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EvaBeeva

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Robbery - How do you cope?
« on: 14 December 2011, 05:37:55 pm »
I've been looking to move to an area close to a friend of mine, only today she warned me to be careful.  Apparently she was robbed at knife point a few months ago, then shortly afterwards another girl was robbed at gun point!  Neither girl reported it to the police.

I've noticed (while not noticing) that text msg warning messages have been coming more frequently on my phone and it's starting to worry me. 

If a girl is robbed can she go to the police and still remain anonymous?  I wouldn't like my details along with my profession splashed all over my public records :-\  Are the police even interested? 

Do we have an 'Ugly Mugs' in the UK or anything similar so as to record the details of the assailants?  It seems unbelievable that in a country where prostitution is legal girls still can't trust the police! 
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Re: Robbery - How do you cope?
« Reply #1 on: 14 December 2011, 05:55:53 pm »
People do bad things because they don't think there will be consequences.

Yes, you can go to the police and they should be interested in the crime, not what you do. If you have to remain anonymous, there may be a sex work project in the area with an anonymous reporting scheme and there's always the Crimestoppers charity.

There are local Ugly Mugs and a national scheme should be running soon - it's recently been funded.

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Re: Robbery - How do you cope?
« Reply #2 on: 14 December 2011, 06:59:35 pm »
I was robbed last month, and went straight to the police. They were very understanding about it, and didn't seem to give a damn what I was doing. I simply stated that I was a masseuse, and that seemed enough for them. They are more concerned about the violent psycho that may attack someone else  >:( which is a good thing. I have always worried about reporting anything 'work-related' to the police, but they were actually really good about it.
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Re: Robbery - How do you cope?
« Reply #3 on: 15 December 2011, 09:38:49 am »
Wow, I'm so relieved.  There are only a couple of people in my life who know what I do and I wish to keep it that way.

I'm still thinking we need some kind of mediation service, someone to be a buffer between the girls and the police as girls still get arrested.  I know one of the speakers during Slutwalk recently had a LOT to say on that subject.  

If there was such a service do you think girls would use it?
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Re: Robbery - How do you cope?
« Reply #4 on: 15 December 2011, 10:12:03 am »
Hi Eva I would like to share my experience with the police yesterday to hopefully put your mind at rest. I have been harassed by my neighbour in relation to my job. Things came to a head yesterday after he took photos of me from the internet and put them on public display with a rather nasty message for everyone in the street to see.

I had had enough of this bully boy and got my friend to come up,photograph the evidence and took it straight to the police. Now I live in a really small town so was rather apprehensive about going to the police, but I honestly can say that they handled the situation perfectly - in fact I cannot praise them highly enough.

As long as you are working within the law IE registered self employed you have nothing to worry about. Its the same in life generally, bully's pray on the weak, but if we stand up to them (the right way) then we have nothing to fear and their power is taken away.

Axxx

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Re: Robbery - How do you cope?
« Reply #5 on: 15 December 2011, 10:18:12 am »
I only have one little thing to share on this subject and I dont think it should stop anyone going to the police but if you do go to the police and the case goes to court then you must be prepared for it to be in the papers somewhere, especially if it is a smaller town.
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« Reply #6 on: 15 December 2011, 10:33:06 am »
In many larger cities it is possible to do third party reporting often where there are specialist WG services. I'm uncertain as to whether this covers all areas of crime but certainly assault/intimidation/stalking by clients is covered so I would think robbery would be also.
However this isn't much help is you can't access specialist services like this.
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« Reply #7 on: 15 December 2011, 01:52:36 pm »
I agree with what previous people have said about going to the police. I'd say it's something you probably should do.
   I haven't been robbed in a while, firstly because my other half is often nearby (as in either in the next room or in his flat next door) and also because he often has his wooden baseball bat with him.

  Once or twice some guy has tried to rob me when my other half was just in the other room, in came my other half and out went the arsehole trying to rob me, carrying only what he brought in.

   But a few years ago I was robbed a few times and almost raped at knife point too.

Definitely worth talking to the police. If you don't you are taking a gamble.
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Re: Robbery - How do you cope?
« Reply #8 on: 15 December 2011, 04:29:53 pm »
My policy has always been that I am not doing anything illegal, am registered as self-employed and so would go to the police should a crime be commited against me.

I think many commit crimes against sex workers because they think we won't be able to approach the police. I do know of girls who have been attacked and not reported, for fear of being outed to family and friends. Trouble is that person could go on to attack another person.
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« Reply #9 on: 18 December 2011, 11:27:49 pm »
Actually my husband knows I'm worried and so sent me this tonight :D
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Re: Robbery - How do you cope?
« Reply #10 on: 18 December 2011, 11:33:54 pm »
Oooo that is useful! Thanks for sharing!
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« Reply #11 on: 19 December 2011, 09:16:29 am »
Quote from: EvaBeeva on 18 December 2011, 11:27:49 pm
Actually my husband knows I'm worried and so sent me this tonight :D

"Use your pepper spray only when it is justified (i.e. your getting robbed, your being beat up, a republican slept with your wife),"  

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Re: Robbery - How do you cope?
« Reply #12 on: 19 December 2011, 10:31:51 am »
Sounds like a good idea, but check the legalities of carrying/using it (I'm not saying it is or it isn't, I honestly haven't a clue, but I know there's some mace-like stuff you're not allowed to use)

I'm stopping before this turns into a rant about how you should be allowed to kill burglars/attackers/trespassers...
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Re: Robbery - How do you cope?
« Reply #13 on: 19 December 2011, 11:04:34 am »
Truth is  I don't know how I'd react.
And as with any weapon, the perp will be more used to violence than you
and as a result take it and use it on you!
And carrying it is classed as an offensive weapon in the UK.
(Which is just wrong, a person should be allowed to arm to protect themselves from evil people who mean us harm.
Response times' mean the police certainly won't be there to.
Self defence weapons and appropriate training in their use should be allowed,
but they're not. Thanks nanny-State.  ::))

Self-assurance can go a long way to convincing a perp you are too much trouble.
Self defence classes are specifically good for this.
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Re: Robbery - How do you cope?
« Reply #14 on: 19 December 2011, 02:14:31 pm »
I have heard of pepper sprays that are advertised as legal in the UK.  False advertising.  The police will still charge you for carrying an offensive weapon if they find it on you.  I used to work in a pub, and carried my own waiters friend, as is the norm here for bar staff and was warned to ONLY carry it if I was going to and from work and to make sure I never left it in my bag at other times.  Have to be careful with these things, even if you have no intention of considering it as a weapon.

I only know this because I have several personal contacts within all the emergency services (having been a part of one in a previous life) and probably would have been fooled by some random adding the word 'legal' myself had it not been for these friends advising me when I first moved to the city.
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