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JulietJames

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Sex work and the menopause
« on: 29 August 2016, 09:41:00 am »
How do any of you mature ladies deal with the onset of menopause an working. Im only very part time anyway but definitely lost my mojo for sex  ???.

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #1 on: 29 August 2016, 10:13:28 am »
One cup of parsley tea a day will work wonders.

I stopped taking it for a while and then got so put off sex I started taking it again it is also very good for high blood pressure and general health so I took it for that too.  Just a small palmful of parsley from a packet found at the supermarket.  70 p. a week in Tescos etc.  Steep for 5 mins.  Sometimes the packet doesn't stay fresh long so renew weekly even if you haven't used it all up.

I wouldn't have more than one a day as it can bring on periods.  I am 52 so know how you feel.  Hope this helps!

I just wish my periods would bugger off for good.  They have been erratic for the first time ever this year but no other symptoms other than off sex more than usual....

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #2 on: 29 August 2016, 10:33:33 am »
One cup of parsley tea a day will work wonders.

I stopped taking it for a while and then got so put off sex I started taking it again it is also very good for high blood pressure and general health so I took it for that too.  Just a small palmful of parsley from a packet found at the supermarket.  70 p. a week in Tescos etc.  Steep for 5 mins.  Sometimes the packet doesn't stay fresh long so renew weekly even if you haven't used it all up.

I wouldn't have more than one a day as it can bring on periods.  I am 52 so know how you feel.  Hope this helps!

I just wish my periods would bugger off for good.  They have been erratic for the first time ever this year but no other symptoms other than off sex more than usual....

Lush is that dried parsley or the fresh packets?
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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #3 on: 29 August 2016, 10:57:07 am »
Fresh parsley I use the non continental type too but it is personal preference.  I expect the dried would still work but the packet of fresh is a nice flavour, much better than many herbal teas!

I wouldn't brew it longer than 5 mins or so.  It can make you a bit more thirsty and slightly loosen the bowels but these are the only side effects, other than bringing on  periods but for that you have to drink 4 cups a day.

It is something an old neighbour told me once in London, she took it for her blood pressure.  I researched it and found it helped the libido too.

The first time I started to take it I was younger and my libido came back in three days.  It might take longer though if you are in the menopause.  Give it a good couple of weeks it is sure to help!

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #4 on: 29 August 2016, 11:43:39 am »
Thank you ladies will give it a go x

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #5 on: 29 August 2016, 12:52:54 pm »
Loss of libido isn't just a sex work issue. You might benefit from wider experience if you just Google menopause and libido

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #6 on: 29 August 2016, 10:09:45 pm »
Loss of libido isn't just a sex work issue. You might benefit from wider experience if you just Google menopause and libido

Yes, I'm only 31 and I went off sex agggggges ago. Not sure why, maybe a blood test would help.
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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #7 on: 30 August 2016, 03:34:02 pm »
I would just like to add one more thing perhaps leave the parsley tea alone for the few days you menstruate as it may lengthen the period if you are sensitive.  Who on earth wants more periods surely we prefer less or even none!  Also don't make the parsley tea too strong (for those of you willing to try this out) in case it brings on a period.  The tea helps mine come slightly more often possibly but they were taking weeks to show up before....  It is all trial and error with most things it would seem.  It definitely helps the libido though!

