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ladyjennaj

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« on: 23 July 2011, 01:33:36 pm »
Is it possible to have a relationship when you're escorting?

I broke up with my long-term boyfriend this morning, because he kicked off about me working. I met him whilst on the job - he is an ex-client - so he knows what I do. I'm frustrated, because I have always been honest with him. He only recently started getting jealous - checking my phone, questioning why I'm wearing make-up, etc. I finished with him this morning, and I don't regret it, but I am disappointed.

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« Reply #1 on: 23 July 2011, 03:57:25 pm »
I would never ever date a client and I think that if I was to ever get into a relationship 1. I would find it too hard to keep it a secret and 2. I wouldn't want to be with someone who was ok with me doing this type of work.
I tell all my clients that I'm lesbian and straight for pay, stops them dead in their tracks if they try to ask any relationship questions x

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« Reply #2 on: 23 July 2011, 03:58:26 pm »
Is it possible to have a relationship when you're escorting?

I broke up with my long-term boyfriend this morning, because he kicked off about me working. I met him whilst on the job - he is an ex-client - so he knows what I do. I'm frustrated, because I have always been honest with him. He only recently started getting jealous - checking my phone, questioning why I'm wearing make-up, etc. I finished with him this morning, and I don't regret it, but I am disappointed.

His behaviour does sound odd tbh perhaps he himself has something to be guilty about and that was his way of deflecting it.

I am happily married myself

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« Reply #3 on: 23 July 2011, 04:36:37 pm »
I left the biz twice to be with clients ( 2) I fell in love with.   It happens more than people think.  We are only human after all and there are actually some really nice guys out there that participate.  Did I go looking for it - no way!  Although they never threw what I did in my face Im sure they had some complexes about it.  I quite the biz to be with them but I was always fantasizing about coming back ( weird right?).  I just loved the thrill and excitement of getting paid for shagging!   
With the first client/BF I broached the subject of going back to work because I wanted my own money ------ and also maybe to test him.   He was reticent at first and then agreed.  That was something I could never understand.  How could a guy who professed to love me so much let me shag other guys (even if it was just for money) knowing that I had fallen for him doing the same thing?
Maybe your guy is worried that because of the way you met you could fall in love with another client just as easily
Seriously though, you need to think of yourself first and foremost!

ladyjennaj

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« Reply #4 on: 23 July 2011, 06:06:54 pm »
It;s the fact he wanted me to stop straight away, even though I didn't have any other income. He was prepared for me to lose my house and everything to make himself feel better x

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« Reply #5 on: 23 July 2011, 07:42:20 pm »
I haven't been doing this long, but my partner is utterly fine with it. It is probably rare in a guy to be okay with it, but they do exist! We were friends for about 5 years, and I started working after getting with him. Sometimes he feels a little left out if I am being taken somewhere nice by a client because he is unemployed and can't really treat me that way. However, we talk about everything, and he is very involved in every stage of bookings. I tell him about all enquiries, he made my website, he helps me get ready etc. I think making sure we communicate about it is the thing that helps us. Also, every time I have a booking we have a mini-celebration (which are becoming mini-er the more I get!) which I think helps remind him it is him I want to come home to.

Anyhow, this is all just personal stuff, but we find it works so it is possible! :)
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« Reply #6 on: 23 July 2011, 07:49:54 pm »
I would never ever date a client and I think that if I was to ever get into a relationship 1. I would find it too hard to keep it a secret and 2. I wouldn't want to be with someone who was ok with me doing this type of work.
I tell all my clients that I'm lesbian and straight for pay, stops them dead in their tracks if they try to ask any relationship questions x

I always tell clients I don't want a boyfriend whilst doing this job and I prefer women. Escorting to me is like acting and all about the service - it never crosses into my personal life. I've never even considered a client as having relationship potential, however attractive, intelligent etc they are.

I can see why your ex was wary since you both met through escorting. Although, he should've looked for a compromise. One chick I know has always been upfront with her man about escorting. They've agreed on her doing it for 6 more months then finishing. But, I'm not sure I could finish this job for a boyfriend because I'd end up resenting him, having lost my independence/earning potential  :-\

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« Reply #7 on: 23 July 2011, 08:07:25 pm »
I have not long returned to the business after a 'business agreement' with a former client ended - he basically paid me to be his mistress for two years.  The money was good and it was fun while it lasted, but as for an actual, serious relationship whilst escorting - I don't think I could do it, and I really wouldn't want to, for the reason Dionne states above: I wouldn't be happy with a man who was happy with me shagging other men.

ladyjennaj

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« Reply #8 on: 23 July 2011, 08:43:55 pm »
I agree. I think it's stupid to date a client, and I really regret it now. I dont want to stop, and have no intention of stopping, because I pride myself on my independence and ability to earn good money. I think I was lonely and had a weak moment, but I've learnt my lesson now. I've removed his number and contact from my phone, but he is asking for me to 'come back.' I think he's just extremely insecure, and although I feel sorry for him, I refuse to lose my independence for a relationship.

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« Reply #9 on: 24 July 2011, 04:33:08 pm »
I agree with most of the opinions above.

It's a shame in a way because guys are doomed if they do and doomed if they don't eg;
I couldn't begin to trust or respect a man if he happily waved me off to my whoring each night ( no matter how feisty or one-minded I am, I still want to be * protected* by my man  :-\ ) but on the other hand - How dare he even suggest I give up a fabulously entertaining and lucrative profession that I truly enjoy - ( and most likely one at that I was enjoying with himself at the time we met.. ;) )  So, they aren't the problem, it's me ( geting a mad dejavu as I type this!  8) )

So for me it is a complete no-no whilst I am Escorting and I have no immediate plans to give up something that brings fun, passion, friendship and a healthy financial status.
I like my men in small doses for the moment and an hour or 2 a couple of times a month is plenty for now!  ;D

ladyjennaj

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« Reply #10 on: 24 July 2011, 09:52:52 pm »
That is exactly my dilemma!

I don't want him to be happy about the escorting, but I also don't want him to tell me to stop. He can't really win...but that doesn't excuse his attempts at being a control freak and going through my phone. I don't like having a man around me all the time either, and he was exceptionally needy. I love my own space, and I like him ALOT, but I'm not prepared to give up my lucrative career either. I love what I do, and wouldn't change it for the world...

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« Reply #11 on: 26 July 2011, 08:28:39 pm »
Ive had 4 relationships with clients & to me it just doesn't work.  They were ok at first then they slowly changed. If they luv you they shouldn't want you working doing this but I will not give this up for no-one till I want to.

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ladyjennaj

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« Reply #12 on: 27 July 2011, 03:49:44 pm »
So realistically, us escorts need to be single. For our own sanity.
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« Reply #13 on: 27 July 2011, 04:20:21 pm »
I have been escorting for two years now and it is hard to find love, i have been with my boyfriend for just over a year now, while we were dating i just said i was a dancer, but the truth came out in the end, he is such a great guy and one day i just want to belong to him only x
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« Reply #14 on: 28 July 2011, 12:02:26 am »
So realistically, us escorts need to be single. For our own sanity.
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Not necessarily. Not everyone feels unloved if their partner isn't jealous, and as mentioned in this thread there are people who can genuinely handle being with a hooker. The chance of two people who can deal with this kind of relationship finding each other and then finding that they fancy each other is pretty small, though.