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lucelou

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So having a boyfriend means I have a pimp? WTF!
« on: 12 February 2013, 03:00:30 pm »
Ok so I have been contacted by a girl who wants to do a duo... great I thought, so full disclosure I have a boyfriend who knows what I do etc and fully supports my endeavours.

The response was sorry I won't work with pimps!

Seriously can a working girl not have a boyfriend and/or a personal love life?

I explained to the girl that I have been with my BF for 4 years we met at uni blah blah I became a stripper while at uni, my BF stood by me, his view is that if men are willing to pay to watch me undress and I am happy to let them and I am safe doing so then by all means.

Now the dancing has taken a nose dive as a result of new laws meaning girls can't have any physical contact with the guys (non sexual just grinding etc) so very few people were willing to pay, very often with the line but for ?150 I can get full sex so why should I pay you just for dancing...

To cut a long story short I was finding it harder and harder to make decent money and more and more stressed so after discussing it with my BF we decided that if you can't beat them join them and thus I became a working girl.

So is my supportive boyfriend actually my pimp?

I don't think so but do I just have rose tinted glasses on?

What do you girls think?

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Re: So having a boyfriend means I have a pimp? WTF!
« Reply #1 on: 12 February 2013, 03:12:32 pm »
Ok so I have been contacted by a girl who wants to do a duo... great I thought, so full disclosure I have a boyfriend who knows what I do etc and fully supports my endeavours.

The response was sorry I won't work with pimps!

Seriously can a working girl not have a boyfriend and/or a personal love life?

I explained to the girl that I have been with my BF for 4 years we met at uni blah blah I became a stripper while at uni, my BF stood by me, his view is that if men are willing to pay to watch me undress and I am happy to let them and I am safe doing so then by all means.

Now the dancing has taken a nose dive as a result of new laws meaning girls can't have any physical contact with the guys (non sexual just grinding etc) so very few people were willing to pay, very often with the line but for ?150 I can get full sex so why should I pay you just for dancing...

To cut a long story short I was finding it harder and harder to make decent money and more and more stressed so after discussing it with my BF we decided that if you can't beat them join them and thus I became a working girl.

So is my supportive boyfriend actually my pimp?

I don't think so but do I just have rose tinted glasses on?

What do you girls think?

I think she sounds as thick as pigshit. What I don't understand is why you felt you had to tell her about your personal life? Christ, I tell my clients more about myself than I would some random tart.

Pimping is controlling prostitution for gain - if your boyfriend doesn't get involved in your work (and you'd also have to be paying him somehow), he's not a pimp. Take no notice - she's an idiot.

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Re: So having a boyfriend means I have a pimp? WTF!
« Reply #2 on: 12 February 2013, 03:29:33 pm »
Thanks Amy.

I just felt I had to justify myself, we had arranged to meet in order to sort out some duo work, she was wanting to come to mine and I wasn't about to kick my BF out of his home in order to meet this girl so I felt she needed to be aware that he would be present and then that was her response to the situation...


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Re: So having a boyfriend means I have a pimp? WTF!
« Reply #3 on: 12 February 2013, 03:39:24 pm »
There must be lot's of girls that do have pimps and just refer to them as boyfriends, so maybe she is just being really over cautious or has had a bad experience with something like this in the past?
I can understand you wanting to talk this over and of course your boyfriend is not your pimp, but it think it is a bit harsh for people to be calling her names!

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Re: So having a boyfriend means I have a pimp? WTF!
« Reply #4 on: 12 February 2013, 04:29:08 pm »
but it think it is a bit harsh for people to be calling her names!

Funnily I am happy to be called a tart, ho, whore, harlot, slapper, slut, prossie, hook, hooker, floozy, and hussy amongst other things. Because I am now. I hate the term Escort though.

If you mean 'as thick or pigshit' or idiot... she is. If we can call clients those things and worse, same goes for other WG's when they are being so - surely?

Lucelou, that's a pain. Sounds like it is for the best though, I really couldn't tolerate working with a dumb arse x
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Re: So having a boyfriend means I have a pimp? WTF!
« Reply #5 on: 12 February 2013, 04:51:39 pm »
Thats ridiculous- I have a boyfriend who has nothing to do with my work ( he knows what I do and that's it), he has a great job and earns more than I do and I think he would be quite distressed about anyone thinking he was my pimp - as would I!! Sounds like your best off without working with her, I'm sure there are many other girls out there who would gladly do some duo work with you. Her loss....

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« Reply #6 on: 12 February 2013, 04:59:08 pm »
Thanks Amy.

