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Rosesugar

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #120 on: 13 March 2018, 03:54:39 am »
thank you for replies.
Yesterday i was really frustrated about that.
I find out my mistake and today i wake up at 6am, so happy!
dinner at 830pm with spinach, magnesium tablet and i hidden my phone, all technologies.
2 camomila tea with peppermint!

wow, i came back to normal life! i hope that going to work every night it!
feel refreshed!
Thank you so much

Hope your body clock adjusts and you feel better with working  :)

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #121 on: 13 March 2018, 06:14:31 am »


Thank you so much Sugar! sleep is so important! i need to improve even all the side effects of menopause! i didn t have before them..
hot and sweaty night don t bother me too much but lack of sleep so lack of energy are affecting my job! i think that i can find a natural way to feel better and have more energy so to work more!
in this moment i m changing my belief about medicine of synthese, i just prefer natural remedies!

have a great day!

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #122 on: 23 October 2018, 02:22:05 am »
So I have been trying CBD oil to help with my menapause whilst working.  It's amazing,

There are lots of different brands but I was told not to use the Holland &Barret one as that's so diluted it's not worth using.  So I went for a mid strength legal one I got online.

I was considering purchasing this one but read somewhere too about some of them being so diluted you might as well be purchasing cooking/salad oil! Is it possible to share which one you bought & from where (if poss).

If not what is the ingredient/strength we need to look out for on the label.

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #123 on: 23 October 2018, 10:12:19 am »
I was considering purchasing this one but read somewhere too about some of them being so diluted you might as well be purchasing cooking/salad oil! Is it possible to share which one you bought & from where (if poss).

If not what is the ingredient/strength we need to look out for on the label.

If you Google CBD Brothers, it's a legal site.  Has every strength and different types from capsules to oils and chocolate, all have a different impact.  Some are for day time and some for night time.  I like this site and you can get freebies to try.  I use a mid strength and am still very happy with it.

There ar shops scattered around the country.  My nearest is Bolton but I not been in yet.

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #124 on: 23 October 2018, 12:21:20 pm »
Vogel's Menopause Support tablets really helped my increased anxiety.  I have been on them since spring and felt calmer within 5 days.

I will be intrigued to see how much they do/don't help me now we are in the wretched SAD season.

I wouldn't be without them though as my energy was appalling for ages prior to taking them and once I had been on them for two months my energy improved.  In my case it did take a long while.

For sex drive it isn't what it could be but I take four avocados a week which help somewhat.

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #125 on: 23 October 2018, 12:57:04 pm »
If you Google CBD Brothers, it's a legal site.  Has every strength and different types from capsules to oils and chocolate, all have a different impact.  Some are for day time and some for night time.  I like this site and you can get freebies to try.  I use a mid strength and am still very happy with it.

There ar shops scattered around the country.  My nearest is Bolton but I not been in yet.
Thank you NB, I will take a more in depth look, every little helps!

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #126 on: 11 November 2018, 09:34:14 pm »
I haven't read the full thread but did read somewhere that women suffering the menopause and lack of drive, could privately purchase testosterone patches. They lasted a year and were at the time £500. I am not sure where you'd go but is something you could talk to your GP about.
I'm 43 now and know it is coming so thankfully changed my Mirena coil this year and will change it in five years time so will get away with the periods side of things.
I have found already that getting naturally wet isn't happening so found that the durex lube in a clear and green tube £12 a time works well and you only need a tiny amount.

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #127 on: 11 November 2018, 11:07:40 pm »
I haven't read the full thread but did read somewhere that women suffering the menopause and lack of drive, could privately purchase testosterone patches. They lasted a year and were at the time £500. I am not sure where you'd go but is something you could talk to your GP about.
I'm 43 now and know it is coming so thankfully changed my Mirena coil this year and will change it in five years time so will get away with the periods side of things.
I have found already that getting naturally wet isn't happening so found that the durex lube in a clear and green tube £12 a time works well and you only need a tiny amount.

I wouldn't recommend that. It might boost your libido, but also give you a moustache! :o

I think I can now officially say I'm menopausal, as it's five months since I've had a period. I still enjoy sex, everything works fine (including natural lubrication), but my libido, as in urge (which was often raging pre- and post-period) has definitely dropped. It's actually quite good when I have a lot of civvy work to do!
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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #128 on: 19 November 2018, 02:07:51 pm »
Well I am collecting various unpleasant ailments. I won't Google!!
Colder weather reduces hot sweats  :)
But inflamed joints are tough to deal with too.

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #129 on: 21 March 2021, 08:46:05 am »
I suppose this one is for the more mature escort but of course any advice is welcomed  :)

I’m a while off menopause but the women in my family don’t talk about female body parts, sex or anything related so I guess I’m just curious of what’s to come as I do see myself in this job for the long haul.

Can you still have sex in pre menopause/menopause or does is get too dry down there? Do you lose all libido completely and does it come back post menopause?

