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General Category => Questions and Answers => Topic started by: Katrina on 29 July 2021, 11:58:58 am
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HOpe no one minds the question
Again I have gad a couple of enquires about BDSM and allowing myself to be restrained, tied up.
I note from looking at verious ads on AW and others lots of girls offer rstraint and BDSM as a service, how do you deal with such bookings please.
OK got a few more but for now leave it their
Thanks if anyone responds!
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The short answer is, if you're new and have no experience of BDSM (and even if you do, it's unlikely to be with random strangers who found you shortly beforehand on a general prossie site), forget it. I've been working and offering varying sub services for a lot of years and I would never allow a punter to use restraints or ties on me unless I could get out of them very easily, and even then I'd want my security within earshot which you're unlikely to manage if you're only doing outcalls
Ir's worth remembering that if you're new you will get every dickhead for miles trying to talk you into doing this sort of stupid shit, because they know you're green and therefore less likely to laugh and hang up than the rest of us. Most of them will be harmless timewasters, but some won't be and you don't want to run into them.
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Don't let anyone do anything like that to you especially if you have only just started out, also don't let some prick talk you into doing that stuff by telling you 'all the girls do it'. If it's something you want to do a bit down the line make sure you do your research and so on.
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I only allow restraints on me once I have seen a guy a few times and built up some trust otherwise I'd never do this with someone I've never met.
There are lots of lovely clients but a few very bad ones too who abuse and Rob.
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There are lots of lovely clients but a few very bad ones too who abuse and Rob.
Yeah, definitely don't see Rob. He's a twat ;D
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Yeah, definitely don't see Rob. He's a twat ;D
Hehe, sorry I couldn't help chuckling at this ;D
Yes, make sure you're comfortable with the person doing it. I've only had one serious BDSM session but the guy was experienced and took notice when I told him to stop something.
I usually tell people I'm not into anything heavy if they enquire and that I prefer fun and playful - same with when I do spanking. I also will try and make sure I can see slightly if blindfolded and can wriggle out of my restraints.
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I would never, absolutely never, let a guy use restraints that I couldn't get out of.
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I wouldn't let a client tie me up, except one or two who have been with me for ages and ages, but even then I'd be nervous.
Recreationally during sex I've allowed it but not with clients.
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I do occasional sub bookings including restraints, however I don't do rope as it's too easy for it to go wrong and I don't do handcuffs or locking restraints. I always agree the scenario with the client, have a safe word and I have a friend in the flat in case of problems.
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I'd never either, unless I'd seen them for years and totally trusted them. I had one potential client asking for a bit of wrestling before intercourse and had initially said yes because he had good reviews but decided to cancel after worrying that anything could go wrong. It's not worth it :(