Author Topic: Taken advantage of - 6 hours worth of solid sex. (Read 5278 times)

Wife4rent · « **Reply #15 on:** 07 July 2014, 03:22:16 am »

Quote from: martine21 on 06 July 2014, 08:58:45 pm

Well as the title of the post says really, he continuously had me having sex/giving him oral/me playing with myself.

Whilst some may not see it as the same if you employed a plumber for the day, 8 hrs for ?150 would you expect him to only work for 4 hours?

Of course this is different and nobody can say otherwise, but it is very important to establish what the client wants for his money, that goes for a 15 minute quickie or an overnight booking.

I never do longer than an hour booking with anybody.

Sarah x x x

happyhappyjoyjoy · « **Reply #16 on:** 07 July 2014, 03:47:08 am »

Quote from: mimi_licious on 07 July 2014, 01:38:12 am

As already stated I feel bad for the OP. However, I was one of the people who took time to give advice before the booking (after the original post worrying about the chance of a 6 hour booking of non-stop sex). This advice was not taken on board so although it is now being given out again, it seems pointless as the OP appears to want the attention, rather than the advice.

Sorry to sound blunt but as someone who would take time to help anyone, I don't have time for people like this $:-\$

Whoa there. From what I read she took you advice on board but from what I gather she is new to this and learning to assert yourself is difficult for some people. This forum is about support as well as advice and bitchy comments about someone attention seeking is not helping. Talk about kick a girl whist she's down!

Op hopefully you will learn from this, sometimes we gotta learn the hard way unfortunately but hopefully you will be better equipped to deal with these situations in the future

Erotic flower · « **Reply #17 on:** 07 July 2014, 07:53:54 am »

was he not aware you are a human being?

KimberlyC · « **Reply #18 on:** 07 July 2014, 10:13:16 am »

There are men who will pay for several hours that include eating a meal and relaxing and chatting.

I personally won't take long bookings but if I take anything longer than a couple of hours I say make sure they understand that they're not getting straight genital friction. I've even said that in shorter bookings... just "OK, let's have a break, now." Said in a cheerful way it doesn't need to be off-putting. If they seemed to have a problem with that then I'll say "No, you haven't rented a set of orifices that you can just rub yourself on non-stop."

Being assertive is so important and it's definitely something that can take time to learn.

BBW_Cora · « **Reply #19 on:** 07 July 2014, 10:16:04 am »

As Happyhappyjoyjoy said, learning to be assertive is difficult and it must have been so scary as you did tell him you needed a break and he said no. Glad he is on your block list now

Try not to sit there replaying the experience in your mind over and over, you will only make yourself feel worse. Have a nice long relaxing bubble bath and chill out for a night or two till you feel better.

carachameleon · « **Reply #20 on:** 07 July 2014, 12:33:30 pm »

Quote from: mimi_licious on 07 July 2014, 01:38:12 am

As already stated I feel bad for the OP. However, I was one of the people who took time to give advice before the booking (after the original post worrying about the chance of a 6 hour booking of non-stop sex). This advice was not taken on board so although it is now being given out again, it seems pointless as the OP appears to want the attention, rather than the advice.

Sorry to sound blunt but as someone who would take time to help anyone, I don't have time for people like this $:-\$

I think Mimi is justified here and I don't think what she said was particularly bitchy. I read the the other thread a few days ago and while I, too, feel bad for you Martine, I don't think you were taken advantage of by the client. I think for longer bookings, you should have a clear understanding of what the client wants, especially since you know what he's like. You mentioned in your other post it seems like he wants six hours of sex. And if you weren't comfortable, you should have voiced it to him before taking the booking or not taken it at all. But you knew what you were getting into and went ahead. So I don't think you're justified in feeling upset.

Also, agreed with Sarah's analogy of the plumber. If you didn't want o be having continuous sex for 6 hours, you shouldn't have taken the booking.

