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chlo89

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Re: Security
« Reply #15 on: 26 December 2016, 12:46:25 am »
That comment brings up red flags to me,

You as the professional should ALWAYS insist on be treated with respect. Conduct yourself on the phone and in person as a SW that doesn't tolerate bad behaviour, be in charge of the booking and be an experienced prostitute not a sexual doormat who thinks verbal and/or physical disrespect is acceptable.

Heighten your screening so they know you are not a pushover prepared to take BS treatment for cash. EVER!.

High screening will weed out lowlifes with bad attitudes.

If you carry on accepting this kind of lowlife punter you may well find yourself in all sorts of uncomfortable predicaments, I may sound harsh but I'm coming from a place of concern.

Regarding your dilemma with penetration if I were you I'd offer a BJ and HR I'd not offer 69's as its too compromising so I'd work with knickers that way they couldn't touch my vag or slip a snide finger in.

Yeah I've changed my profile around and they now know I won't stand for no shit, I don't normally allow it to slide but it was 3am and I didn't particularly want neighbours hearing anything, if it came to it. I would rather just continue the booking at that time than wake people up, regardless of anything. I don't want to attract attention, I don't think he would've been the type of guy that would be happy to leave.. now I tell guys if they try and penetrate me or touch me in an aggressive manor, they will be told to leave.

I don't think you're harsh, honesty is best. Guys have to book me online now also, still get some arseholes obviously but I haven't had any since I changed it.
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chlo89

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Re: Security
« Reply #16 on: 26 December 2016, 12:52:02 am »
I agree with Helen & Mirror. I'm not sure if your price is set lower than average GFE price to show that no penetration. If it isn't, men may assume that these are included even if you tell them you wouldn't do them.  They just assume it.  If your price is lower than average GFE price then they (if not every client) will try to see if they could get away with it e.g. fingering etc.   If you have a pelvic infection, would it be a good idea to allow someone to go down on you (passing germs into it)?

 It is on every tab of my profile so guys won't assume I offer it, I ensure they know it is no penetration before meeting me and when they arrive, if they chose to change their mind, then that's fine by me. Guys now have to book me online, I haven't had an arsehole since but I am aware I still may get some. Allowing oral sex doesn't make a difference to the pelvic infection whatsoever, if it did, I wouldn't allow it.

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« Reply #17 on: 26 December 2016, 10:34:18 pm »
sounds to me like op has been assaulted no means no simple English  :FF hope your OK xxx

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« Reply #18 on: 27 December 2016, 08:56:06 am »
I think you should have a security guard for sure; I advertise as having my husband with me (6ft 3", 16.5 stone) and only do this part time, but I frequently have "dates", and often turn bookings away if something doesn't appeal.

I realise that more guys want a lone female, but my profile highlights the advantages of another man being there, i.e. the option of a spit roast/photographer etc.

I am obviously safe as a result, but even I have had/got bruises, some nasty black ones as we speak on my left breast!!!!....these guys can be so heavy handed, I can't imagine what they would be like if I was on my own. Take care ladies. XX

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Re: Security
« Reply #19 on: 27 December 2016, 09:08:42 am »
The trouble with making it sound as if the height/size/build of the other person there is relevant is that you're already implicitly stating that there might be physical violence (or at least intimidation) and this not only puts off people who mean no harm at all, it can come over as a 'challenge' to some of those who do which at worst might lead them to decide they need to bring a weapon with them.

There is no reason for a punter to know anybody else is there at all unless they misbehave. The function of an in-person security buddy should be raising the alarm if something goes wrong and letting a wrongdoer know about it, not playing Billy Big Bollocks and threatening to hit people.

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« Reply #20 on: 27 December 2016, 09:45:01 am »
Yeah I've changed my profile around and they now know I won't stand for no shit, I don't normally allow it to slide but it was 3am and I didn't particularly want neighbours hearing anything, if it came to it. I would rather just continue the booking at that time than wake people up, regardless of anything. I don't want to attract attention, I don't think he would've been the type of guy that would be happy to leave.. now I tell guys if they try and penetrate me or touch me in an aggressive manor, they will be told to leave.

How can you expect good quality clients at 3am? Most likely to be pissed or drugged up a that time. These twits who think SW's don't sleep or have any self respect will crawl out of the woodwork then. If you have an infection when do you sleep & recover?

Maybe do some martial arts to lean some self defence. I have in the past & intend to try another soon. There are courses on Udemy & quite cheap too.

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« Reply #21 on: 27 December 2016, 02:07:44 pm »
Having a buddy is also a good idea, I have someone who knows where I am, when my bookings are due to start and finish. If they don't hear from me by a set time they will take action, which will be in the form of calling the police.

chlo89

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« Reply #22 on: 29 December 2016, 05:28:46 pm »
How can you expect good quality clients at 3am? Most likely to be pissed or drugged up a that time. These twits who think SW's don't sleep or have any self respect will crawl out of the woodwork then. If you have an infection when do you sleep & recover?

Maybe do some martial arts to lean some self defence. I have in the past & intend to try another soon. There are courses on Udemy & quite cheap too.

That was one out of many at that hour (this was before they had to book online), he was stone cold sober btw, I don't offer it anymore.

I have insomnia so I don't sleep much anyway.

I've done a bit of self defense but not whilst in the 69 position lol, I will go to my local place again and ask, also to touch up on my self defense. 

chlo89

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Re: Security
« Reply #23 on: 29 December 2016, 05:34:14 pm »
Yeh I 100 percent agree we need to go with our guts ladies that's the best way if we get the slightest feeling then we shouldn't accept the booking but you can't be 100 percent sure no ones screening can be 100 percent many nutters slip threw the net all we can do is do a best but we are never going to be 100 percent sure  . They could sound lovely on the phone but in person try and attack you you can never be sure .

All we can do is go with our gut but if hiring a security makes you feel safer than do it Hun . I only work in hotels even tho I make more money in apartments I just don't feel safe in them working .

You do need the point stuff out to them make it perfectly clear what you do and what you don't if they try it then there out . I mean they will some times try take the mick it's just saying it straight what you Do and what you don't .

Take care babe stay safe xx

I do go with my gut, but sometimes guys can be weird on the phone but nice in person. He was horrible the whole time.

I did point out several times. I told him before he booked the appt, when he arrived and when I could feel what he was about to do. Didn't stop him, told him again after he'd done it once and he didn't care, he did it again and again. I always ensure clients know the deal. Because they do try and push it, I have not had any issues since I have changed it to book online ONLY.