I've never understood the 'at discretion' clause - if a client turns up filthy and stinking or rude and disrespectful he's going to be refused service irrespective of what services are offered on my site, and as far as I'm concerned this goes without saying. I can't see what purpose it serves - it's not as if the lack of it removes anybody's right to say no. It's at my discretion whether they even get as far as the door, after all.

If you're going to turn somebody down for reasons other than hygiene or attitude, I'd try to have a cast iron excuse at the ready, although I can't honestly think of a good one.

I used to find that services I would offer at discretion I would ALWAYS end up doing (sometimes felt pressured into doing) so I decided to take off nearly all services I offered at discretion, and felt a whole lot better, and more able to say about OWO for example........'its nothing personal - I just don't do it'

Yeah, for kissing and RO, if you offer it at discretion and choose not to offer it to them, it's cos there's something you don't like about them!
I tried to think of something, but could only come up with stuff that would knack the rest of the job (coldsores and the like)
I think it would be either a case of swallow the revulsion and do it, or tell them the real reason why not. Only lie I could come up with is that you have a boyfriend who doesn't like you to do those things, as they are personal to your relationship...

I get clients who call up and ask 'do you do owo/french kissing/etc?' I usually answer 'at discretion, yes.' I find the statement gives me the freedom to refuse the service if the guy is filthy, unhygienic, under the influence of drugs, etc. I don't like to promise a service before  I have met the guy, if that makes sense?

I don't offer OWO or Kissing anymore but when I did I refused quite alot of clients hence my change of services provided. I was new and naive and thought I had to do what other girls were offering. However being a total hygiene freak and a stand-offish bitch if I take a disliking to someone I used a few excuses.
 Kissing was the usual: Cold sore(even though I have, touch wood, never had one in my life), recent dental work ie; root cannal meaning the passing of bacteria from saliva is forbidden at present, suffering a hangover and still tasting of nasty vodka and probably a few others too. Sometimes, often in fact I'd just be honest and say I don't kiss on a first time meet untill I have a "connection" with you. Actually that's bollicks, that's another excuse to avoid kissing my "dad".
 If the client was a knob I'd just be honest and say for me to feel I could bring myself to kiss someone there has to be some form of attraction or they have to be really clean and have fresh breath.
   The OWO excuses were the same as the kissing ones. I also used the excuse of having just been tested at the GUM clinic and untill my results are returned I won't be offering such service. I did have one guy who had paid me extra for OWO and after returning from the shower I had asked him to take I could still smell sweat and piss. I asked him to return to the shower and this time use the toiletries provided. 3mins later he emerges and so does the previous smell. I simply said I am sorry but as you have neglected to take my subtle hints I must be honest. You need to use hot water and the Ph-balance wash on your genitals before I can be intimate with you in any form.
 As for RO I detest this. PID (Pelvic inflammatory disease can be caused by bacteria not just STDs'). I put up with RO sometimes if the client is just gently licking my clit but if he starts salivatating and spitting and pushing his tounge deep into me I shift positions or guide them elsewhere.
 If I know the guy is gonna be a slabber face fanny licker (you can tell) I refuse RO due to my period having just ended or due to me being on Antibiotics for a kidney infection.
  Rimming my excuse is just no, I don't enjoy it. I do but I really don't like the idea of some grease monkey pushing his germs in there.
 Natalie Xx
 

I actually like kissing and oral on me generally, it's just those odd clients whose style of doing it I don't like: tonsil lickers, dribbling saliva, etc these types have been described on this forum many times. It's these tipes that I'd like to say 'stop' or 'no' to.  Or if the client is let's say, not necessarily unwashed, but has yellow teeth, or I suspect caries on his mouth.

If their breath is so revolting that I can't kiss them, then I won't.  I usually say I need to 'get to know' someone first.  If they appear to have cold sores or herpes or whatever then no.  I won't even make any excuses, they can leave if they don't like it.