With regards to the deleting accounts part, I was thinking more of the fact that site policy, based on reading various threads with moderator posts in them, seems to be that SAAFE is a forum for those in the sex industry, and those who don't fit are frequently and curtly told to leave, or at least hinted that there's no reason for them to be here. A wannabe straight male escort who will never have any clients doesn't really fit the bill for belonging here, so do they need an account?
The page they'd get redirected to is the reply they'd recieve. It should be clear, concise, well written, and state all the facts, to the point where there's no real need for these guys to continue posting. if they're silly enough to not want to read the page and keep asking questions anyway, do you really want them here?
Calling them stupid is probably overkill, ok. But the virtue of redirecting to a page, or using a canned response, is that something prewritten can be as polite as you like.
It's your call. I think anyone doing the same thing over and over, especially when they get no thanks or results from it, is eventually going to get burnt out. And that's never fun.
Well I would first remind you that the
forum guidelines (which could also be described as 'site policy') request that anyone who see fit to make suggestions on how the boards are run and moderated does so in private and by way of the administration/moderation team, not by posting suggestions on the public board. I would also remind you that many, many people of all genders join the site thinking that they want to be an escort, and disappear just as quickly once they have been directed to the main site and find out how much work they'll actually have to do.
SAAFE exists to help answer these questions, and whilst it is extremely rare for any straight man to get work from female clients, it is not completely unknown and anybody is welcome to join the forum and ask about it. We do need an article to link to, but until somebody who actually knows what they're talking about and can therefore write with some knowledge and credibility (and that does not include me, since I am female) takes it on, we're stuck with this thread (and you should have seen what it was like before this...)
Repetative questions are par for the course on any message board, especially one with a constant stream of newbies; how many times roughly have we had 'I want to be an escort but don't know where to start?' (
answer: post link to main site, tell poster to read and return to forum with specific questions), and 'Can anyone recommmend an agency in London/Birmingham/Manchester etc etc?' (
answer: post link to Emily's Choosing Agency article, remind poster that we don't recommend on main site because we don't offer free advertising for pimps but they might get a few PMs) and 'How do I do I do X, X and X on Adultwork, because I can't be arsed to look through the Help section where all of these questions are answered?' (
answer: usually extremely simple, if they'd looked through the Help section). This thread is by no means the only one. Throw in Outraged Prossie of Anytown complaining about bareback, hagglers, no shows and people who phone and ask all the questions that are answered on website/profile and so on, and there really isn't that much new stuff by any stretch of the imagination.
What I will say, Nanako is that it is not your place to speculate on my or any other stranger's mental health and I will thank you not to do so again; I have been working as a prostitute on and off for eight years and as a result I run a busy and successful business alongside other industry roles as well as having an active 'other' life. Whilst moderating on SAAFE is an important part of it all, it is a very small part and the occasional post on a single repetitive message board thread is not going to induce any sort of burnout in me, I can assure you; as you have been asked before, please refrain from making any more personal remarks about other posters. I do not need to be reminded that anything is 'my call', believe me.
This has gone far enough off topic now, so we will just let it die until the next wannabe comes along. If anybody has any more ideas about how the forum should be run, please either start a thread in Off Topic, or address them to the admins in the appropriate way.
