If a punter thinks it 'sounds dodgy' to take your personal safety seriously and not want your time wasted then he's not a punter worth having - you're not asking for anything unreasonable and wanting to protect yourself and reduce your vulnerability (when in an extremely vulnerable situation such as being alone with a stranger in his home) is not only acceptable, it's a vital part of doing your job properly.

The fact that he's even dithering about speaking to you on the phone sounds to me like he's not worth bothering with - I doubt he's malicious, but if he's too thick to understand the risks he's asking you to take and your requirement to minimise those risks, I would just tell him to forget it. Plenty more out there.

Yeah, I really doubt he was ever serious about seeing you, OP. A genuine client understands that getting a lone woman to visit the home of a strange man who wants to purchase sexual services requires giving her a few details about himself so she can be *reasonably* sure she's not going to be messed about by some teenager with too much free time (or worse).

The only escorts who may be able to be slightly less strict about the checks are ones who will be driven to the home outcall by a big burly driver whose bulging muscles barely allow him to fit in his car seat, but even they will be highly at risk of being messed about by timewasters if they don't do their checks.

The likelihood of being watched/photographed/filmed by silly kids or random nutters who think it's hilarious to watch a prossie wander about knocking on random doors is pretty high these days (and any footage will end up on the internet, as this is 2013), so getting that landline number and full address and full name etc are vital otherwise the risks are huge.

Outcalls do tend to be less frequent than incalls anyway, so I treat all outcall requests very cautiously and am actually quite unlikely to even accept them because of being so strict about the distance I'm prepared to cover or the place I'm prepared to meet a new client. And luckily, so far, I've not been messed about at all. It's ALWAYS a good bet to forget about any booking where the client hesitates about giving you the details you ask for, yet seems to expect you to wander about an unfamiliar area, alone, in the dark!

(If you're ever in doubt in the future, go over to the Warnings section of this forum and have a browse - it's a stark reminder of why being laissez-faire with security procedures is never a good idea. Being "too strict" only results in you never encountering various horrid situations, so it's hardly something to avoid!)

If they don't want to give out this info then they should be going for incalls where their personal details will not be asked for.

Another really good point. Yes, lots of genuine clients don't want prossies to know where they live - and that's why they book incalls, or hotel outcalls. Anyone who wants a home outcall but doesn't want to give you security info is just a new Warnings post waiting to happen.

Thanks for the reassurance and advice I will stay firm!

Hi Everyone

I'm new to this and I'm looking for a little advice, just had someone wanting to book me for an outcall, he contacted me by text, so I asked him to send me his details including landline number and postcode (following the excellent advice from the info section) he then put back "he he do you want my passport number to" to which I replied no just the details I requested I need them for my security checks.  He then said he was really nervous already and didn't like to give his information for these dubious sounding "security checks" and he wanted to cancel.

I do ask the client to confirm the booking by phone once everything checked as I don't want to see someone who I haven't spoken to, is there a way to ask for info without sounding dodgy?

Thanks

It is best to get them to phone for bookings straight away as many text sarcastic time wasters about. Then make your own judgment. Trust the vibes, when in doubt or not sure don't do.

Quote from: AVAMAE on 23 April 2013, 09:45:31 am

Hi Everyone

I'm new to this and I'm looking for a little advice, just had someone wanting to book me for an outcall, he contacted me by text, so I asked him to send me his details including landline number and postcode (following the excellent advice from the info section) he then put back "he he do you want my passport number to" to which I replied no just the details I requested I need them for my security checks.  He then said he was really nervous already and didn't like to give his information for these dubious sounding "security checks" and he wanted to cancel.

I do ask the client to confirm the booking by phone once everything checked as I don't want to see someone who I haven't spoken to, is there a way to ask for info without sounding dodgy?

Thanks

It is best to get them to phone for bookings straight away as many text sarcastic time wasters about. Then make your own judgment. Trust the vibes, when in doubt or not sure don't do.

The best way to solve this is just to not answer anything by text. I have a phone call only policy, saves a lot of faffing. I find it also weeds out people who clearly don't read your profile correctly!

Although I had a guy text me saying:- I know you don't like texts but can you do an hour? (I face-palmed massively.)

Hi girls, I lost booking, because the client does not feel comfortable giving me his real name. He said he has never been asked about it by any of the ladies. He has more than 100 positive comments on  AW and no negatives. Would you trust in this case?? Meeting in quite distant from my town.

All that feedback could be from Incalls though, where you wouldn't have the same Security Checks that you would on an Outcall