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lgirl

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Any one else felt like this?
« on: 30 November 2011, 05:15:03 am »
So I have been escorting for about 6months and have not had a problem with  it ever. Most of my clients are older but I like it that way.
Recently I took about a month off and the first client i saw when I went back told me he was 54 when i meet him he was about 70. Before I would have laughed this off but for some reason it seems to really bother me.
Now I'm asking myself why have I started doing this?

I just want to know if anyone else has felt like this or am I just being a big drama queen?

 (P.s yes I did do the deed.  :()

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Re: Any one else felt like this?
« Reply #1 on: 30 November 2011, 10:14:27 am »
If he really was as old as he looked ( and some fellas do not age well, I know 40 year olds that were 'old' by 25  :-\ ), then he told you a big lie in order for you to agree to see him and that was very wrong. If it hadn't mattered to you, you wouldn't have bothered to ask him and it would have been fine.
 I don't know your age, but I'm guessing you are young and this made him fit easily into the age bracket of a Grandparent? I think it's  very sly and sleazy for him to lie to sleep with you.
Nothing wrong with finding younger women attractive as a man in his 70's, but a different matter to lie to acquire one..
For the record, I am 42 and would be just as miffed if I had an upper age limit and someone blatantly shuffled in to abuse this.
As you say though, you have been perfectly happy to see older clients before - just not THAT old. That is perfectly fine. It is your body and you are providing the most intimate service on the planet to complete strangers. Someone slipped through the net and it happens to all of us at one time or another. Don't feel bad that you went through with it, I have done the same. You were probably not wanting to turn him away or hurt his feelings at the time - even though afterwards it left you furious and 'ashamed' ( just going off the smiley face and the way I felt myself at the time..)

You could try politely mentioning to callers that if they look significantly older than the age they claim, you will  need to see a form of ID or unfortunately refuse the booking as this is your own personal choice. This should put off the blatant opportunists.

Good luck x
ps; At my age ironically I have the opposite problem - with 17 year olds pretending to be 25!  :D

strawberry

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Re: Any one else felt like this?
« Reply #2 on: 30 November 2011, 10:16:24 am »
Many clients ask me if they are what I thought they'd be like when I do meet them. I have a simple answer - I never build a picture of anyone, until I see them in person.

Why?because anyone can say anything, and sound like anyone by email or on the phone. So to avoid surprises I simply do not make any sort of projection, or assumption about them until they step over the threshold.

Obviously if they are disrespectful in their communication, then yes I will make a judgment - but nothing regards appearance etc.

emilyofsuffolk

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Re: Any one else felt like this?
« Reply #3 on: 30 November 2011, 10:35:32 am »
As Kimba said it was totally out of order for him to lie about his age but don't fault yourself for going through with the booking, we all do that when we need the cash! I always try & imagine the old ones when they were younger but it does gross my out a little sometimes thinking they are old enough to be my grandad. I find the ditheriness of them very tedious but I guess some coherent one slip through the net. Their old fashioned view really grate on me at times, I had a 67yr old mention Hitler once & appraise him on a level realating to people with mental health problems.  :o :o
I get a lot of guys in their late 50s thinking they are too old.. ??? to see someone in thir 20s.

You have every right to exercise personal preference.

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Re: Any one else felt like this?
« Reply #4 on: 30 November 2011, 12:44:54 pm »
The think is that he was a perfectly sweet guy and very polite. But unlike most older men he managed to stay hard and want sex the whole booking(which was 3 hour) lol.
He wants to see me again but I think that performance was a once in a lifetime thing, broke or not I can't do it again.

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Re: Any one else felt like this?
« Reply #5 on: 30 November 2011, 04:43:14 pm »
I don't mind the oldies usually, but I do have my days when it bothers me.

I saw a client for a while who looked about 70.  He was into spanking and other kinky things, yet he was so frail and delicate, I really disliked seeing him bruise.  Eventually he became unreliable and so I stopped seeing him.  I don't miss it.
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River

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Re: Any one else felt like this?
« Reply #6 on: 01 December 2011, 01:51:30 am »
All I care about is the mileage.   ;)

Earlier this year I had two clients on one day.
The first was up front and said he was in his mid-70's.
which is not an issue for me.
He was fit! Toned body. Well turned out. His face showed the age
but so what. A bril session.

The next client was in his mid 40's  - I asked.
Fat but with a ton of loose skin on top. He just looked worn out!
God knows what sort of life he'd had to basically wear his body out.
I'm guessing drink, wrong food all the time, no exercise & ciggis.
He was nice enough. But  the session was not my most enjoyable.

I'm paid to give clients a stunning experience.
They would all like me to also have a great time. Sometimes I do.
And where I don't, I act. I figure that they are entitled to that.
TBH, most clients are neutral for me. I can do my Thing and everyone's happy.
At the extremes there are the clients where everything just clicks
and I enjoy the trip.
At the other end there are clients where at some deep level within myself, I'm repulsed.
That's not their fault; we can't be physically attracted to everyone.

As long as I can sort these things out afterwards without too much internal drama
it's OK.
If I start to have internal issues with some types of client,
be it age, build, or whatever,  I hope I'd be sensible to myself
and empathic with the client, at the start. Just to say to them:
"For me to give you the experience you deserve, I have to feel a certain connection.
I just don't feel that between us. So, I will not be able to have a session with you.
You are totally lovely, this is really my issue, not yours.
I'm sure you understand"

Refund them fully, if coin has been exchanged,
then gently show them out.

It is my body and I have final veto as to whether someone gets to enjoy it.
To commence a session, with someone I really am repulsed by,
is not fair on either of us.

Though I've never felt the need to do so. (As in my longer term mental health)
An hour after a client's gone? Well generally I don't remember their name
or anything much about the session, so who cares.   ;D

Oh, it's not always like that. A guy I've not seen for 2 years came round today.
Totally lovely.  So that's nice.   :)

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Re: Any one else felt like this?
« Reply #7 on: 04 December 2011, 04:33:15 pm »
The think is that he was a perfectly sweet guy and very polite. But unlike most older men he managed to stay hard and want sex the whole booking(which was 3 hour) lol.
He wants to see me again but I think that performance was a once in a lifetime thing, broke or not I can't do it again.

It's very simple.  If you dont want to do it THEN DON'T DO IT, it is your choice.  If you dont have the confidence to say to him then simply block him on your phone or ignore his calls.  If he tries to get round this by calling from another number then just say you are not working or come up with some other reasons.  If none of this helps you have plenty of time to come up with some reason for refusing him.  Money isnt the bee all and end all of our work.
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It is about having a pretty mind, a pretty heart,
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