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Kat1

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sore!
« on: 16 August 2008, 05:08:03 pm »
HI i am relatively new to this, but just wanted some help from other girls. When a guy is on the large side lol, i get really sore and bruised and this can last for about 5 days so means i cant see any other clients. I do use a standard lube, but wondered if there was anything else i can do, is there a better lube for this problem? or any other suggestions anyone might have. Help!

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Re: sore!
« Reply #1 on: 16 August 2008, 05:27:11 pm »
Are you using KY jelly? Some people do, but it's not very good for vaginal lubrication. Just about anything else is better. Avoid things like flavoured and warming lubes as they're more likely to irritate you.

If girth is the problem, all you can do is take it slow and apply lube regularly. If it's length (which is probably where the bruising comes from), you need to make the penetration more shallow. Spoon position can be good for that, you can also do missionary but with your legs crossing his so you can resist when he's gone far enough, or go on top so you control it.

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Re: sore!
« Reply #2 on: 17 August 2008, 09:06:23 am »
As Anika Mae says there are some positions that are less penetrative than others. Personally I find mish and doggy more so than others, unless I clamp my legs together with both. I do love spooning if the guy has a particularly big willy, especially as my fat arse prevents it from going in all the way,lol. 'Tis true. The problem can sometimes be though is that the guy will then want to lift your leg sideways then "want to get in there" as they get more carried away with the moment. So you'd need to control that.
Some lubes are definitely better than others. Durex's own brand does more for me than a tube of KY, as I find it dries out quicker.

Kat1

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Re: sore!
« Reply #3 on: 17 August 2008, 12:59:10 pm »
Thanks for your help on the positions i will try that, and yes try and stop them getting carried away.
As for the lube i am currently using durex play, but i wondered if there were any that were more slippery and wet,more like an oil one but obviously one you can use with condoms so wouldnt chafe as much?

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Re: sore!
« Reply #4 on: 17 August 2008, 01:13:38 pm »
Oh, yes, I didn't mention silicone lube because it doesn't suit everyone, but it's more slippery than oil and it's condom safe. I recommend Pjur Original or Woman, ID Millennium, and Wet Platinum. Pjur Original is the thickest of all of them, the ID and Wet ones are quite thin. My favourite is Pjur in the drop-stop tubes because it's the only container I've found that's completely leak free, not many places stock it but I get mine here.

Silicone lube is also great for hand jobs (especially good if you don't do OWO), but you can't use it with silicone toys so if you have them, keep a small bottle of something water based around.

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Re: sore!
« Reply #5 on: 17 August 2008, 01:18:15 pm »
And www.lovehoney.co.uk do some oil-based lubes as well. 'Though they are more expensive than your usual lubes. They also do Organic oil-based lube, and Organic water-based lubes. Just go to their website and click on the "lubes" tab. See what suits you.

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Re: sore!
« Reply #6 on: 19 August 2008, 05:09:39 pm »
I use durex sensilube which is good for the sensitive among us.  Also, too much lubricant can be a bad thing as far as pain goes due to the lack of control.  In other word, his cock can slide around too easily.  It's hard to define how much is too much though, as everyone is different.