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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Sarah sweeties on 24 April 2013, 05:00:37 pm
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I got a stalker on the phone keeps changing numbers everyone of them ive reported.
He just rang up again different number of course saying he knows where I live why won,t I be his girlfriend do I still want to have his babies. What other action can I take. without having to go to the police because im believing they do nout. Im already thinking of quiting escort which I love indeed but getting sick of tired of the idiots that try and scam rip me off and finally pestering on the phone !
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Hi Samantha harassment should be taken seriously by police and they must deal with it for you. you shouldn't have to put up with that unbalanced individual whether you are are escort or not,.
Don't give up what you say you enjoy ,I don't know where you advertise but maybe use 2 phones, one for the genuine clients to call on when you have met them and another you display the number I had to do that for a while as had too many crank calls and timewasters.
good luck keep safe
O x
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Samantha
You need to report this to the police, tell them he keeps changing his number and keep records of his texts and calls. They take harassment very seriously these days and will take action(and if they don't I'd be wanting to know why!).
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so if you change your number how does he get it? XX
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so if you change your number how does he get it? XX
If it's her work number and she puts it on her adverts he'll get it.
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Sorry to hear you're being harrassed.. If you google your phone company and "nuisance calls" they should have a department that deals with this. They'll want you to fill out a form with examples of dates, times etc of three nuisance calls. I used to work for a phone company in Australia and the next step was to send the nuisance caller a letter, or ask their phone company to send them one, warning them to desist. If they didn't, their number would be disconnected and they'd be blacklisted from connecting any new numbers with that company. We'd also pass the call records onto the police. Not sure how that will work here since you can connect prepaid numbers without registering but might be worth a try. eg for vodafone- help.vodafone.co.uk/system/selfservice.controller?CONFIGURATION=1000&PARTITION_ID=1&CMD=BROWSE_TOPIC&LANGUAGE=en&COUNTRY=us&TOPIC_ID=239716&PARENT_TOPIC_ID=239693&DISPLAY=SUBTOPICARTICLES
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This sounds childish but do you know any guys who no about your work who don't mind being the outraged bf. Every now and then if i get a caller that doesn't shuttup, my boyfriend answers the phone, just hello in a male voice is enough. As soon as it sounds like another person is involved especially a male they worried that things will get serious. I'm not by the way suggesting he threatens him or anything, he probably won't even need to tell him off just the voice in itself.
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This sounds childish but do you know any guys who no about your work who don't mind being the outraged bf. Every now and then if i get a caller that doesn't shuttup, my boyfriend answers the phone, just hello in a male voice is enough. As soon as it sounds like another person is involved especially a male they worried that things will get serious. I'm not by the way suggesting he threatens him or anything, he probably won't even need to tell him off just the voice in itself.
Yes, it worked for me quite a few times too. As soon as he says "hello", they put the phone down and usually go away (for a while at least).
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so if you change your number how does he get it? XX
He changes his no. But I know its him bye his voice and if changed mine he only get it again via aw and other sites im registered to but I think im gonna take adviced and get 2 phones. At the moment works not great guys like him have put me off these days you don,t know who are genuine and genuine pain in the backside timewasters and to be fair not got the money and time to entertain them !
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As soon as you know it's him hang up. Don't talk to him and don't give him the chance to talk. Add his number to your address book and when you see it's him again, don't answer.
I don't know what phone you have but even my cheap ?10 Samsung model has the option to block 10 numbers. As soon as he changes his number add it to the block list and it will automatically block his number.
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This sounds childish but do you know any guys who no about your work who don't mind being the outraged bf. Every now and then if i get a caller that doesn't shuttup, my boyfriend answers the phone, just hello in a male voice is enough. As soon as it sounds like another person is involved especially a male they worried that things will get serious. I'm not by the way suggesting he threatens him or anything, he probably won't even need to tell him off just the voice in itself.
im gonna try that next time he does I just put my male friend on the phone. But sometimes it can make it worse and he will phone again propely why can,t I be your boyfriend something crazy like that but to be fair im getting enough at this moment with timewasters and idiots after free sex and trying every trick under the sun. Im stressed out at the moment and trying to locate a sex project worker for some advice and help so I can sort myself out and find someone I can talked to then go back into escorting with but where im 100% myself again !
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hi guys
im in need off some advice. Had a guy fone and fone for ages, I worked in Cardiff at the time and he never wanted to travel there? weird! anyway when I moved to Newport he started phoning again, he booked came along for half and hour, seemed ok and now he wont leave me alone...