I just felt I had to justify myself, we had arranged to meet in order to sort out some duo work, she was wanting to come to mine and I wasn't about to kick my BF out of his home in order to meet this girl so I felt she needed to be aware that he would be present and then that was her response to the situation...

I don't think that's unreasonable at all - your boyfriend has every right to be in his own place and all she had to say was that she wasn't comfortable being in a private dwelling with two strangers/a man (and nor would I be). You could have arranged to meet her in a cafe somewhere or thought of something else - there is no need at all to make ignorant, offensive assumptions and therefore I call thick as pigshit ;D.

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« Reply #7 on: 12 February 2013, 05:11:33 pm »
Hi

I would`nt worry about that, she was just being over cauious. I have a fella and he is happy with what I do, I get asked loads of times by clients "If my fella knows what I do?" and I say "yeah"


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« Reply #8 on: 12 February 2013, 06:53:33 pm »
no no noooo....okay so this post is about me so i clearly must respond not childishly but to explain my reason for not working with you hun...like i said not to cause offence....we had a chat you have a puppy that's fine ect....then you send a text saying 'hey my postcode is **** shall we say evening? around 8? my bf will be there as he lives with me is that ok? x' my responce---'oh no i wouldn't be comfortable with your bf being there hun x' which i then received 'ok then i don't think we will work well together. i get him to stay in the spare room when i have clients as a safty messure. but if you aren't comfortable with that then i don't think we can work as a team x'......my response----'aww what a shame hun it's just how pimp's an parlour's work i tend to stay away from male run anything in this industry it cause's complications chick x'....i then received 'he's not my pimp but think what you like x'----my responce-----'sorry i didnt mean to cause offence it's just pimps tend to work this way and i'v been in this profession for a good few years and from expirience male run business or involvement doesn't go well i'v also met many a girl with the bf type believeing he's the bf but he's got another agenda again don't mean to cause offence it's just how i work xx'------now i'm not trying to be a bitch i was just trying to explain that i'm not comfortable meeting a girl i have never met for the first time with a man i have never met, and the reason i don't meet a WG for the 1st time with a man i have never meet....now i may be being over cautious for other girls liking's but i have been an escort(whore brass.prostitute, working girl) for 5yrs and from previous expirience i have met girls that work for/with agency's/parlours that are male run they simply don't run well for umpteen reason's...i have also worked with girls that have 'bf' that look after them for security and it hasn't gone well.......I AM INDEPENDENT...by all means work how you want have whatever protection you want, i have also had a relationship while i am working and he was fine with what i did but i did not in anyway involve him in my work even if you are comfortable with him being there some woman are not and i am one of them woman.....i was simply just trying to be polite in explaining my reasons why i won't work with another male i have never met (being present) and you have clearly tried to portray it in the wrong way i am very sorry you feel this way but it's just how i work and many other WG work this way so please don't insult us by calling us names's or putting petty post's about us on sites i feel very silly for responding but i felt i needed to explain why i would not work with you....it's a shame as i have much duo experience and am allways looking for great WG to work with.....i hope i have explained myself clearly.......and if you take what i have said in the wrong way than maybe you have doubt's about your 'bf/security' agenda.....there is many a man okay with it but there is also many a man that is'nt so i tent to try stay away from WG/PARTNERS/MAN that i have never met again sorry to cause offence(i clearly have)

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« Reply #9 on: 12 February 2013, 07:07:13 pm »
may i add i have had a partner that is comfortable with what i do and had a partner present in another room.....but i have never suggest him be present with me when i meet another girl that has never met me or him......as there are many people that will quite happily meet you drive you off into the sunset and cut your throat....and i would of been quite happy to meet you AND him in a public place

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« Reply #10 on: 12 February 2013, 08:00:55 pm »
Ok as your job entails meeting perfect strangers I don't understand what the issue was, my BF doesn't run anything he just lives where I work. If you had concerns then you could of just suggested that you would prefer to meet in a public place rather than insinuate that I was being pimped out. A simple level of tact that would of avoided any upset or misunderstanding, if that was the level of tact you use with clients then it wouldn't suit the way I work which I guess would of also ruled out a working relationship for that reason alone...

The reason for meeting in a private place is because the subject matter that would be discussed is not one that I would want overheard...

My reason for being upset was one of a lack of tact and you could of stayed anonymous and just let me have my rant.

I have set up other attempts at duo work and my boyfriend was not an issue and we were both hugely insulted that someone would jump to such a horrible conclusion.

Can the moderator lock this thread? I have no intention of playing tennis with this woman....

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« Reply #11 on: 12 February 2013, 08:09:24 pm »
Since a moderator isn't here at the moment, I'll be happy to.

If anybody wants to carry on they can always take it to PM. Locked.