their hardest to make you cum but unless you are a wonderful actress dont fake it as they can tell especially the ardent punters
Truth is far more important than what one wants to hear. With truth there is no us and them or colour or religion there is just fact

lilyoctober

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Re: Going indie... few questions please
« Reply #2 on: 04 July 2012, 03:52:37 pm »
Thats brilliant, thanks Dani...
I have actually just been reading an earlier post about faking it... I wouldn't do that; similar to in personal life I suppose - if they think they are doing it right there is no scope to give them tips to improve  :-*

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Re: Going indie... few questions please
« Reply #3 on: 05 July 2012, 09:52:22 am »
(To borrow Dani's format! ;))

#1: Yes, some will tell you up-front what they want, but any excessive descriptions or requests for descriptions are almost always from timewasters. Remember: it's fine to go along with a booking request if you're not sure if it's genuine, but make sure you have a confirmation procedure so that you don't go actually getting ready to see guys who were just fapping during your phone/email correspondance. Also, if you just offer a general set of GFE services which are clearly stated on your website/profile, don't be afraid to politely inform callers/emailers that they can double-check your services there and to call/email back soon if they want to book. (I know it's more complex if you offer a mixture of GFE/PSE/dom/sub/massage services, especially if they're at different rates.)

Sometimes a client just wants to confirm your services but, if that's the case, ask him which services he'd like you to confirm so you can give yes or no answers. I know some guys are genuinely shy but I do wonder - if you're too shy to say, "Can I confirm that RO is included?" on the phone, how are you going to go through with an actual appointment?! Most "I'm really shy" guys are just pretending, unfortunately, which gives a bit of a bad rep to the few genuinely shy ones but we do have to protect ourselves from having our time wasted. Even genuinely shy ones will call/email to book (and again to confirm) if they really want the appointment; they'll just do it in a slightly shy way, but that's not a problem!

#2: Our job involves faking tons of pleasure in general, but yes - many guys can tell a fake orgasm and will get upset about it. It's usually best to focus on genuine enthusiasm and smiley-ness for appointments and don't worry too much about "should I yell 'OH YES YES YES I JUST HAD MY 11TH ORGASM WOW' now, or in seventeen minutes' time?!" Many clients will spend as much time fiddling about with your vag as you let them, for whatever reason, but other clients will give you a disappointed frown if you haven't orgasmed explosively as soon as they've poked you on the clitoris - basically, you can't win. :P The best method is, IMHO, to generally act as though every moment of each booking is a sensual and exotic pleasure for you. Smile a lot and look into their eyes (unless they avoid your eyes; again, you can't really win so just see how you go!) and be warm and close and affectionate. Be 'responsive', even if you can't feel anything except a trickle of their sticky saliva running over your skin, but not over the top.

I think "she was unresponsive" and "her moans were really loud and fake" are probably the two most common/strong criticisms that I've seen in negative reviews, obviously not counting fake profiles/bait-and-switch scams/etc. So it would seem like being somewhere in the middle is best. I think it's probably not about exactly what you do (didn't someone recently on this forum say a client complained about her 'fake moans' when they were actually her completely natural sex sounds?!) but how genuinely you can do it. So stick to what feels natural (obviously not so far as getting up and running away when they blast you in the face with some super-sour breath!) so you can do it most convincingly. :)
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lilyoctober

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Re: Going indie... few questions please
« Reply #4 on: 08 July 2012, 08:13:48 pm »
Emily,
Thanks sooooo much for this.... has cleared a lot of things up for me; you give some super sound advice on here girl. I tell you one thing, this damn site is absolutley f***ing awesome and the solidarity that seeps throughout all of these threads is utterly priceless and I feel so completely humble. Not exaggerating that either - it's unfortunate that in the general day to day arena of life, women seem to want to rip strips of each other, slag each other off and compete. This forum is like having hundreds of best friends who have got your back, based on mutual respect and trust for what we do in using our feminine charms to maximise our independence 
For anybody new to this site (like me).... read, read and read again the advice given and listen to these wonderful ladies on here and take their advice; it will make the difference between whether your engagement as a working girl is successful or not.
Much respect and hugs  :-*
« Last Edit: 08 July 2012, 08:16:34 pm by lilyoctober »

