another thing is...he had confirmed a time with me the 1st time we met, and contacted me...yet this time there wasnt. Why do it once, and not do it another time  and this also happened with someone else in the past, who I did eventually book. He called me on a Saturday night, asking if I was available. I told him,

"look...you said YOU were going to call me".
He says, "I was waiting for you call".
I told him, "I dont call my clients ok, Im not running anyone down".
He says, "I understand that, and I like that"
I said, "ok, so next time you want to see me, you need to call and make a time for a booking"....and so he called the next day and made a time

I dont get it 

Hi Joey, I would say it's up to you and your client to come to a mutually agreeable time, but you both need to agree on an exact time, unless you want to sit around waiting for clients to turn up that have no intention of doing so.

Clients will be clients. Let's try and put ourselves in their shoes for a moment. For some of them it has taken months to build up the courage of making that call, I think the thought of meeting an escort for the first time must be terrifying for them - if that's the case I would accept an apology email or phonecall to say that something came up and they couldn't make it but would really like to re-book.

For those that just don't turn up without giving the courtesy of an explanation I would tread carefully before accepting another booking from them again - this is the signature of a timewaster and in this line of work time is precious and time is money. I'd make it known to them that they let me down before and I did not appreciate it.

Some clients like to speak to escorts on the phone, it's an opportunity for them to voice the fantasies they want to live out to someone who will listen to them with an open mind. They probably don't know anyone in their personal life that they can talk like that to. But that's not our job. Avoid getting into long conversations about what the visit will involve, what you'll do to him, what he'll do to you etc. because this is sometimes all the client wants - a cheap way of getting their kicks without ever having to pay out more than the cost of a phonecall. That's not what we're there for and if the client doesn't make firm booking arrangements but lots of detailed phonecalls I'd point him in the direction of a good adult chatline as it's clear he has no intention of meeting.

It's the same with dating. If your date says to you on the phone "yeah sure we can go to the cinema SOMETIME", then that is the crucial sign that the intention is not there at all and you should continue looking for Mr Right. Intention is signalled by definite times and dates. If he says "yeah sure we can go the cinema, how about I pick you up at 8pm on Thursday?", how much more likely does that sound like it's going to happen?

I would say that during my time as an escort approx 80% enquiries did not follow through to an actual meet, and 20% did. Of course it's natural for clients to make enquiries without booking (how often do you shop around for the best bargain when making a purchase online or in town?), but you just have to weed out the timewasters. I think you develop a knack for it as time goes on. Learn to be firm and polite or people will just walk all over you and take you for a mug. If you are busy when  a client wants to meet, tell them that time is not suitable for you instead of dropping everything to suit them, don't put them on a pedestal or feed into their ego. The world doesn't revolve around clients, there's plenty more where they came from and just remember that they probably need you more than you need them.

If you want to increase your likelihood of firm bookings, I think it all comes down to effective marketing. Think about who you're targeting... i.e. businessmen or students and what image of yourself you want to portray to potential clients i.e. rent boy (sorry to be crude and crass) or high class escort. Get yourself a good website. Think quality, not quantity.

Hope some of that helps, it's only stuff I've picked up from my experience as an escort. I happened to make every mistake in the book but I've always believed that every experience, whether good or bad, can be learned from, so here I am passing my lessons on to you!

Best of luck x

I created a website for myself using a free template from http://rare-escorts.com/

It's a pretty foolproof way of setting up a website for yourself, really easy to use with lots of different features like calendar, FAQs section, photo gallery and mailing list and would probably be ok as a temporary measure until you get a more professional one designed, or even as a permanent site for you.

I got a fair few bookings through it, and I should note that the enquiries I got through this were never timewasters - they all went to full bookings.

Pardon me for opening my mouth! 

I think I've made it clear that timewasters are part and parcel of escorting, indeed, I spent quite a bit of my own time today replying to the OP trying to articulate things I've picked up that might help Joey. If people are to give balanced replies to posts however, then it is fair to tell all sides of their experience relevent to the OP. Or would you rather I just stick to the negative advice? I don't think Joey would be so naive to think that what worked for one ex-escort will magically work exactly the same for him anyway (give him some credit).

It does seem that some people here focus less on giving support to fellow escorts and more on criticising others for things they have or haven't said in their replies.

Joey - if you have any Qs or just want to rant, feel free to PM me.

Jo, Lex and Justme...Thanks. This has definently made me look at this a bit closer and ask myself, what am I doing? And Lexie I cant get the whole, "if I were a doctor and someone said they'll see me sometime Tuesday" out of my head. Thats so true. I mean who does that? Everytime you have an appointment with a company they will need a specific time. None of that, see you SOMETIME bullshit. I hate that word!

As far as getting a website, I can see myself doing that. But at the same time its not very popular here and most people just list their services on the directories. But like one of you said, atleast with a site I can have specific directions on how to make a booking and what I will or wont put up with. I just need to figure out who's going to design it for me    I have the photos, now I just need the website...and actually, now that I think about it I have someone who WILL be able to design it...PERFECT.

I really appreciate y'all taking the time to give a better scope. I thought I was going to get one of those, "its your fault, you need to be more organized" speeches LOL, but in truth I try to be as organized as possible, but as you can see this time it was someone I had met before so I didnt bother to pin him to a time because I assumed he would just CALL me like everyone else does when they are ready to see me. But now that I know why it should be done, it makes perfect sense and from this day on I will tell them, "look, I cant take a booking without a specific time!". In fact, I did it last night...A guy said, "can I get back with you shortly". I said, fine but I need to have an idea of what time exactly. and the guy never responded back to me.

Besides, this was a good lesson learned with not much lossed. So what I lossed a couple hundred dollars but also this guy wanted me to do some digusting things which I normally never do unless I really need the money. He can find someone else to feed into his sick fantasies. I like my bookings clean.

And let us all see it once its done (cover your eyes though girls, his pics are porny lol)

LOL...well I have a couple more shoots coming up. Im trying to figure out what kind of style I want to do. But the websites I advertise on dont give much room for uniqueness. They all advertise as "horny boys, fuck fuck fuck". So me dressing in a suit and coming off all "prestigous" just isnt going to sell in my opinion. They want sex, thats what its all about. I dont get expected to be taken on a dinner on the 1st booking, just wine and stuff at their place.