Author Topic: Relationships. (Read 5192 times)

River · « **Reply #15 on:** 30 July 2011, 01:37:18 pm »

It's nice to have a special person.
My partner says I'm 'special'.
But they say this with a sarcy voice!

Pearl · « **Reply #16 on:** 31 July 2011, 12:20:20 am »

This is my only thing that is tormenting me in these last mounth, I told my boyfriend about my decision, we had a long dispute but now he agrees dispite that I can feel him worried sometime

ladyjennaj · « **Reply #17 on:** 04 August 2011, 11:26:15 am »

I have to admit, escorting is much easier when you're single. There is alot less stress and guilt that way, but I will not write-off relationships completely. I'm sure the right one will come along, eventually.

Yorkshire Lass · « **Reply #18 on:** 17 August 2011, 03:51:21 pm »

I have been with my partner (now husband) for over 10yrs now. We got into the swinging scene about 3yrs ago now and he loves to see me with other men. When I brought up the subject of possibly making money from sex just over a year ago he helped me with finding out lots of info (I'm sure it was him who found the Saafe site) and he acts as my buddy.
He loves hearing about my clients and the places I've seen them. Though he is disappointed I don't get as much sex from my clients as from my Fuck Buddies in the swinging scene - I never look shagged when I get home ;-)

Lorelei · « **Reply #19 on:** 17 August 2011, 06:03:57 pm »

I was in a relationship when I started escorting earlier this year and still am. We have always been good friends and my boyfriend accepts me as I am and I don't feel bothered in the slightest by him not being jealous, the opposite actually I am grateful for his understanding love and frienship.

ana30 · « **Reply #20 on:** 17 August 2011, 08:05:54 pm »

My question is...how would you feel dating a guy who has sex with women in exchange for money? Would you be OK with it? I think it would make me paranoid and unless I'm mad in love with the guy I wouldn't do it. Too much of a hassle. So basically I'm saying I wouldn't date myself and I guess that's the reason I'm single.

bells · « **Reply #21 on:** 18 August 2011, 10:55:50 am »

Hi Jennaj while I have no workjng experience I do have plenty on the relationship front including possessive boyfriends. I hope you are ok and are getting this guy out of the system ok if you know what I mean. Though more we care about someone the more open we are to being hurt. My last bf had drink issues - he liked it but would get into trouble when drunk and would start fights with anyone that so much as breathed in my direction.
It was difficult as I had strong feelings for him so was willing to try anything such as not keeping in touch with male friends but the more I gave the more control he wanted. In the end he left me in a mess to go back to his ex that he had q child with.

Ellie_e · « **Reply #22 on:** 18 August 2011, 11:13:21 am »

I thought that I'd always be single while I was working. I did't feel it would be fair to lie to a man that I was dating about my job, but I did't feel that I could ever tell the truth - after all who'd want to date an escort?! Also, I thought it would be too hard to juggle work and a bf.

However, I've recently started seeing someone after being 3 yrs single. He knew what I did and still asked me out, which really surprised me. He genuinely seems to be OK with what I do - I can't really understand it but he just says 'It's what you do, not who you are'. Like I do, he knows it's only a job. He is also incredible supportive.

There are boundaries. It's best not to talk about clients too much. I also don't see him on days that I've been working. Personally I am not that bothered about monogamy so much and have told him that I really don't care if he sleeps with other ladies, so long as it's a) protected and b) casual.

I would never date a client, despite having had some clients that I got on really well with.

ladyjennaj · « **Reply #23 on:** 22 August 2011, 01:44:49 am »

Quote from: bells on 18 August 2011, 10:55:50 am

Hi Jennaj while I have no workjng experience I do have plenty on the relationship front including possessive boyfriends. I hope you are ok and are getting this guy out of the system ok if you know what I mean. Though more we care about someone the more open we are to being hurt. My last bf had drink issues - he liked it but would get into trouble when drunk and would start fights with anyone that so much as breathed in my direction.
It was difficult as I had strong feelings for him so was willing to try anything such as not keeping in touch with male friends but the more I gave the more control he wanted. In the end he left me in a mess to go back to his ex that he had q child with.

