Shit that sucks; and tbf I have had one v.bad professional photo set too. The lady seemed nice at first, but she didn't know how to deal with curvier ladies and in my photos I looked like road kill. And I could tell from her impatience with me she felt it was a problem with me and my fat backside, than with her skills. She gave me diet advice. Lovely! I was so depressed, I listened to a lot of Radiohead the evening I got them back and even though I could get 15 edited, only about 6 were truly usable. It was very expensive anti-therapy. More often than not it's paid off for me having shoots, but it's awful when it goes wrong.
And yea, agree; when I set up for selfies it's nice to treat them and plan them like a shoot. Makes a lot of difference.
