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Re: Spotting timewasters
« Reply #60 on: 20 May 2016, 01:03:57 pm »
Hi Steele

I have had the same numbers this week I am getting pissed with these time wasters and it is to the point were I am having a attitude with genuine clients if you know what I mean,have you got any advice on how to deal with this situation as I feel it makes me angry and then when a client does text and ask a question I go on the defense and can be quiet rude ,I guess wat I am say is have you any tips that I can use to work out if there time waster and are that are genuine clients I know some do get away with it and we cant stop that I hope you not to confused about what I saying but find it difficult to put things in words ,I hope you don't mind me askingx
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Re: Spotting timewasters
« Reply #61 on: 20 May 2016, 05:04:04 pm »
Anyone who tells you how horny they are, tells you how big they are, tells you that they will stay as long as you would like them to, tells you they will turn up as they have money to burn/spend etc... Asks millions of questions....

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Re: Spotting timewasters
« Reply #62 on: 20 May 2016, 05:44:54 pm »
Another tell tale sign for me is when they book (usually about a week or several days in advance!) And want an address there and then, even though I give them a postcode and clearly say please contact me on the day of your booking to confirm and I will send you details of where to park etc. But they want my full address so they "know where to come" Sure sign of an address collector; as if I'd tell a total stranger my full address including the house number? They usually give up when they realise that they won't be getting my door number until I can see them parked up in the spot I told them to park, but a select few will "arrive" on said day, say that they're at the postcode and ask for my door number despite not being there when I look out the window.
Address collectors are one of the more sinister kind of time wasters, I always wonder what they want girls addresses for. Glad I'm experienced enough to spot them now, makes me concerned for newbies though!
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Re: Spotting timewasters
« Reply #63 on: 20 May 2016, 06:28:35 pm »
Initially, genuine one(s), can easily turn into TWs. Regular texting mainly, asking for my availability (likely wanking himself off) and this goes on over weeks.  I subsequently insisted on sending me the online booking.  Today, nothing came through whilst he asked when I would be free (as if he ought to know) and asked for a booking.  He then texted me, "have you received my booking yet?".  He knows how to book on AW.  Blocked this idiot today.  I knew this was coming but still somewhat unpleasant (mainly he wasn't a TW to begin with / I had sex with this guy and he turned into an Idiot).  Likely, he was an idiot to begin with and I was too naive not to notice.   :-\ :'( >:(  Wow, it must be either all the bad weather or the weeks dealing with "them"  ???  I gotta chill..::) :P
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Re: Spotting timewasters
« Reply #64 on: 20 May 2016, 08:18:37 pm »
I'll apologise now if anyone has to deal with a Scouse dickhead...

He'd called me before, mentioning his big dick, and of course never confirmed. Rang me again recently as if we'd never spoken before, after initial queries, "So, do you like a big dick then?" Non-committal noise from me. Bit more chit-chat. "You like big dicks then?" Me: "You've already asked me that."

I probably shouldn't have, but then told him that we viewed anyone who mentioned their dick size as a TW. He sounded a little offended, but strung out the pretence a bit longer then said he would call back to confirm a time.

I'm still waiting!
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Re: Spotting timewasters
« Reply #65 on: 21 May 2016, 02:29:44 am »
Initially, genuine one(s), can easily turn into TWs. Regular texting mainly, asking for my availability (likely wanking himself off) and this goes on over weeks.  I subsequently insisted on sending me the online booking.  Today, nothing came through whilst he asked when I would be free (as if he ought to know) and asked for a booking.  He then texted me, "have you received my booking yet?".  He knows how to book on AW.  Blocked this idiot today.  I knew this was coming but still somewhat unpleasant (mainly he wasn't a TW to begin with / I had sex with this guy and he turned into an Idiot).  Likely, he was an idiot to begin with and I was too naive not to notice.   :-\ :'( >:(  Wow, it must be either all the bad weather or the weeks dealing with "them"  ???  I gotta chill..::) :P

For me these are the most frustrating type of TW. I've had a couple of regular clients turn in to text pests, and cancel bookings at the last minute. In the past I've given them the benefit of the doubt as I've seen them a few times before with no issues until now, but after the third cancellation in a row (which usually follows an annoying text tennis session about what we'll do this time) I've ended up saying enough is enough. So bloody annoying as they end up wasting time I wouldn't have tolerated from a newbie. Really don't understand why/when a regular turns into a regular idiot!!
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Re: Spotting timewasters
« Reply #66 on: 21 May 2016, 09:25:10 am »

For me these are the most frustrating type of TW. I've had a couple of regular clients turn in to text pests, and cancel bookings at the last minute. In the past I've given them the benefit of the doubt as I've seen them a few times before with no issues until now, but after the third cancellation in a row (which usually follows an annoying text tennis session about what we'll do this time) I've ended up saying enough is enough. So bloody annoying as they end up wasting time I wouldn't have tolerated from a newbie. Really don't understand why/when a regular turns into a regular idiot!!
 

