Author Topic: I still can't go back to work. (The 6 hour client again!) (Read 2470 times)

martine21 · « **on:** 12 July 2014, 02:08:15 pm »

Hiya girls,

I'm sure many of you read my post about the 6-hour client I had last week.

I'm starting to Reilly panic now, I haven't been able to work since, I keep thinking about it over and over again. I got up with the intention of taking clients today, but I feel panicky and shaky at the thought.

This really isn't me, I'm usually such a strong person. I've been drinking alot this week, with this constantly on my mind.

Obvs it's getting to the point now where the funds are getting low, and I really am going to have to go back to work.

Has anyone had an incident like this let them shaken, how did you approach it and then going back to work? Did you just get on with it so to speak?

Thanks again.

Nia Hope · « **Reply #1 on:** 12 July 2014, 02:14:40 pm »

What happened to you during that booking was horrible so of course you are gonna feel bad, I think most of us experience things that make us feel like smashing our work phones up and packing it all in, I know I have.

I think you should take a booking, a short one! And hopefully the client may restore your faith and get you back into the swing of things? Give it a try and if you still feel shit then maybe you need to get some help, drinking is gonna make you feel worse.

Years ago I went through a stage of having to have a drink before I saw a client, I feel for you I really do xx

mimi_ · « **Reply #2 on:** 12 July 2014, 02:16:13 pm »

I think I missed that one...sorry couldn't resist

Really sorry to hear that you're still struggling. It's not surprising, as were treated in a vile way by that horrible excuse for a man.

In terms of what to do...everyone is different. Some may prefer to force themselves to 'get back on the horse', whereas others would possibly need to take time out. The most important thing here is what is right for you and your mental health.

Have you've been able to seek out some advice, such as your local sex workers advice centre? If that doesn't appeal to you (and you don't want to speak to someone you know) you could pick up the phone to the Samaritans. It may be that you need to unburden the emotions that you're feeling. After an experience such as yours (and yes, I've been through similar) you're bound to be feeling shocked, anxious, angry - maybe even guilty - and it's hard to bounce back.

I really hope you aren't beating yourself up over this. If money is an issue, could you try camming for the time being?

Big hugs x

Ieaio · « **Reply #3 on:** 12 July 2014, 02:53:34 pm »

Hey,

Ok sounds like you need some practise terminating a booking that has already started (honestly so hard for me still, i've maybe done it twice ever in the 2 years when really i want to end a good 10 in the years i've been working)

1. Warn them that your service isn't a porn star experience (aka continuous sex) The price include a girlfriend experience. (aka a bit of sex & chitchat & massage)

2. But if they ignore your warning which most do "Sorry i don't feel like i can carry on with the booking." (up to you if you give them back the money) I've had clients outright say "isn't it your job" No... No it's not my job to continuously have sex with you for 3 hours straight.... I understand some may get confused as to what pornstar vs girlfriend is but in general it's just men trying to take advantage.

I understand sometimes you might be scared to pipe up with a client in which case it's up to you, if you feel your safety might be in jeopardy & it would be safer just to endure the booking incase of angering the man then by all means it's up to you but for the most part, most men will be embarrassed about it & will comply.

I'm lucky enough to have security of a flatmate which is good, if you can get yourself one that is likeminded but keep it legal.

I think 1 good client will put your mind at ease. Try screening the clients on a bigger scale for the time being until your nerves are less shot. Your allowed to still be feeling crap don't worry.

ellie22 · « **Reply #4 on:** 12 July 2014, 08:37:22 pm »

Hi martine 21
I was really shocked to read your post the other day and couldn't help but get angry i hate men anyway for various reasons but when they start bullying women (cause that's what it is ) it really gets my back up.
I think the way i would deal with it in future is as soon as i think that they may have taken viagra (i'm not saying he had ) but i had a client once who had and tried to do this to me for 3 hours i just say " you shouldn't have taken so much viagra i need a rest if you need one too but mr dickie doesn't don't worry i'll soon get him to change his mind i have 2 bricks under the bed.
But that's just my sense of humour with men lol.
In saying that i've just had a year and a half off due to a double transplant and have only just had the courage to do my 1st client last night and he was absolutely fine.

Just take a half hour booking to start and see how you feel,
good luck hun and hugs let us know how you get on

Sassy Slapper · « **Reply #5 on:** 13 July 2014, 09:28:51 am »

I agree with the other poster further up. Take bookings but limit the to no more than half an hour or an hour. If someone wants longer just explain that you can't do longer as you have some personal stuff you need to go out and do afterwards. That way you know you are not stuck with someone too long. I have "No PSE" on my profile so if someone does try to go for the long hard manic fuck suck lick I just point out that I do advertise that I DONT do that sort of appointment. Its my opt out if someone is taking the piss because its their fault if they have not read my profiles properly not mine x

mature helen · « **Reply #6 on:** 13 July 2014, 11:23:21 am »

I agree with the above posts, set your time limits and what you will allow and stay in control of the booking.

Yes you want to please the client but you have to put yourself first.

Personally I don't do any longer than an hour, its plain in my ad its half hour and 1 hour only with no prices listed for anything longer.

A client who books 6 hours and wants constant sex must be on drugs as its not humanly possible to sustain that amount of sex naturally its not normal.

I knew a WG who used to get a 12 hour booking with a guy who used to snort coke the whole time and she knew it was going to be 12 hours of constant sex afterwhich she couldn't work for days but he paid her well and over time she did accept several bookings from him so each to their own but I couldn't do it.

CocoChanel · « **Reply #7 on:** 13 July 2014, 10:12:36 pm »

I only do half hours, even an hour does my head in because its too long and personal. I think as women, we will get emotionally affected by our work sometimes. Its not always a good job, and for some of us we dont even like sex. (Im referring to myself). Dont fall into the drink trap or you'll be working to pay for your drink. Do shorter bookings or make a list of the things you want to buy - this is what your money will go on, so you have goals at the end of it. Works for me, sorted all my debts out by doing that.

Nia Hope · « **Reply #8 on:** 13 July 2014, 10:42:38 pm »

Quote from: CocoChanel on 13 July 2014, 10:12:36 pm

I only do half hours, even an hour does my head in because its too long and personal. I think as women, we will get emotionally affected by our work sometimes. Its not always a good job, and for some of us we dont even like sex. (Im referring to myself). Dont fall into the drink trap or you'll be working to pay for your drink. Do shorter bookings or make a list of the things you want to buy - this is what your money will go on, so you have goals at the end of it. Works for me, sorted all my debts out by doing that.

I agree, you're extremely lucky if this job doesn't affect your personal relationships so it's damage limitation, never let a client bully or pressure you into any kind of booking you are not 100% comfortable with.

It's really terrible that the op experienced such a total prick at the start of her escorting life, I also must agree with another poster that this client must have taken some kind of drug to be able to fuck for 6 hours solid which probably also affected his mental judgement on how the lady involved must be feeling, x

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Author Topic: I still can't go back to work. (The 6 hour client again!) (Read 2470 times)

martine21

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Nia Hope

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mimi_

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Ieaio

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