Call me naive but even after nearly 3 years in this job I still believe in love and romance.

The way I always look at it is this. Yes there are men out there who lie and cheat on their partners/ wives and these are the ones that we, by the very nature of our job, get to meet.

But there are also lot's of men out there who have never visited an escort, love their partners / wives and would never be unfaithful. We never get to see those ones though because they are too busy spending time with the people they love and not paying to shag strangers

You will always get lying, cheats in this world ( both male and female) and you will also always get kind, basically decent people who believe in faithfulness. Not to say those people don't act like utter berks  sometimes as well but then again don't we all?.

I try my best not to let this job make me bitter and twisted about love. I'm a soft bugger at heart and I don't ever want to become a hardened person who believes every man is a lying scum bag because it's simply not true!

A double standard in me believing that there are both faithful and unfaithful people in the world Scottishgirl? I'm sorry I don't quite follow what you mean?

With regards to this job and relationships, well that is down to the individual and their conscience really. Css seemed to be asking (or at least I interpreted it as her asking) whether or not she should still believe in love and romance, even after all she has seen doing this job. My personal belief is that she should, others of course are free to disagree (and I'm sure many will )

I'm with you on the frying pan though!

of course there is love and romance around, its just harder for us to see it I think.

Are men REALLY so bad for using our service?  Its us as women that perceive it as being 'bad' isn't it?

My hubby and I were swingers and he has been open enough to say if the opportunity arose ( a woman answers the door in a negligee and seduces him - he's a postman BTW) he's not going to turn it down.  I wouldn't 'frying pan' him for that as he would tell me but if I found out he'd used my hard earned cash to visit a WG or had an affair (even worse) yup... I'd have the greatest pleasure in making him suffer!

And I loved 'pretty woman' ...........

Since doing this job I've began to think all men are absolute **nts and I'd never trust a man again. But having said that one of my sons and his girlfriend are soooooooooo in love and soooo romantic and even while they've been apart and on web cam together 24/7 I know they've never had cam sex or shown each other their bits.
I drove him to the airport yesterday for her return from the US and it was just the most romantic, cutest thing I ever did see. The love light in their eyes as they hugged and kissed.....awwwwwwwww, I melted.
So thanks to them I'm sure love and romance does exist still!

But we obviously get to see all the sleaze balls as that's the nature of our job.

I think you develop a bit of a cynical attitute towards men and relation ship in this job (which makes total sense as you are dealing 80% of the times with cheats). But like another poster said not all men cheat and there's a lot of good ones out there.

In my case I started dating a client a year ago (which is very rare because I have a strict policy about NOt dating clients and I've always been very good at sticking to it). I wasn't too much into him but he was a really cool and funny guy (I guess he caught me on a "weak day" lol.. And he makes me laugh. A lot. The fact he is really handsome played a part lol). I told him I didn't want to get in a relationship so I limited our dates to twice a month and never let him sleep at my place nor I ever stayed to sleep at his (he's single by the way). Now this has been going on for a year (already!) and the fact that I'm so "stand-offish" has him intrigued  and wanting to see me more. But I "sticked to my guns" and kept him at distance . The problem is that at this point  we've  developed a friendship and i feel confident enough talking him about my job, how i feel about it, my personal life etc.... Dating a sex worker is totally new to him and my impression is that he's  coming to terms with it. He's informed he he wants to take it "to the next level" but I met him thru work so I'm taking him with a HUGE pinch of salt. I'm not sure I want to take it to the next level (besides: I'm just happy the way things are!).

Maybe I'm not romantic, maybe the job has made me bitter, maybe I'm not meant to be in a relationship or maybe I'm just "not that much into him" lol...  I guess I'll stay the way I am and see were this goes. I'm in no rush.

Any feedback will be appreciated  

shit I have accidentally started a new thread topic because the session got timed out mid rant! mods please merge with the original "romance" thread . sorry! 

Done

I log in here almost every day, read the new posts and mostly log off again. I think this site is an absolute treasure!
I've gleaned so much information that's helped me more than I can say and I thank you all.
However, unless I need guidance and support or I have anything  constructive to say on a certain topic, tend to stay in the background, as I'm relatively new to the job and usually find that most, if not all of my concerns are voiced by the more experienced of you;-)
Having read this thread and responding posts, I felt a need to put my thoughts out for an airing!
From what I've experienced so far, the 'family man' seems to be our main bread and butter. I often think that if it wasn't for the likes of us, so many of these guys would have a mistress on the side. What would that mean?
1. Emotional blackmail from said mistresses
2. Anxiety, stress for the guy, trying to juggle 2 lives
3. Risk of mistress 'spilling the beans' to his family
4. Family's heartbreak, distress, pain if they found out
... The guy loves his wife and family, she loves him. They've been together for 20yrs or so. They don't have a great deal of passion any more maybe, but they'd lie down and die for each other or their kids.
His physical needs outway hers, he needs sex... come and see your local friendly escort. No harm done;-)
The guy has more love and respect for his family than maybe you think? Isn't it the one's who take a mistress who are the real selfish, thoughtless gits?

Wileycoyote.x