BJC

A great post!!!  Escorting is far more complex than I ever previously thought.  It's so incredibly helpful to know that this is a known behaviour in some punters.   I feel much better about this.  I hate to be played by punters with his juvenile / infantile behavior.  Now, he (your ex regular and mine) can find someone else to fuck around.   ;D

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Re: Spotting timewasters
« Reply #67 on: 21 May 2016, 09:37:42 am »
I've had regulars suddenly start doing no shows and I'm the same after the third cancellation or second no show from a previously good regular it's game over.

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« Reply #68 on: 21 May 2016, 10:19:05 pm »
It's just bloody rude. A particular incident that sticks in my mind is when a guy ID seen a couple of times booked and did a no show,no cancellation, nothing. A few days later he texted me apologising and said his mother had been rushed into hospital and had sadly died, hence why he didn't get in touch. 6 months later he rebooked, and after a long questionnaire via text about what we could do he went quiet 20 mins before he was supposed to arrive. Then nothing. 2 days later he apologised; apparently his mother had just died. I replied; "What, again?! Gosh, that is unlucky for your mother to pass away TWICE in 6 months." Then I sent a screenshot of his texts from 6 months ago, from the last time his mother died. Never heard from him again...
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Re: Spotting timewasters
« Reply #69 on: 21 May 2016, 10:25:18 pm »
I hate that. The regulars who turn into no shows or cancel consecutively I usually give people two chances and that's it then I stop seeing them. Funny how when you put your foot down and refuse to book them again they come running back and suddenly have all the free time in the world to see you!

I once had a regularish client no show me twice in a row and his excuse the next day for the first on was he has been burgled.... I thought hmm okay could be true, so let that one go, second time he cancels he says he was mugged and was unconscious and in hospital with a broken leg and a head injury but can see me tomorrow, I was like really???? You never thought to think your lies through first? It's so silly!

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Re: Spotting timewasters
« Reply #70 on: 21 May 2016, 11:17:17 pm »
It's just bloody rude. What, again?! Gosh, that is unlucky for your mother to pass away TWICE in 6 months." Then I sent a screenshot of his texts from 6 months ago, from the last time his mother died. Never heard from him again...

I would say he probably had "borderline personality".  These men do exist.  I heard excuses of "mother died" in my civvie street life.  Often used by men to attract "oh you, poor thing" in female psyche.  Once this is said, it's a done deal.  ::) ::) Pathological liars.

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Re: Spotting timewasters
« Reply #71 on: 31 May 2016, 08:23:04 am »
Not sure where to post my question.
I have received a call from guy calling himself Ray from landline phone Bournemouth area. He started talking about his bad experience with the other girls and how badly he was treated by them. The eventually found the one he liked but now she's got a cancer. He said his long term relationship broke and he moved from Midlands and now living in New Forest.
He was very chatty and asking me where I'm  staying when i come to Southampton and telling me that he doesn't mind even travelling to Oxford to see me if the need be. I had trouble by trying to finish conversation and said could you make a booking through AW please to which he replied he doesn't do AW after all bad experience he had (although he wad telling me what a great feedback he's got and girls kept saying how nice he smells and what a gent he is etc etc). After i asked how he found my profile as i don't advertised anywhere else he said he doesn't do AW anymore, but the thing is i only put Southampton on my profile a day before.
Anyway , he asked if i do role play to which I day I don't and he said fair enough.  He asked for my email address so he could email me some details.  I gave him my work email address and he emailed me 3 page scenario of domination role play !!!! I stopped reading it after about 5Th line but then I remembered that probably 3 years ago i received a few emails from guy called Ray and situation was a bit similar - first arranging booking then he couldn't make it so rearrange twice and then emailed me a very long scenario and I just blocked him.
My profile on AW is different from the one I had back then so I can't check it. I was wondering if anyone came across this guy? He said his name on AW  (after I  insisted on him giving it to me) [removed as it's irrelevant] but of course I cannot find any one by this nickname more than likely because it does not exist. I don't have his mobile number just landline which didn't give me any results when i tried to google it.
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Re: Spotting timewasters
« Reply #72 on: 31 May 2016, 08:31:22 am »
This from start to finish is a red flag, not a client that you want to take on as he sounds like he would be a pest if he did turn up but is most likely a fantasist or timewaster.

Stay away from him and block him if you can. Don't reply to his emails.

I don't answer landlines or private numbers.

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Re: Spotting timewasters
« Reply #73 on: 31 May 2016, 08:35:57 am »
He just sounds like a timewaster probably getting off on chatting on the phone.I would have just told him that I wouldn't be able to book him in as he was on a landline and ask him to call back from his mobile (he wouldn't have done).If you are finding it hard to get off the phone when someone is waffling and you aren't interested then asking them to call back because someone is at the door is a good one.
I wouldn't worry about it.Just a timewaster I don't think anything sinister.

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« Reply #74 on: 31 May 2016, 08:43:53 am »
By the way you can't search for service seekers on AW as far as I am aware.Only service providers come up on an AW search.
I wouldn't waste your energy on looking up silly callers on google etc.If I did that for every idiot that called I'd never be off the computer.Just block his emails and store his number as timewaster.