Take it as a lesson learnt. I wish you a speedy recovery.

martine21 · « **Reply #21 on:** 07 July 2014, 01:10:36 pm »

Excuse me Mimi! I tried all of your advice suggesting a bath, massage, etc and I felt abit down yesterday after the booking as i thought no one could actually have sex for that long so I did just want my feelings out somewhere. My mistake I thought that this site was designed for support and advice?

I do not want 'attention' thank you, but thanks to those that has commented nicely. I've clearly expressed several times that I listened to your advice. What was I supposed to do drag him to bath? I was umming and arring about the booking thinking no one could possibly last that long and that even after a an hour or two, he'd want a break! All to often I find bitchy comments on this site which is unnecessary to girls asking advice.

I did ask the client how he wanted the spend the evening when i got there, he said we could go up for abit of fun then come back down, of course I was fine with that, but it never happened. I told the client I was sore and he was uninterested and at a certain point of the evening, I gave up asking as I so desperately wanted him to come so I could go, or least relax.

I feel alot better about it today, like most have said treat it as a learnt lesson; being very firm that anything past the two hour mark includes social time etc, and that I certainly would be needing breaks, but to be honest I think the two hour mark is enough for me.

Thanks again x

amy · « **Reply #22 on:** 07 July 2014, 01:20:30 pm »

Quote from: martine21 on 07 July 2014, 01:10:36 pm

Excuse me Mimi! I tried all of your advice suggesting a bath, massage, etc and I felt abit down yesterday after the booking as i thought no one could actually have sex for that long so I did just want my feelings out somewhere. My mistake I thought that this site was designed for support and advice?

I do not want 'attention' thank you, but thanks to those that has commented nicely. I've clearly expressed several times that I listened to your advice. What was I supposed to do drag him to bath? I was umming and arring about the booking thinking no one could possibly last that long and that even after a an hour or two, he'd want a break! All to often I find bitchy comments on this site which is unnecessary to girls asking advice.

I did ask the client how he wanted the spend the evening when i got there, he said we could go up for abit of fun then come back down, of course I was fine with that, but it never happened. I told the client I was sore and he was uninterested and at a certain point of the evening, I gave up asking as I so desperately wanted him to come so I could go, or least relax.

I feel alot better about it today, like most have said treat it as a learnt lesson; being very firm that anything past the two hour mark includes social time etc, and that I certainly would be needing breaks, but to be honest I think the two hour mark is enough for me.

Thanks again x

It is, and whilst Martine got in before me, we'll have no more of the judgemental finger-pointing, please. Nobody ever has to 'justify' being upset about an unpleasant experience or anything else here, and if that's really the most supportive and constructive advice others have, then we'd rather you just kept it to yourself.

Being naive and inexperienced is not the crime of the century, and whilst a bit more of an information exchange before the booking would have been a help, I personally don't think many of us would have seriously believed a punter would be banging away one way or another for six solid hours even if he'd said he would and certainly not that he would refuse to allow somebody who was obviously suffering a break. A more experienced lady (or me, anyway) would more than likely have given some money back and left at this point, but hindsight's a wonderful thing, and it's very easy to smugly sit in judgement when you weren't the one in the room.

Martine, I'm glad you're feeling better today and I think approaching it as a valuable lesson learned is the ideal way to look at it

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mimi_ · « **Reply #23 on:** 07 July 2014, 01:45:53 pm »

I just want to say sorry to Martine. The part about you looking for attention was out of order and not fair at all.

If I came across as bitchy then I'm really very sorry. I'm not going to try and make excuses - I just want to explain where I was at. I had a bad day yesterday and shouldn't have been online when I was in such a foul mood (lesson learned).

There was also an element of feeling really quite strongly about your situation, as it has brought back memories for me of something that happened to me. In that situation I was vulnerable and it felt like torture - and I sensed that you felt the same, which made me angry for you. As I said before, I really am sorry that happened to you

This is most definitely a support and advice forum and those familiar with me will know that I say that a lot!! I would hate for you to feel that you couldn't seek advice because of my actions last night. I'm still here for you if you want me to be x

amy · « **Reply #24 on:** 07 July 2014, 01:51:51 pm »

Feel the lurve

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mimi_ · « **Reply #25 on:** 07 July 2014, 01:52:28 pm »

Quote from: amy on 07 July 2014, 01:51:51 pm

Feel the lurve .

