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« on: 29 March 2017, 07:22:07 pm »
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Amanda-X

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Re: Reported to social services need other WG mums advice?
« Reply #1 on: 29 March 2017, 08:24:00 pm »
You can either be honest with them or deny it. I have had malicious reports to several agencies due to my relentless ex. He phoned the police & told them what I do (Not sure what he expected from them?)  Hes also reported me to my landlord, told him I was running a brothel  ???
Thank god my son is a adult now and doesn't live at home anymore or I'm sure i would have had a report to social services too. But as my son is no longer living at home my ex chose to send him a link to my profile. My son sent me a message about it to which i admitted what i do as I'm fed up of my ex's persistent attempts to bring me down. Hes failed in all areas other than helped to build up evidence against himself so I can now start harrassment proceedings against him which the police advised me to do. Regarding social services you need to find out what the concerns are they have as you said you don't do escorting while your son is with you. Its hard for the social services to prove anything when your escort profiles are internet based. Photos are continuously getting stolen from the public domain so they will have problems proving what you do if you choose to deny everything. If they become a problem then Seek legal advice. Good luck  :)

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Re: Reported to social services need other WG mums advice?
« Reply #2 on: 29 March 2017, 08:32:19 pm »
Thanks. I just don't even know what to do right now. I think denying is best. Just have no idea who reported me and saw the add.

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Re: Reported to social services need other WG mums advice?
« Reply #3 on: 29 March 2017, 08:41:00 pm »
Thats problem when profiles are on the internet its only a matter of time before someone recognises you. I removed all my face pics from my profile too as its hard to be discrete with the amount of traffic on adultwork. Personally I would deny everything to social services as i wouldn't want to give them reason to make things difficult for me..  :) 

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Re: Reported to social services need other WG mums advice?
« Reply #4 on: 29 March 2017, 08:45:07 pm »
I think other SPs will have more hands on knowledge than me, but if you never have a client round while your son is there, I don't see that SS would have too much of a problem, especially if there were no exacerbating factor like alcohol, drugs or domestic abuse. Your son already has care arrangements, too.

Personally, I would be honest, as that's likely to stand you in better stead over the longer term.
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Re: Reported to social services need other WG mums advice?
« Reply #5 on: 29 March 2017, 08:47:56 pm »
In some situations it is better to be honest, than lie and be found out.

This may be one of them.

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Re: Reported to social services need other WG mums advice?
« Reply #6 on: 29 March 2017, 09:02:12 pm »
Yes i agree, maybe being honest would work better especially if you intend on doing escort work long term.

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Re: Reported to social services need other WG mums advice?
« Reply #7 on: 30 March 2017, 07:58:14 am »
Being honest is probably best? Otherwise they may assume you have something to hide when they inevitably find out.
I've always thought that so long as I am not escorting whilst my child is in the house and only during set times when they are at school one or two days a week then there is not an issue. People assume if you escort that you must have a drug or alcohol issue probably. Once they see that's not the case and you are a good mother they should be fine.

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Re: Reported to social services need other WG mums advice?
« Reply #8 on: 30 March 2017, 08:23:09 am »
Some people may go on 5 dates a week & have one night stands so it's not much different to that, as long as the kids aren't around when it's going on. I don't see why you need to worry too much. SS will just be coming for an informal chat, they have massive case loads don't they with horrific things to deal with so a lady earning money whilst her kids is away isn't an issue. I think being honest is the best thing to do, they wont be judgemental.


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Re: Reported to social services need other WG mums advice?
« Reply #9 on: 30 March 2017, 09:18:02 am »
Thanks. I just don't even know what to do right now. I think denying is best. Just have no idea who reported me and saw the add.

Could it be one of the neighbours, especially if your ad carried some facial photos before they were removed after ss got in touch?  Lots of escorts do show their facial photos even in their profile photos.  I gotta admire their determination not to care about what other people might think! 

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Re: Reported to social services need other WG mums advice?
« Reply #10 on: 30 March 2017, 10:09:54 am »
Are you living on local authority housing? If you are, your tenancy agreement most probably says that you are not allowed to use your house for business purposes. If that's the case, I would go with denying. If you're in private rented or own your home, I'd probably go with the truth.
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Re: Reported to social services need other WG mums advice?
« Reply #11 on: 30 March 2017, 01:24:41 pm »
Just a thought but could it be your mum? Could she be trying to keep your son long term...People can become particularly vicious when it comes to children or money. I would seek some legal advice asap.

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Re: Reported to social services need other WG mums advice?
« Reply #12 on: 30 March 2017, 01:40:15 pm »
I would stop worrying about who reported you. It's bound to make you feel paranoid. It could be anyone whow is concerned about your child, including your mother or your partner (or the child's father, if that's not your current partner), a neighbour or a friend, even a client who has seen toys or pictures around the house. They may have the best intention of protecting your child rather than harming you. It's very well to say you only work when your son is away from home, but I have had punters turn up out of the blue when drunk, horny or just plain selfish, and there is not much one can do about it.

Important is how you deal with the problem. Being honest is best, but there is a way of phrasing "honest" so it doesn't bite you in the bum. I would get in touch with Citizen's Advice, either in person, by phone or via email, and ask where you stand and how you should respond. I know it's a massive pain in the arse, but somebody thinks they are looking out for a vulnerable child, and that's better than the whole neighbourhood turning a blind eye while kids are neglected, as is so often the case.
Just find out how to deal with it, and things should be ok.
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Re: Reported to social services need other WG mums advice?
« Reply #13 on: 30 March 2017, 04:56:29 pm »
I'm sure if they had real concerns they would be around in a flash !

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Re: Reported to social services need other WG mums advice?
« Reply #14 on: 30 March 2017, 09:44:28 pm »
I worked in a as department for 8 years and they do take issue with working from the home the children dwell or visit.  As they see it as a client can turn up anytime and this puts children at risk.

They have no issues with women who have children working as escorts, but it cannot be in the family home. 

My advice would be, to act vague about it.  See what they know first before you admit or deny anything.  As if they catch you lying they won't believe anything you say.  Lots of ladies have been reported by ex bf's or nasty neighbours so don't fret they just have to follow up on any reports made. 

If you have deleted your face pics on profiles now, maybe do the thing with google that deletes links to deleted or backdated so that it can't ever be found.