Incapable?!

That's a patronising attitude. I find those expressing the sort of words you have, have usually very little experience of life indeed. Some people who are very capable of earning lots of money, often have the odds stacked against them and thus do not acheive the same as others of similar or even less ability. Also for some it simply isn't a possible lifestyle for many reasons - they may have other responsibilities or illness which makes chasing ?s a lower priority.

I know a variety of successful people in all walks of life, some have worked hard, others have had the right opportunties come there way, finally some have overcome extreme difficulty. I also know people who have not enjoyed success despite working very hard misfortune has come their way.

All the guys who ask me about becoming a male escort I say to them "Here's a few tips, read SAAFE, go away, do the things suggested and come back when you have all these women lining up to pay you". No one has come back yet. I have met one male escort who does get bookings, these are all in London and are few and far between. There is also a difference between servicing friends of friends, and going blind into a meet with a complete stranger.  You will also get a lot of timewasters which can be draining mentally and motivationally.

I've had calls from male escorts asking me for advice with their profiles, one big thing I noticed was that they were getting 10% of the views a similarly attractive female would have had, and those were probably from those he was making bookings with. Another guy dropped his rates gradually until he became 'free'. I am guessing you are a bit of a novelty to your friends at the moment. I personally don't offer my services to friends, because it can just become too complicated - that's not to say I haven't become 'friends' of sorts with clients though.

This is a really interesting thread.  In all the years I've been working I've never met a male escort who wasn't prepared to have his weiner sucked by a guy, gay -for- pay type thing.  In fact I've never heard of a man in porn who wasn't prepared to have sex with a guy for money (I have friends in porn, I am not in porn so I could be wrong), so what is this Straight. Male. Escort. thing that you speak of?

strawberry .. sorry if that sounded patronising i didn't mean it in that way at all, obviously some people aren't interested in making lots of money and some are unable to due to illness or lifestyle etc i did mean that's what id meant by people who were incapable of doing it, "wasn't trying to put anyone down just my personal view on how people generally become successful"   and like i said there are allways exceptions to the rule i was just talking in a broad sense ,  Ive had plenty of life experience and know people from many different backgrounds social circles and varying degrees of wealth  and its just what i personally think so sorry if you think i was trying to be patronising because it wasn't meant in that way whatsoever,

As for becoming a male escort, if i were to attempt this fulltime i have no doubt that it wouldn't work unless i had established a viable market and advertising method, as it is in my opinion the reason there aren't any successful straight male escorts is because they have all been trying to get work through a structure that just isn't there, its obvious that there are no companies who get work for straight male escorts  or established methods of advertising in an effective way that achieves results, personally i think that is because of the way its pitched and because of the amount of timewasters and scams that are out there ,   so far Ive been doing this every now and then for about 3 months and have had around 12 messages asking about what services prices locations etc  i provide , iv found that generally the ladies like to establish a more in depth image of what and who they are paying for and out of the 12 or so messages Ive had 7 diff clients with 4 of them wanting to meet rather regular, and when i said that they were friends i meant a "friend" of mine suggested the idea to some people she knew through social and work circles and then passed on my details,  i didn't actually personally know any of them beforehand,

Wileycoyote .. i wouldn't say I'm a know it all, id just say I'm an optimist, when someone shows me a challenge or a new idea or something that someone hasn't been able to do properly i allways like to give it a try and see what i can do and what spin i can put on it that hasn't been tried before , Ive tried lots of different things before in my spare time and have allways enjoyed the challenge! the novelty is of course a reason for it as well but being able to achieve something that others say isn't viable is the real benefit for me .   and no I'm absolutely straight

EvaBeeva..  Ive never met a guy escort at all so i couldn't comment on whether there are some of them out there who are straight and don't do other guys, i know i don't but cant speak for anyone else, as for straight pornstars i do know a few people involved in porn who are straight although one of them pays for the production and costs of alot of the stuff he does so can probably be abit more selective,

JodieTs  ... completely agree with your opinion of the viable volume of  business in this area given the amount of people who try and don't manage to succeed , although i do think that maybe that's because of the way its advertised and scammed, i think women more so than men when paying for an intimate experience need more confidence and assurance that its nothing "wrong" that their doing , hence why because its been suggested by someone else instead of just off a website or via an advertisement its seen as more acceptable to them ,   i mean if i can get a few bookings just from one friend suggesting it to a few people etc then obviously the thought would take in other areas if given the right spin, id be interested to see if a successful male escort agency could be made if women were paid to advertise it in areas which are generally women dominated like women's gym classes etc

i have no problem advertising or perhaps making a website, although due to my job i couldn't show my face it just wouldn't be worth the time or effort at the minute, possibly in the future if i decide to continue and try and do it on a more regular basis and feel that it would achieve something , i will add that the women that i have seen have all seen pictures of me and asked me lots of questions before meeting me,

thanks for the advice about the business cards etc i had thought of that although i didn't think id put that much information on them , guess id need to tho or at least make an HTML link so they can get any other info they want ,
 i wasn't expecting an overwhelming amount of interest either , obviously with the way sex is viewed and especially paying for it by women in general the vast majority of women wouldn't be interested, however the more women i speak to the more i find that there is actually a percentage of women who are interested , maybe just out of curiosity or one of those "what if" thoughts but still there are a few who will take a step or two more and actually do something about it.