Shurrup you

martine21 · « **Reply #26 on:** 07 July 2014, 02:01:51 pm »

Quote from: mimi_licious on 07 July 2014, 01:45:53 pm

I just want to say sorry to Martine. The part about you looking for attention was out of order and not fair at all.

If I came across as bitchy then I'm really very sorry. I'm not going to try and make excuses - I just want to explain where I was at. I had a bad day yesterday and shouldn't have been online when I was in such a foul mood (lesson learned).

There was also an element of feeling really quite strongly about your situation, as it has brought back memories for me of something that happened to me. In that situation I was vulnerable and it felt like torture - and I sensed that you felt the same, which made me angry for you. As I said before, I really am sorry that happened to you

This is most definitely a support and advice forum and those familiar with me will know that I say that a lot!! I would hate for you to feel that you couldn't seek advice because of my actions last night. I'm still here for you if you want me to be x

Thank you Mimi, I really appreciate and respect that. We all have bad days.

x

mimi_ · « **Reply #27 on:** 07 July 2014, 03:20:52 pm »

No problem and thank you back! Hope you're feeling re-energised now x

Siorse · « **Reply #28 on:** 07 July 2014, 05:12:11 pm »

Just thinking of you Martine, that must have been a cunt of a night.. (excuse my French)
You're a strong girl for picking yourself up so quick, but be prepared this experience might come back and bite you some more
in a few days time..
I've had bookings (they were nowhere near that long mind you), when I was thinking to myself; 'I'm having sex against my will here,
it's hurting me and I just want it to be over'.
I know rape is a totally different thing, as we agree to having sex and we get paid for it, but it can still be pretty damaging to your psyche..
All the best hun, and please think twice before taking a booking like that again..!

Dani · « **Reply #29 on:** 07 July 2014, 07:02:56 pm »

Martine, don't let it put you off longer bookings as they are not all like that. Some are though so you have to steer them to do something else. next time if a client says no to a short break or doing something else other than just banging, say I am sorry but I need 5minutes, if he again says no say ok booking is now over and hand him back part of the fee If you have been there 4 hours keep three hours worth of money and give the rest back. It is better to lose a few quid than lose our feeling of safety or self worth.

Also make sure before hand and by that I mean long before you even turn up that you know what is expected and let them know what is appropriate and what is not. Tell them that you are not a machine and don't take any performance enhancing drugs at all so will need to do something other than just bang away for the whole time. If they don't like it they can always cancel

I have it in bold on my profile that I wont do that, so clients know if they book me not to expect to bang non stop for hours on end. I wont let anyone make me sore, make me have to have days off work and more importantly make me feel shit about myself.

You need to be assertive, if asking doesn't work then you have to tell them. If you find it hard to be assertive then most womens centres offer assertiveness classes where you can learn how to do it without being passive aggressive, or just passive even. It does sound like this sort of thing will be of benefit to you

Also remember if you don't like how a booking is going then you have every right to stop the booking and give some money back and walk out. If a client doesn't want to let you leave after you have told him the booking is over just call the police. They will happily come and get you out of the property although the moment you go to call them the client will probably let you leave as he would not want to be arrested for basically holding you against your will.

It is your body and you have to make it very clear what you will and will not accept. Some and by no means all as most are ok, guys will want as much bang for their buck as they can and unless you make it clear this is not available they will expect it. Nicely asking is no good with this type of guy, you have to be very firm and tell them how it is.

Take this as a learning curve, none of us decided to do this job and then made no mistakes as its something you have to learn as you go as there is no instruction manual on how to do this job.

The best way forward is to make everything clear on your profile and then again on booking and then again on arrival and probably during the booking too with some guys. Now go and pamper yourself as you have earned it

See also the main SAAFE.info site for more Support And Advice For Escorts

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