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EnglishAmy40

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Re: Small talk with clients
« Reply #15 on: 08 February 2022, 10:32:02 pm »
I always ask them if they've ever had any nightmare situations seeing sex workers haha. Oh god the ones that drone on and on, if I knew what a sis list was, they'd be on it for sure. I always used to find the end bit quite awkward but now I make sure there's eye contact and I always ask if they've got everything, ask for a kiss on the cheek, job done. I can usually find something to like about most of my men, even the droners but I have them down as OIQ (only if quiet).

Lady Frog

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Re: Small talk with clients
« Reply #16 on: 08 February 2022, 10:37:46 pm »
(and something to remember them by is always handy haha),


isn't it though 😅 I always update their contact name in my phone as soon as they fuck off out the door, and then a month later I've got a missed call from 'swindon carpenter who has pet parrots and a rhubarb patch'
A woman, especially, if she have the misfortune of knowing anything, should conceal it as well as she can. - Jane Austen

saltysweet

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« Reply #17 on: 08 February 2022, 11:59:43 pm »
I don't like chit chat. But i will be welcoming and positive.I'll ask how they are, did they find the location ok.No personal questions. I dont want to probe into their profession hobbies, lifestyle whatever.

I purposely never mention sex work unless they bring it up. And i wont talk about other providers.
But i try to avoid it.They can be as quiet as they like. Both with massage and escort. With massage I use silence  as a tool to get them in an altered state so can't be chatting and breaking the vibe.
« Last Edit: 09 February 2022, 07:04:10 pm by saltysweet »

Milf-G

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Re: Small talk with clients
« Reply #18 on: 09 February 2022, 11:26:22 am »
I always ask them if they've ever had any nightmare situations seeing sex workers haha. Oh god the ones that drone on and on, if I knew what a sis list was, they'd be on it for sure. I always used to find the end bit quite awkward but now I make sure there's eye contact and I always ask if they've got everything, ask for a kiss on the cheek, job done. I can usually find something to like about most of my men, even the droners but I have them down as OIQ (only if quiet).

I sometimes ask that too.

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Re: Small talk with clients
« Reply #19 on: 11 February 2022, 12:44:32 am »
I nod along with clients bringing up previous bad experiences with other escorts so they can have their vent. Sometimes it's just they had a clash of expectations and I found they can be realistic about this.

Lady Frog

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Re: Small talk with clients
« Reply #20 on: 11 February 2022, 11:11:32 am »
Same, I will listen but not say anything to encourage the conversation. Secretly I do quite enjoy hearing any mad stories they've had seeing sex workers, but I don't ask because I don't want them to think they can start slagging off other workers to me. If they start mentioning anyone by name I will switch the conversation.
A woman, especially, if she have the misfortune of knowing anything, should conceal it as well as she can. - Jane Austen

Justine

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Re: Small talk with clients
« Reply #21 on: 11 February 2022, 12:17:56 pm »
Same, I will listen but not say anything to encourage the conversation. Secretly I do quite enjoy hearing any mad stories they've had seeing sex workers, but I don't ask because I don't want them to think they can start slagging off other workers to me. If they start mentioning anyone by name I will switch the conversation.

Ah the small talk about other sps they have seen. It is far from small talk though when they (and there have been a few) who tell me how wonderful and fantastic and addictive certain other sps are and they go on to name them. Not sure of their motives in doing this but sometimes I can have a guess. What they don't know is that I am deciding at that time to not see them again. It has happened with one time clients but sadly also with those I have known a few years and seen countless times. So tactless.

EnglishAmy40

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Re: Small talk with clients
« Reply #22 on: 11 February 2022, 12:23:52 pm »
Just to clarify, these are stories where they have been mugged or followed home before when they tried escorts for the first time. It's offensive to suggest some escorts might sit there slagging others off, which I don't.

English Green

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Re: Small talk with clients
« Reply #23 on: 11 February 2022, 12:53:11 pm »
Just to clarify, these are stories where they have been mugged or followed home before when they tried escorts for the first time. It's offensive to suggest some escorts might sit there slagging others off, which I don't.

I have had a few clients telling me horror stories of where they been ripped off and mugged by sex workers it's rare but terrible. Some clients ask me about bad experiences or weird things and sometimes i might tell them there just intrigued really about the industry we work in.

The only clients i don't like is when they go in to details about other sex workers and try telling me all there personal info and i mean personal info, i had 1 client once near the end of the booking getting dressed was trying to show me whatsapp messages and pictures of 1 worker he goes out for dinner with him and wears no knickers and do overnights at half price and how she gives him bareback sex and trying to show me there sex chat. I told him that's private stuff that i don't need to see.

Some clients like that you do not want to see again especially when they have a big gob.

EnglishAmy40

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Re: Small talk with clients
« Reply #24 on: 11 February 2022, 01:02:26 pm »
I agree EG. You know if they are really getting personal about others they will do the same to you and I don't wanna hear those personal details at all because it's so disrespectful and immediately gets my Spidey senses going. But I'm fascinated by some of the awful stories I'm told sometimes. No personal details being revealed.

English Green

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« Reply #25 on: 11 February 2022, 03:00:30 pm »
I agree EG. You know if they are really getting personal about others they will do the same to you and I don't wanna hear those personal details at all because it's so disrespectful and immediately gets my Spidey senses going. But I'm fascinated by some of the awful stories I'm told sometimes. No personal details being revealed.

Clients that open up more about themselves i welcome as it can be good conversation and makes the job easier if you get on well but the only thing i don't welcome is giving away really personal info on other workers. I get asked really personal questions from some clients non sex stuff obviously but sometimes i just make up a answer if i don't want them knowing. What i don't like though is when a few rare don't just ask if i been busy which can be general chit chat like the weather but ask how many i seen that day and yesterday and what i earn in a week, that is really nosey and i don't feel comfortable telling them how many men i see.

EnglishAmy40

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Re: Small talk with clients
« Reply #26 on: 11 February 2022, 03:48:21 pm »
Even my cats have fake names when chatting to my regs. 😹.

English Green

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Re: Small talk with clients
« Reply #27 on: 11 February 2022, 04:05:16 pm »
Even my cats have fake names when chatting to my regs. 😹.

Hahahaha Hillarious.

Tickle

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Re: Small talk with clients
« Reply #28 on: 11 February 2022, 04:39:38 pm »
Even my cats have fake names when chatting to my regs. 😹.

Good opsec!

Lady Frog

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Re: Small talk with clients
« Reply #29 on: 11 February 2022, 06:00:20 pm »
It's offensive to suggest some escorts might sit there slagging others off, which I don't.

I don't mean escorts slagging off other workers - after all, how could we even know what other workers really get up to (or don't?) when we do our work independently. What I mean is, clients talking negatively about other escorts they have seen. Or generalisations about certain types of workers. There are certain clients, usually ones who have been punting in the same area for a while, who seem to crown themselves as king of the prozzies, and decide that their opinions and comparisons of sex workers are really valuable. It pisses me off so much when they try and compliment me by negging other people.
They seem to think they are the local expert on sex workers, and it's one of those irritating ways clients try to mark themselves out as 'not just a punter' or 'not like the all other clients'.
A woman, especially, if she have the misfortune of knowing anything, should conceal it as well as she can. - Jane Austen