It stated with him asking for a blowjob for 20 I said no please don't ask again, he's now saying if I don't he will tell my neighbours what im doing!! Then came the 'whore' 'slut' etc etc etc texts!
I now blocked him but hes still phoning daily, my phone shows me all missed calls even the blocked ones but not any blocked texts so he could be texting anything and I wonder if its better to know so I can deal with it or just keep him blocked and hope he will go away? this has been going on for 6wks, I don't want to move on again so soon I like my flat.
As anyone else had a client do this and how should I deal with him, he won't give up and tbh this is the first time iv ever been a bit scared of someone!
thx Gem
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I have had something like this happen to me, so far its been going on for 9 months, I googled his number and it brought up all his details as the stupid bastard was stalking me from his work phone however that didn't stop him from stalking me though I must say the vile abuse I got all day isn't anywhere near as bad. I reported it on UglyMugs and it turns out he's been doing it to other girls aswell. I would go to the police if it weren't for the fact I have family in the police where I live so I cant really. If you don't mind going to the police its best to let them deal with him x
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thx PP yeah I should do uglymugs just in case he is doing it too other girls. Havent heard anything for a few days then had 14 missed calls off him today already, I know I shouldn't let him get to me and I know to him it would look like my phone is off? but I hardly answer the phone to new numbers just in case its him and Im losing business but he's getting inside my head. Im really mad at myself for letting him get to me! x
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Theres another guy that me and a few of the girls in my area get stalked off, he doesn't send abuse at all he just watches your every move and tries to book you from all sorts of different numbers and usernames and is quite clever about what he does as he defo gets into our heads, its hard to keep track of him at times and as for my other stalker who's been at it for 9 months, he really got into my head so I totally know where your coming from, your not alone there. I'm so baffled at these weirdos but then again crazy people don't know they're crazy x
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Hey, I'm not sure what phone you have, but have you tried Mr Number Call Blocker? It's such a great little thing, it's free to download and will stop any unwanted messages or calls. Simply put in your stalkers number in the text and call bit and it will cut him off if he tries to ring so you won't even hear it, plus the texts won't show, except in a list on the call blocker.
I agree with everyone else though; I'd file a complaint about harassment to the police as you have every right to. I had a Pretty Woman timewaster and he's still trying to contact me. Looking at the work phone (old one which doesn't have it), I've had a similar array of texts too. He has been warned that any more and I will be pressing charges, despite me ignoring them and placing him under "Timewasting idiot" now.
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Lolita what phone do you have? And is there a limit on that app to how many people you can block? Sounds great x
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ATT has a smart limits plan for 5.00 )American and you can block up to 30 numbers. I'm sure other carriers have something similar. It way mostly geared towards parents so they could control their kid's calling but it's been a life saver for me
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I have Call Blocker Pro for my BlackBerry and I don't think there is a limit - I've got about 400 blocked so far (off the top of my head).
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I have an HTC phone (ChaCha) and it has a Call Blocker and SMS blocker as standard ..... I use it a fair bit for persistent text/call TW's. Must be a nightmare without this facility as some guys do not give up! ::)
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Do the HTC handsets have built in block facilities? I always used Mr Number Call Blocker.
PP- you can have loads of people on it, I think it's unlimited. There is even a facility where you can block a whole town! :) x
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You can block a whole town? Really? :o :o ;D That's actually amazing! Presuming that would be just landlines though? .
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I have Call Blocker Pro for my BlackBerry and I don't think there is a limit - I've got about 400 blocked so far (off the top of my head).
so, Amy, do you just use your one phone and block any pests? I can't really afford a 2nd phone bill right now-besides buying a new phone so I was just curious
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Do the HTC handsets have built in block facilities? x
Yes my ChaCha does so I would assume its an HTC standard.
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I don't want to go off subject here as it's best we stay on the subject of stalkers. But, daft question, when would you know a phone stalker was one and when you should go to the police/what to say... like I said, don't want to go off subject, but someone (non client) who I went on a date with recently and it didn't work out and I blocked this guys number because he was texting and trying to ring LOADS.
To cut a long story short, having checked my Mr Number, this person has tried to contact me about 46 times. He's tried to ring but it mainly seems to be texts (I can't read what they say as I turned off the facility for reading them). But I had an unknown number the other day which I refused to answer.
Thing is, with clients, I have found they tend to give up if they are ignored, or at least the TW's I have previously had when working as an indie briefly! They normally sent about five or so stupid texts before giving up and not contacting again... but, erm, 46 times, sometimes at 2/3am is freaking me out a bit :(
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The idea of blocking texts and calls is so that you don't get freaked out if they try to call or text. Best to block and forget or you are as well not bothering blocking. ::)