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #8 on: 08 October 2016, 11:58:00 am »
Hi everyone majorly sorry for ridiculously long post , but I don't know who to talk to or just vent my feelings too.
I'm in bed majorly stressed out I've been having problems with periods ,irregular etc , this year. I think I'm actually hitting the menopause or in it ? .
 I've had a period , heavy now for over ten days and the one prior to that only finished with one clear week in between . I'm finding it impossible to work , plus I have bad cramping.I've been to the Doctors a couple of times and had HRT prescribed that appeared to be a stab in the dark, with my G.P just asking if I wanted the equine one that can give you excess hair ( he said face etc) or one of the synthetic ones that he said could affect my libido...it did ( killed it couldn't even muster up a sexy thought )plus bled non stop and got bad fluid retention.
 Now I've put myself on Yasmin birth control ( it's being used as HRT in older women now), my G.P mentioned it ages ago as an option to control bleeding. I've been taking it a week now and still no let up, and I'm panicking re work . My work flat is miles away so going to the docs etc for blood tests etc is a complete nightmare on top of getting an actual appointment. The Gum clinic have been good , near where I work and have got me an ultrasound next week as I had blood in my urine and she thinks I may have a kidney stone as well .
 I'm just feeling pretty run down , tired, worried about money( can't see how I can work I'm white as a sheet) etc. Just really wondered if anyone knows a quick fix energy wise, I'm guessing I might be a bit anaemic but iron takes quite a while to replenish , I know what to eat leafy green veg and red meat etc but didn't know if there's a tonic or something to help with that or if anyone has any experience with Yasmin ...I'm so sorry for the long post but when your GP  doesn't know I can't be bleeding because of my job it's difficult , because the response is a bit " oh don't worry it's the menopause it'll ( bleeding) stop soon " :FF I understand if nobody can even answer but it's been nearly all this year I've had problems working due to medical , reasons so I'm majorly behind , plus I can't take ibrufen or mefanamic acid ( stops periods) due to a bloody gastric problem.
  I'm now thinking I'm gonna have to earn so might have to take that norethisterone tablets again ..but then my cycle goes way out of wack and I seriously have a car crash period that doesn't stop ..

  Really sorry just needed to rant , just feel like I need some energy, but walked around the block last night and had really bad cramping / lower back ache . ::) :FF
 

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« Reply #9 on: 08 October 2016, 12:13:53 pm »
Sorry to hear this. What about, when you can go to GUM clinic explaining it to them, being open about your work ( you can give a false name) and discuss everything with them, if you haven't done so already.

I really sympathise as I too believe I'm heading for the big M since my periods have been totally erratic for a couple of years - I will have a couple then skip 1 or 2, then have one. Sometimes they are longer and heavier/more painful. Its horrible as you never know when its occurring to plan work etc. I also am at a full stop with regard to the pill since I get migraines.

I would say you definitely need to up your iron intake in the meantime.

Sorry I can't be of more help practically, but do feel free to PM if you wish.

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #10 on: 08 October 2016, 12:20:22 pm »
The easiest iron supplement to digest, although it is quite mild, is Spatone. I find it most palatable in cranberry juice, and it will help on top of a good diet.

Sorry you're going through a rough patch! I'm probably peri-menopausal so my cycle is erratic and periods very changeable, but not major so far...
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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #11 on: 08 October 2016, 12:37:25 pm »
Well Done Kay , I remember Spatone now it's in a sachet , right I'm still in bed , lol ( only because it's this or the sofa and my lower backs caning but I'm phoning my friend ( ex lol) to pick me up some now ...yes ! Thank you so much x

LOTN thank you too , I'm quite , well totally upfront at the gum clinic so they're being really helpful and that's who's organised the ultrasound for me, because she knows it's my work, first ( might help someone else) she said go to your GP , but when I explained it was difficult as miles away , plus I can never just prebook an appointment etc..she said " oh well not sure if I can " then " oh of course I can , I'll organise it myself then if you need an MRI after we can get that done "

I find it much easier to be upfront with them , everyone's so nice , never met anyone with an attitude at all , thanks again

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« Reply #12 on: 08 October 2016, 06:02:06 pm »
The tiredness is PROBABLY down to excessive bleeding, but in the meantime you could also try taking B12 supplement. Great for energy.
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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #13 on: 08 October 2016, 06:12:11 pm »
I will be on Tesco doorstep at 10am buying parsley and trying the tea. So helpful to be able to ask and receive advice like this :)

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #14 on: 08 October 2016, 07:15:04 pm »
The tiredness is PROBABLY down to excessive bleeding, but in the meantime you could also try taking B12 supplement. Great for energy.
Yep that's what I thought ,from the flow and sitting about but everything's achey , but now I've eaten a ton of greens, broccoli and a steak plus had the iron sachets and vit c and a berrocca so prob have lots of energy to sprint to the loo lol , thanks I'm totally going crazy and bored , don't even want to switch work phone on...I've got bookings next week and Lost loads , going quietly nuts  :FF but I so appreciate the comments thanks x