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Lorelei

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Shy and passive clients
« on: 04 November 2011, 12:36:03 pm »
I noticed this thing, that some clients, prticularly first-timers, just don't take the lead. I mean, I arrive at their home or hotel room, we do the chit chat, sort out the business, and then he seems just awkward or doesn't know what to do. If they ask "so how does this escorting thing work?" I tell them that I'm there for them and that it's their appoitment and am there to please them etc. Or I migh ask them myself "How would you like to spend your time with me?" as an opener. Ok, most of the time they get on to action after this line, but amongst these I've had every once in a while some client who just couldn't ger over his ebmarassment/shyness/guilt/whatever there was in his mind. And I just satd there not knowing what to do or to say, making awkward conversation.

Do you have any strategy with the shy/passive clients, girls?

EmilyJones

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Re: Shy and passive clients
« Reply #1 on: 04 November 2011, 01:04:06 pm »
It's amazing how effective subtle hints can be in these situations! We know they're sitting there, sipping their glass of water or cup of tea or whatever nervously, thinking, "OMG I want to have sex with this lady right now", so if you say something like, "Why don't I/you [depending on who's just been traveling] just slip into the shower for a minute to freshen up? Then you (or I) can be waiting for me (or you) in the bedroom when I (or you) come out..." with a suggestive smile, it usually gets the message (and instruction) across loud and clear to your very willing audience. Of course, add "get the boring money bit out of the way and" near the beginning if that's not been done yet, too. I've definitely never had a client reply, "No thanks, I actually just came here to look at you for a bit", lol!

So I find it's a very effective way to move things along into the bedroom without putting anyone on the spot having to describe what they want to do in an awkward way. Also, it's nice to be the initiator here - especially with shy clients who don't want to feel like they're "making" you do anything. I have a personal rule not to spend more than 10 minutes at the start of a booking (much less if it's a half hour, of course!) chatting because otherwise, it's almost like things go into "friend mode" and you both end up feeling totally awkward about starting the sex stuff. I know some clients can seem so chatty (maybe in a nervous way) that it's almost like they don't want to leave their chair, but trust me they do, and that's why I developed what I have just decided to name Emily's Super-Smooth Segue Into Sex (TM). ;D
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Mellow

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Re: Shy and passive clients
« Reply #2 on: 04 November 2011, 05:48:24 pm »
I've had a lot of first timers lately, all nervous, some admitting it, some trying to be a bit macho about it (bless them).  I just take it really slow with them, have a chat and try and make it a seamless move to the bedroom (ha!).  I might suggest a massage or just give them lots of kisses and cuddles.   This usually seems to work and they appear to lose their nerves pretty quickly.

So with both first timers and guys that are more passive, I just take the lead - in a gentle way.

River

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Re: Shy and passive clients
« Reply #3 on: 06 November 2011, 05:56:29 pm »
Most of my clients are Trans-virgins. This means I need to lead everything
or they would just sit on my sofa like a scarred rabbit caught in a cars headlights!
I always Ice-break. Talk about the journey, their industry and hows business, anything of normal chat.
Then I ask them a bit of the sorts of things they are looking for? {usual answer subtext: No idea at all}
I then tell them about my favourite thing, the thing I love the most. Money!
After that I go with the flow but usually me leading. Putting their hand on me, encouraging exploration.  A revealed breast or two helps no end to moving things along! Sometimes I caress their increasing bulge and ask if they brought that for me and how did they know as it's my favourite! Then, things almost always flow, with me directing.
There is no set template as everyone is different and it's far easier for me to just go with what feels right, rather than some formulaic Set piece. They get an individualised service and we both enjoy our time together.

I do feel that as the Professional person in the engagement, I am there to act as a guide, where needed. A bit like a a motorcycle tour guide. We ride together and the client is to varying degrees competent and don't need me to look after every tiny thing involved in the journey. But I keep things on track, offer general direction and point out the really big attractions, that they may have missed without my guidance.

Part of this involves the post orgasm climb-down. Maybe a shower or a cuppa. Really just to bring them back into normality before they leave. The right head-space.  Hopefully so they are chilled and, fingers crossed, want to come back to see me again.

Kitty_of_Herts

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Re: Shy and passive clients
« Reply #4 on: 06 November 2011, 09:15:11 pm »
Sometimes I caress their increasing bulge and ask if they brought that for me and how did they know as it's my favourite! 

That line is so brilliant that I'm stealing it and using it on the next person I see!