When you’re in these stages, do or did you drop full services from your list and just stick to oral/hj/massage etc, and would you stick with them services for post menopause or would you bring back full service after?

In my mind I’d like to escort until I can’t physically do it anymore but I guess I’m curious if my body will keep up. I don’t want to get older and then realise after 20+ years of escorting that I actually need a civvy job as I love being self employed and the fact I run my own business.

Thank you,
PinUpGirl.
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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #130 on: 21 March 2021, 09:25:53 am »
To clarify -

Pre-menopause is known as perimenopause. This is a transitional phase which can start months or even years before your period stops.

Menopause is when your period stops.

Post menopause is when you've not had a period for 1 whole calendar year, if you're over 50. If you are under 50, it is 2 whole calendar years.

I've had an early menopause and at 42, am now post menopause. I went into peri menopause at 37. I am on HRT and intend to take HRT for as long as I am able to. It is not hyperbole to say HRT changed my quality of life immeasurably.

Tbh, it all depends on what symptoms you're experiencing as no two women will go through menopause in the same way. Some will lose their libido, others won't. Many will suffer vaginal atrophy and vaginal dryness, other won't. I completely lost my libido for a few years, but did not have to deal with vaginal dryness or atrophy, thank god. Another common symptom are recurrent UTIs. Thankfully, I bypassed this too. Also, because your hormones will be in flux for anywhere up to a decade, although typically 4-8 years, symptoms will come and go. HRT really is the only real solution to managing symptoms, particularly things like vaginal atrophy, dryness and UTIs which will definitely inhibit what services you provide. While I did not suffer any of these, I did notice that for a while, sex was painful and uncomfortable. This is no longer the case. Additionally, many women lose their sense of self, many become increasingly besieged with anxiety and these things do make going about your day to day life very very hard.

The best thing I can recommend is to educate yourself and to start reading now so you know what the symptoms are. It isn't always about your periods per se, there are 38 symptoms of the menopause, many of which such as hot flushes, night sweats and lack of sleep can severally impact your life, and for me, were the main players and debilitating. For me, my periods were the last thing to go awry.

But, as I said, some women have a painless transition through menopause with very few symptoms or side effects, and others have a terrible time. There really is no way of knowing what your experience will be.

I have no doubt any of the other women on this board who have been/are going through menopause will have their own story to add - there really is no one-size fits all experience.

I hope that helps.
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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #131 on: 21 March 2021, 10:12:57 am »
That’s really helpful Millie, thank you very much.

I’m in my mid-late 30’s and definitely felt changes in my libido compared to my 20’s where I was ravenous for sex to the point it actually consumed my life for a while with how much I needed to have sex to release the angst so sex work really helped that. But it’s definitely more on the other end of the scale now. Much more mellow!!

Like you say, every women’s experience will be different so I wont compare experiences in anticipation of what’s to come over the coming years.

I have very irregular periods anyway so maybe this is something I will speak to my GP about, but I will research any symptoms to look out for too.

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #132 on: 21 March 2021, 10:24:08 am »
As we age, your libido will drop a little naturally anyway. About a year before I went into perimenopause, I experienced what is know as 'sex surge' and all I wanted to do was has sex. Often, this a woman's body making a last ditch attempt to have a baby! To go from this extreme to being revolted by sex was extraordinary!

As I said, periods aren't often an indicator of perimenopause, and as yours aren't regular, that is not a way to gauge things anyway, and neither are blood tests. A GP would be able to ascertain perimenopause simply by symptoms, although many only are unable to do this.

Be advised that many GPs are disinterested and/or ill-informed at best. Quite a few actually told me that 'this is what women go through and to put up with it'. Charming. In the end, I went to see a specialist privately.

I recommend websites such as Menopause Matters and NICE.

Because of my experience, menopause is pretty much my Mastermind specialist subject! If you have any further questions, feel free to drop me a message.

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #133 on: 21 March 2021, 11:25:09 am »
 
Because of my experience, menopause is pretty much my Mastermind specialist subject! If you have any further questions, feel free to drop me a message.
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Thank you Millie!! I will certainly keep that in mind for the future  :) :) :) x

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Re: Sex work and the menopause
« Reply #134 on: 21 March 2021, 02:10:43 pm »
I'm coming up to 54, and classed myself as post-menopausal as of January 1st this year. I did have a big dip in libido from the end of 2018, but think that was linked to other factors as well, though it was definitely low in the first nine months of 2020. It's since begun to increase again - perhaps because it's so long since I've had sex!

Everything still works, but then I've always lubricated well and easily (I've never needed to use lube with clients). The vagina does 'atrophy' with age, but I don't think it's an issue before about 65, maybe nearer 60 if you're unlucky. I have bought some vaginal moisturiser just in case, and I always have lube to hand, so will see how I get on if I start work again after May 17.
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