Last night things got a thousand times worse. You'd think he would have time to think thru what he had done and be sorry. Only 4 weeks ago he proposed to me!!! He decided to email my mum some more, to send her more links and more details about what i had been doing ''all these years''. He even forwarded her links from london escort guide- where I didnt even know i was on! he even found me on a tiny unknown new site!! he must have been sat for weeks on end trawling thru probably literally ever site!!

I was crying and shaking. I honestly thought he'd have regretted it and wouldnt contact my mum again. Luckily i got the emails in time before she read them (i have her password) and deleted him and thought i had also blocked him from her email. I sat there crying and crying trying to work out why hes continuing this. whats in it for him.

But an hour later, MORE EMAILS came through to her, even tho i had blocked him!! Maybe hotmail are having problems or whatever but i cannot seem to block his email at all!! Saying ''hi s-ut i know you have your mums email password and are probably deleting emails before she reads them, but i wont stop and u cannot moniter her email account 24/7...'' I burst into tears again.

My life really is over. I have had to contact the remaining agencies to tell them to take all my pics off. I dont know how i will be able to work right now. Im a total mess.

I got so desperate last night, i got my best friend to text him. She told him that basically if he doesnt stop we are going to go to the police and report all his violence and abuse, that i have witnesses and that he shouldnt be able to get away with it and do it to other women''

We thought this would scare him. Yeah right...

he replied saying go ahead, no one will believe me as he never touched me, that he doesnt love me anymore, all the hurt and pain i put him through, he will now ruin my life

she text bk that i can cut all contact with my family, but this is killing my mum whos 55 what kind of man is he

he replied saying he doesnt ''give a sh_t about my mum, or me, he doesnt love me anymore, and will tell everyone whats he had to go thru since he found out''

Then early this morning he proceeded to send her even more links and writing even worse things about me. Which happened at 6am, i didnt get to her email in time as i woke up just now, she read them, and she carries on replying to him, calling him, she told him shes disowned me, how could i do this to her, she put me through university and this is how i repay her...my auntie called me also to say my mum has been unable to get out of bed since all this started, and is on sick leave from work. I cannot face or talk to anyone though.

He also text my friend saying he just now wants to find a nice ''normal ''girl!!! I ruined his life?! I put up with an emotionally and abusive relationship for nearly 2 years cos i ''loved him'' so much, i supported him financially, why doesnt he throw out all the designer shirts and jewellery i bought him now then if he now knows it was all paid with my 'dirty money'!!

Theres too much now. I cannot deny EVERYTHING. My story makes no sense anymore, and his...well it all falls into place with my mum. I just honestly want to die. why wont this piece of s-it back off!!!!!!

Hi hun, I know at the moment things seem terrible and make no mistake, they are but it won't always stay that way - you WILL look back in years to come and wonder why you worried so much, especially since these people clearly have their own issues. Things will get better. Everything does! I look back at some of the things in my life I have had to live with - people told me at the time that 'time heals all' of course at the time it was all happening I didn't belive things would get better and that I could ever be happy again, but I can assure you, they did get better and I was happy again! Still am! Care about YOU! - YOU are the most important person in your life! This pathetic man will eventually disapear when he gets bored, which he will! I have found the best way to deal with nasty texts is to either; forward them right back to whom ever sent them (frustrating for the original sender!) or to go to the Police and get an Harrassment Order.
Can you get away somewhere for a break? I'm sure removing yourself for a time, would help. (a friend or associates' place or a holiday) Maybe get a new phone number too, (you can always keep your old one if you really feel the need, I guess. Mobiles are so cheap now I'd go and get a new one at least for the time being and just give the number to people you really WANT in your life right now!)
If you want to chat anytime just pm me your number and I'll ring you, up to you but sometimes someone who is not closely involved can assist, even if it's just about sounding off at them!

Good Luck either way and don't let the B******ds grind you down anymore than they clearly already have hun!

Abi xxx

i feel for you , as my dad found out a few years ago .... his own fault as he dialed the number on his phone ( same number at the time was being used as my normal phone)  and it then came up as me so he then text me saying your numbers in the paper under adult massage  ...   a few years back he had found out via a friend ...  we don't talk about it But he knows it goes on ..

 i told my partner 3 months in to our relationship that this was my job hes real supportive about it and understands its my job and that the people i see are johns and nothing more to me than work altho i do have a few johnfriends but they do know where the line is .


 
 

i believe that from the dispicable way he has treated you he wants to see you this hurt, by getting on with your life and being happy (and you will be again) his little plan will have backfired. that in itself gives you the power back, just remember he cant hurt you anymore and it cant get any worse, up all the way from here  

I agree, as hard as it is, it is time to just cut off communications. However, if you do want to go down the police route he is wrong in thinking that he is untouchable. While you may not be able to prove the previous abuse, if you have held onto the text messages he has sent you and the emails then he is harrassing you with malicious communication. You can get a restraining order for this, and if he breaks it he can be imprisoned for up to 5years. If the police feel that the malicious communication is so bad that he may become violent against you he can also be charged and imprisoned for up to 5years. I completely understand that the process of getting a restraining order is intimidating, but I strongly feel if he is acting this badly and is showing no signs of stopping that you should at least go and talk to the police. He is obviously a very cruel, dangerous man and really needs to be dealt with!

One last thing:

CONGRATULATIONS!! You are no longer going out with a manipulative violent douche! Perfect excuse to pamper yourself 

I think you need to just be honest with your Mum. Face it, she knows anyway. If you deny it, she knows you are lying.

I genuinely think you have nothing more to lose here. I think the only way you and your Mum can have a relationship in the future is based on honesty. If she just cannot accept that you work (or have worked if you stop), then there is nothing you can do about that. And I'm really sorry if that happens, cos god knows that hurts.

But at the moment, she knows. And she knows you are lying. You stand to lose nothing by being honest. You stand to gain the *chance* of establishing a new relationship with your Mum if you are honest and she can find a way to accept it.

That's how I see it.

As for your f-ing ex, I'd agree that just don't contact him ever again.

I so feel for you from your posts. I hope your ok x