as for saying lol its just a bad habit Ive gained over the past while, although i think a majority of people of most ages use it , because I'm certainly not some "teenage text boy"  ,  altho i cn tlk lik dis if ya wan lol       i just generally put lol to show that i find something amusing .

anyways thanks for the advice, ill pop back on in a month or two and let you know how I'm getting on, just to ease your curiosity .....

Yep, everything Emily said. I think the bottom line is possibly that men and women are looking for different things. (Warning, HUGE generalisation containing absolutely no startling new insight follows!)

Men want sex - and filth and raunch and naughtiness, to experiment with new positions, new partners, new anything! These are all things that are easy to do given an hour, some privacy and a few accessories. 

Women want intimacy. It takes time, it is sincere and it cant be faked. 

I'm not making a value judgement on the relative worth of either of these things, just pointing out there is a fundamental difference between the sexes and although these modern times might be making them inch closer the gap is by no means closed yet. And yes, I know its a cliched sentiment, but some things become cliches because they are true!

R xx

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I can see how a male escort - if he were smart, attractive in personality as well as looks, and NEVER gave freebies - could probably create a little market for himself.

The bold in this quote made me laugh and laugh and laugh...

Men, especially older men, overweight men, or socially awkward men are going to struggle as women their own age are increasingly looking to settle down and younger women brand them as 'creepy' because of the age gap or because they're not attractive (there ARE creepy men out there, but there is a feminist idea being pushed that male sexuality is inherently dangerous or icky and should be controlled and that's doing no one any favours). It's mostly men who fall into that gap that make up our client base - and because they're doing it the idea trickles down into other types of men through 'guy talk' - they learn that women are hard to get and paying for it is easier.

I agree with you completely, but please don't call that idea mentioned above a feminist one! I'm a feminist which means I care about gender equality, which means I completely agree with you that men suffer from stupid horrid old stereotypes just as much as women do. In the most modern and civilised of situations, in fact, I think men can suffer worse because while I (as a relatively priviledged young woman) can go and get a good job and all that, men are still often considered basic and animalistic and a man with any 'feminine' traits is still 'fair game' and mocked frequently. I'm a feminist! Women who dislike men are misandrists.

Interestingly, I read earlier today that about 400 years ago, it was men who were considered more in tune with their emotions and more sensitive, gentle, artistic and empathetic generally. Women were considered the animals who were controlled by hunger, thirst and lust! Also, I think in Ancient Greece there was a time when women were considered to be the ones rampaging around demanding sex constantly. While I'm sure things were still very complex in those times, it's something else which helps show modern ideas of men and women to be just as shallow and inaccurate, too.

As gender equality improves I reckon either prostitution jobs will become open to men on a way bigger scale, or die out almost completely as people start having better, stigma-free sex without paying for it in their normal lives Could go either way!

I just wanted to thank you here for articulating something that I was thinking but couldn't have written in such a good way. I think our society just needs a leeeetle bit more time to get used to the "OMG - don't judge people? Not even when they have fully consenting sex of some kind with someone else?! What an outrageous new concept!!!" thing, and then hopefully people will start to let go of many of the really uselessly retro ideas they hold about binary gender and gender-based restrictions on behaviour. Men think women are hard to get into bed because women have HAD to be hard to get into bed lest they lose the respect of everyone around them! It was only a few bloody years ago that women had no real freedom at all. But at least one amazing study (carried out in a Scandinavian country, I believe) has shown that increased social and sexual freedom for women leads to loads more sex being had by all. Jolly good, I say. Oh, and our bonobo monkey cousins are probably living examples of that, too!

Regarding paying prossies, well. It's already the case that 40-year-old+ men who are single for any reason have tons of women chasing them (and not always to 'settle down'), but if they don't want to shag women their own age then they're probably going to have to pay for it one way or another because we prize and value youth in our society so ridiculously much. That's a whole separate issue! But yes, I had a newly-single client tell me just last month that he's fighting off all the invites out to dinner and drinks from ladies who know him at work etc, and he's not good-looking in a standard way but he's a real, genuine sweetheart, so I honestly hope he meets a nice woman who treats him well.

Er, I'm rambling now, and definitely taking this thread off-topic so I might have to scold myself. I do think the future of sexuality in our society is fascinating, though, and I hope to see just as many developments in the next 50 years as there were in the last 50. I'm sure there will be a whole new batch of crazy problems, too!

I get guys of PlentyOfFish.  You can see their pics, email and then hook up, so to speak.  Gumtree was the best until they closed it down, and hence I became an escort!

no replies to that kind of assertion? Sad...