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Re: Going indie... few questions please
« Reply #5 on: 08 July 2012, 08:37:44 pm »
I do come with some clients but strangely enough its never the young sexy ones but rather the mid 40s to mid 50s gents. but hell yeah i fake it if i cant come, IMHO as much as you should have boundrys ect the man is paying alot of money to spend time with you is it such a bad thing to make him feel like a stud for an hour or so?

I love my clients leaving feeling like a million dollars with a huge grin on there face, dosent take much too fave a little "ooh, ahh" in the right places  :D thats just me though, each to there own xxx

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lilyoctober

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Re: Going indie... few questions please
« Reply #6 on: 08 July 2012, 08:52:14 pm »
Thanks Princess,
I think it would be the same for me in terms of (older) men that I would be more likely to come with... the best sex I ever had was with a guy 10 years older than me; I think that was more about me knowing how much he desired me; plus he wasn't the nicest looking turkey in the shop which made me feel more horny as I knew I drove him nuts!!! It was a real confidence boost (and I think confidence is the key to our success) and I could really let go, if you get my drift. With more attractive guys I have dated/had sex with, it's soooo much more difficult to come... I think my confidence maybe lessened slightly. Having said that, I do now feel super sexy and I am utterly confident in my own skin; more so since I have decided to become a working girl and I look at every guy as a possible, thinking would I??? Hell yeah, if he is paying, then I am giving. I am going to go with the ohs and ahs and obviously make them feel like kings but for me, I am definitely not faking it. If push comes to shove, Ann Summers has provided me with my own (plastic) friends if I become a little ahem frustrated  ::)
Hugs  :-*
« Last Edit: 08 July 2012, 08:57:29 pm by lilyoctober »

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Re: Going indie... few questions please
« Reply #7 on: 08 July 2012, 08:59:23 pm »
I think "she was unresponsive" and "her moans were really loud and fake" are probably the two most common/strong criticisms that I've seen in negative reviews, obviously not counting fake profiles/bait-and-switch scams/etc. So it would seem like being somewhere in the middle is best. I think it's probably not about exactly what you do (didn't someone recently on this forum say a client complained about her 'fake moans' when they were actually her completely natural sex sounds?!) but how genuinely you can do it. So stick to what feels natural (obviously not so far as getting up and running away when they blast you in the face with some super-sour breath!) so you can do it most convincingly. :)

Thats why I never fake it as (a) I'm a terrible actress and (b) I find guys like someone acting naturally (as you can in the situation) and (c) I feel like its disrespectful to the guys to fake it as I want to give them as genuine a time as is possible.

We are all different and obviously I'm talking about GFE here, with PSE being a totally different ball game.

lilyoctober

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Re: Going indie... few questions please
« Reply #8 on: 08 July 2012, 09:13:47 pm »
Thanks Mellow... also, I don't know if it's me being naive or not, but if a guy thinks he is getting it right through me faking, I lose out to a certain extent as I can't guide him to what would work much better. Certainly know it's about pleasing him, but if I can get enjoyable stimulation from it, then I am going to grab it with both hands (no pun intended )  ::)
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Re: Going indie... few questions please
« Reply #9 on: 08 July 2012, 09:18:32 pm »
Yes I missed that point Lily! How the hell are they meant to know they are doing it wrong and improve if you don't tell them (tactfully of course)?

lilyoctober

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Re: Going indie... few questions please
« Reply #10 on: 08 July 2012, 09:27:31 pm »
Abso-blooming-lutely Mellow 8)
Tried the fake thing with an ex years ago and ended up feeling a bit foolish actually...more because I knew I was deceiving this man who was trying so hard to get it right and my (dishonest) sighs and moans were his cue that he was doing it right, so in his eyes, if it ain't broke then why try and fix it  :-*