Thanks darling! I'm doing much better thanks

I'm sorry to hear you had problems with guys too; it's just not fun.

bells · « **Reply #24 on:** 22 August 2011, 09:27:16 pm »

Glad to here things are getting better. Guys who would live with them but who would pay the bills without them lol. At the moment I cannot foresee dating anyone while I am working. I do find going back to an empty house lonely which along with satisfying my womanly needs is one of the plus points I of working for me. However I am enjoying the independence of being on my own and I really couldn't stomach a relationship at the moment. I have great friends but they are all loved up which is another reason it is actually nice to have another outlet to meet people/get out of the house while paying for my distance uni course. I also think it I probably safer than be picked up by random guys at pubs & clubs when drunk which I had started to do. I am sure you are better off without him and when the timing is right you will find a guy that will treat you with respect and love.

ladyjennaj · « **Reply #25 on:** 24 August 2011, 11:53:25 am »

I absolutely adore the independence, and don't think I'd willingy give it up for anyone. He'd have to be very special...

Emelie · « **Reply #26 on:** 27 August 2011, 06:17:04 pm »

Quote from: Anika Mae on 28 July 2011, 12:02:26 am

Quote from: ladyjennaj on 27 July 2011, 03:49:44 pm
So realistically, us escorts need to be single. For our own sanity.

Not necessarily. Not everyone feels unloved if their partner isn't jealous, and as mentioned in this thread there are people who can genuinely handle being with a hooker. The chance of two people who can deal with this kind of relationship finding each other and then finding that they fancy each other is pretty small, though.

The chances are not necessarily that slim. I can of course only speak from my own experience, but I've met two lovely people in the span of two years who I dated and who were okay with this job (met them in my normal life outside escorting and I wasn't actively even trying to look for anyone, both great relationships and we broke up for other reasons). Then again I never go for the jealous type anyway, since I'm not a jealous person myself and I find jealousy emotionally draining rather than being a sign of love. I could also date a male escort, no problem, I think it would be fun sharing stories about our clients

Pearl · « **Reply #27 on:** 28 August 2011, 05:05:11 pm »

Quote from: Magnolia on 27 August 2011, 06:17:04 pm

Quote from: Anika Mae on 28 July 2011, 12:02:26 am
Quote from: ladyjennaj on 27 July 2011, 03:49:44 pm

The chances are not necessarily that slim. I can of course only speak from my own experience, but I've met two lovely people in the span of two years who I dated and who were okay with this job (met them in my normal life outside escorting and I wasn't actively even trying to look for anyone, both great relationships and we broke up for other reasons). Then again I never go for the jealous type anyway, since I'm not a jealous person myself and I find jealousy emotionally draining rather than being a sign of love. I could also date a male escort, no problem, I think it would be fun sharing stories about our clients

Dear Magnolia,
I can say that you are lucky, unfortunately It was not the same for me. I broke up with my boyfriend few weeks ago due to my idea to do this job. Initially we had a long dispute, then he said that everything could have gone well but dispite this, everyday spent with him was a drama... he used to check me all the time (mobile, diary, etc...). When I notice that he was spending more time with his friends, I realized that everything would have gone wrong.

Ace · « **Reply #28 on:** 28 August 2011, 06:42:56 pm »

Well my experience of being in relationships whilst being a sex worker is this.

I had two partners when I started working (they knew about eachother). One was a guy i'd been seeing for quite a while, the other a sex worker that I had recently started a relationship with.

I now only have one partner. I had to leave the guy because of a few things but sex work defiantly was one of the main reasons, he felt "unsafe" seeing a sex worker even though we'd happily been polyamorous for a good while, being paid for to seemed to change things.

With the person I'm still in a relationship with, sex work rarely comes up as an issue, obviously we're protective of each other and want each other to be emotionally and physically safe but that's as far as it goes there, I can't imagine either of us asking the other to stop working!

As far as dating clients goes, I have a pretty strict rule that I simply won't do it, if I feel that lines are being blurred I'll stop working with them.

And dating non sex workers. So far i've found it's rare that people are totally ok with it, and i guess i can handle that. As long as they can respect my chosen way of making money I can accept that they might find it tough sometimes.

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