When something happens to completely throw you sometimes you can kinda go into shock like i did, rather than think of something great to say back! One of those sitautions where you dont say anything at the time but later kick yourself for not doing so and have a million things in mind i could have said!! oh....gosh...anyway...just makes me so mad people can throw accusations like this around so OPENLY.

Its very annoying isn't it when you are too shocked to give the best answers - we've all been there.

She may not think 'paid sex', just that you have a lot of men visiting. It is quite a leap unless you wander in and out of your apartment is heels, stockings and low cut tops and even then, its really only us in the know who may think 'HOOKER!'. We tend to be more paranoid than we need to be but just because we know, it doesn't mean other do.

Personally, when I had a flat, I avoided the neighbours like the plague. I would just keep my head down and ignore them or just give a quick polite smile IF I got eye contact. The porter guy always said hello and gave a knowing smile and had a bit of chat but I just responded in a friendly manner whenever he caught my eye and as far as I know he never said a word - I was working forn there for about 4 years with no bother.

I don't think drawing ANY kind of attention to myself is good. Good or bad attention. I just wish everyone could just keep themselves to themselves. I dont interfere in anyones business and comings and goings of any flat and I never HAVE, its peoples business what they do in their spare time, just wish more people thought the same as me.
Makes things so difficult. I could have a huge sex drive and these people coming to see are my ''sex buddies'' or one night stands!!! what business is that of anyone else's. .....

Not so much a nosy neighbour, but something I wanted to share with you all about the neighbour issue......

So, having moved from a nosy neighbour who used to listen to me goddamn wee, among other things, and was about 250 years old, I moved into a little place with only three of us in the block. Love love love it here, BUT, after being here a couple of months, the girl downstairs knocked on the door last night to say hello. I have been really careful to keep my head down and be as neutral as possible, but we are about the same age, and she seems really friendly and sweet- so we had a chat at my door about living here and stuff... just saying hi really. Then the question: "so, what do you do?" she asked. "me? Oh! Well, I am a part time student. And I also do a bit of.... er... personal training here sometimes."

"Oh!" she said. "personal training? I am looking for a personal trainer! What are your rates?!"

Me: "oh, y'know, like, er, ?25 an hour."

Her: " Brilliant! I will definitely pop by to see if you can help me at some point"

bollocks bollocks bollocks. I tried SO hard to keep out of everyone's way as well. BOLLOCKS!!!!!!!

Maybe I could just show her how personal my training gets and hopefully that will be her fisrt and last session as she runs off screaming into the night at the violation? Eeeep!

"so, what do you do?"

Maybe I could just show her how personal my training gets and hopefully that will be her fisrt and last session as she runs off screaming into the night at the violation? Eeeep!

   f-ing hilarious....I was about to say that. Maybe you should tell her that you only do private-personal training lol. Also, I hate it when people who I hardly know ask what I do. She just aggressively knocked on your door asking what you do? I think she's on to you. Watch her...

Maybe if she does start hinting, you could suggest that you only take on clients refered by the "make it up as you go along" private practice, and if your caught moonlighting, you risk loosing those referals 

I've been in exactly the same situation. Remember "feet go down and voices go up", so never work from a new build! They are terrible for snoopers, usually have an obvious car park and impersonal, yet personal entry system.

My underneath neighbour seemed fine, but she said she had noticed and had been asked by "the commitee" to keep records of my visitors. She refused. Shortly afterwards I got notice from the letting agent, they said it was because the owner wanted "vacant possession" of the flat. Within 3 weeks the flat was back on the market to be re-let.

Tell you what though, in the 2 1/2 years I lived there I kept the place spotless. When I left I paid professional cleaners for both interior, as well as the carpet (which was a low grade, cream colour). I also replaced anything that I'd incurred wear and tear on with items of superior quality. I actually still have the letter thanking me for leaving the flat in such a good state.

I would just ignore the neighbour, but make sure you or you clients do not disturb anyone else - if the flat is leasehold they WILL have an 'Owners' committee. To protect their interests of course. One of my problems was guys bumbling around, forgetting instructions in nervousness. I had several ringing the wrong doorbell, some running up the stairs money in hand, others shouting "Hello Ruth" or "Thanks Ruth" as they went up or down the stairs. I know these guys were just being polite but it made it soooooo obvious.

When I moved they all got stressed about finding my new place. Guys get comfy knowing where they are going. I'm now in a stone built cottage, still not ideal since it's listed which means no double glazing. You can hear the staff chatting round the back of a sports shop and restuarant on the same row. I do know they can't hear me and it was something I couldn't check before I moved in. There is also a batty woman at the end of the row. She clobbered me when I moved in. Turns out she used to own all the houses and still thinks she does. She really hasn't a clue and in a round-about way implied the owner of my cottage is a 'lady of the night'. I happen to know the woman in question through friends of friends and I really don't think so. She did once stop a client, ask him which house he was visiting. He ran like mad, but my regular clientele are extremely confident and have told me they would quip back "I'm on business" or "how much to I owe you for access to your 'private street'?" (she still has the leasehold to the frontage of the houses.

Does anyone here know the laws regarding leasehold? For new build and access to private houses. I'm particularly interested since this old lady won't let me keep my bicycle in the yard (it's a nice new one and I have a proper cycle cover for it so will be very tidy), she also forbids wheelie bins since they would block access.

This also relates to a thread on another site about not giving out you exact address until the guy is in the area.

Too many just banging around and encountering the odd, stray neighbour!